I was fingering my girlfriend for about 50min. Did everything right, but she never got her orgasm. I had to stop because my hands were about to fall off. She said that she was at a point of orgasm for last 20min but it just went away every time. The thing is that she just started taking birth control pills and I was wondering if this has something to do with it.
Thank you
Sat, 07/22/2006 - 18:47
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Where's orgasm?
Well, you obviously were not doing everything right or she may have gotten there. My suspicion is that this has more to do with her than with you. Sometimes it simply is not there for us women. Is she generally orgasmic?
It is highly doubtful that going on the pill had anything to do with this. Possible, but doubtful. See what happens through a few cycles before she decides how adjusted she is to this pill.
I wouldnt have thought the pills would have any effect on sexual pleasure, but then again, I'm not a doctor. Maybe someone like Brandye could clear that one up. It would probably be more to do with her not being in the right state of mind. If this has only happened once, then it may just be a one off. It could be a combination of factors such as state of mind and relaxation. I wouldn't worry about it at the moment, but, assuming your gf has orgasmed before, it might be worth seeing a professional if it is a regular occurence.
I hope this has helped
I agree with Brandye. Is this something you've done together enough times that you know what she likes and what gets her off? If not, you may not have been doing everything right. What works for one woman doesn't always work for another.
Sometimes, it feels great and you feel like you are right on the brink and the guy could move his finger just a teensy tiny fraction and phlllbbbt! It's gone! I know I've also experienced it where I've been right at the edge, I'm talking the big O is juuuust beginning, and they change their hand position and it subsides and I just can't seem to get back to that point. Frustrating!
Also, there are times when I can just tell it ain't gonna happen. It feels good and feels like I could, but the big O just seems elusive. Very frustrating! I don't push it at those times. It's not going to happen every single time for women.
[QUOTE=Fluffer]IAlso, there are times when I can just tell it ain't gonna happen. It feels good and feels like I could, but the big O just seems elusive. Very frustrating! I don't push it at those times. It's not going to happen every single time for women.[/QUOTE]
Agreed I have felt like this before too... and usually I just say... tonights not the night.. instead of us both wearing ourselves out for nothing.