Let me rephrase this for clarification: "if I rub certain areas of the penis...."
These areas will not generally become more or less sensitive over time. We all have "hot spots", that we like to rub and that help build our arousal and then ultimately trigger an orgasm. As noted in an article on masturbation found at the top of the Index, perhaps the A#1 hotspot is the Frenulum. Others are generally randomly distributed around the Corona Rim. Some guys have one, some more than one, it just depends upon how you were originally "wired".
The shaft can have one or more very sensitive spots that are very reactive--so much so that if they are rubbed too much, they become raw and a scab develops. This can be good and bad, good in that we still yearn to rub the spot, bad in that if we do, and too vigorously, the scab will loosen or come off, delaying healing. It is good in that when we are very aroused, there is a fine line between pain and pleasure, and the slight discomfort of rubbing the scab covering the hot spot spot will actually be a big turn on. So, if this is happening or has happened, or might happen in the future, a guy has to decide how to manage his pain and pleasure vs. letting this spot alone so it will heal quickly.
Generally, if you have a favorite spot to touch and this helps build and/or eventually triggers your orgasm, no permanent damage will occur. The area may be too sensitive to touch for a few hours or a day or so, but will eventually return to normal.
For boys new to masturbation, or for experienced guys who may not have done much if any self exploration, I suggest going on a hunt when you are very very aroused in order to find your particular hot spots. We already know that the Frenulum is "it" for most of us, yet how many do you have around the Corona Rim? One? Two? Three? Four? How does cupping your lubricated palm and rubbing it over the tip of your Glans help? Where are those special places along and around the shaft? Are any of these equally reactive to being rubbed with a dry fist as with lubricated fingers and a light grazing action? If you do not have the answers--have fun learning!
I have trouble getting my man to come when i give him a bj,but find it easier when combining this with a hj.He hasn't really told me of his hotspots,should i try to experiment with the techniques you suggest,to learn where he is most aroused,and pleasure him more beneficially .
I found that the best way to learn about his preferences was to watch him masturbate. That way you can see which hotspots are there and how he moves along those :) Oral can both have advantages (soft and wet) yet when it comes to more thorough pressure hands seem to do the trick. So I'd say combining makes it perfect :)
And watching really isn't as awkward as it sounds, at least: to me it wasn't awkward. My bf usually closes his eyes and never even knew how I was observing and making mental notes... until he was flabbergasted when I brought my knowledge into action. After he caught his breath again, he so wanted to know which manual I had read ;)
Let me rephrase this for clarification: "if I rub certain areas of the penis...."
These areas will not generally become more or less sensitive over time. We all have "hot spots", that we like to rub and that help build our arousal and then ultimately trigger an orgasm. As noted in an article on masturbation found at the top of the Index, perhaps the A#1 hotspot is the Frenulum. Others are generally randomly distributed around the Corona Rim. Some guys have one, some more than one, it just depends upon how you were originally "wired".
The shaft can have one or more very sensitive spots that are very reactive--so much so that if they are rubbed too much, they become raw and a scab develops. This can be good and bad, good in that we still yearn to rub the spot, bad in that if we do, and too vigorously, the scab will loosen or come off, delaying healing. It is good in that when we are very aroused, there is a fine line between pain and pleasure, and the slight discomfort of rubbing the scab covering the hot spot spot will actually be a big turn on. So, if this is happening or has happened, or might happen in the future, a guy has to decide how to manage his pain and pleasure vs. letting this spot alone so it will heal quickly.
Generally, if you have a favorite spot to touch and this helps build and/or eventually triggers your orgasm, no permanent damage will occur. The area may be too sensitive to touch for a few hours or a day or so, but will eventually return to normal.
For boys new to masturbation, or for experienced guys who may not have done much if any self exploration, I suggest going on a hunt when you are very very aroused in order to find your particular hot spots. We already know that the Frenulum is "it" for most of us, yet how many do you have around the Corona Rim? One? Two? Three? Four? How does cupping your lubricated palm and rubbing it over the tip of your Glans help? Where are those special places along and around the shaft? Are any of these equally reactive to being rubbed with a dry fist as with lubricated fingers and a light grazing action? If you do not have the answers--have fun learning!
I have trouble getting my man to come when i give him a bj,but find it easier when combining this with a hj.He hasn't really told me of his hotspots,should i try to experiment with the techniques you suggest,to learn where he is most aroused,and pleasure him more beneficially .
I found that the best way to learn about his preferences was to watch him masturbate. That way you can see which hotspots are there and how he moves along those :) Oral can both have advantages (soft and wet) yet when it comes to more thorough pressure hands seem to do the trick. So I'd say combining makes it perfect :)
And watching really isn't as awkward as it sounds, at least: to me it wasn't awkward. My bf usually closes his eyes and never even knew how I was observing and making mental notes... until he was flabbergasted when I brought my knowledge into action. After he caught his breath again, he so wanted to know which manual I had read ;)