Ok, I just need some quick advice because I'm quite new to this. My girlfriend of about a year and I have recently started experimenting with things below the waist (I know that's a long time, we're only 18 and taking it slow). Here is the situation: when I finger her she says that she wants me to go deeper but if I try that she says it hurts. Now, I think I'm obviously not putting my finger/s in the right place, so how do I get oriented down there, what is the correct place? Is it painful because she is a virgin (and doesn't masturbate)? I guess what I'm asking is, at which point on the vagina do I insert my fingers (yeah, I know absolutely nothing). Thanks for your help guys.
Thu, 10/25/2007 - 04:48
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Where to insert fingers? Help me out?
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> I think I'm obviously not putting my finger/s in the right place, so how do I get oriented down there, what is the correct place?
Here is one illustrated source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vulva
You can do a Google search for pictures and more detailed anatomical information.
> Is it painful because she is a virgin (and doesn't masturbate)? I guess what I'm asking is, at which point on the vagina do I insert my fingers (yeah, I know absolutely nothing).
The pain can be the result of one or more physical or emotional conditions.
* If her hymen is intact, poking it can be uncomfortable
* If the hymen is (mostly) intact, brushing a finger along side the membrane can be irritable
* The vaginal opening is generally tiny and can be uncomfortable when one or two fingers are inserted in the beginning.
* Nervousness or other emotions can cause muscle tension that can be uncomfortable when insertion is attempted.
Her discomfort has nothing to do with whether or not she masturbates or not, unless she is also trying to insert a finger or toy.
> I guess what I'm asking is, at which point on the vagina do I insert my fingers (yeah, I know absolutely nothing).
That's OK. That you are seeking information, now, is a good thing. What happened to Sex Ed in school or home (Just being nosy)?
First of all, the Vagina is the tunnel in which a penis or toy is inserted. It is also the birth canal. The Vulva is the area of a woman's anatomy that includes the Labia (lips) Majora (large), Minora (small), Clitoris (equiv. of Penis), and Urethra. It begins topside at the Pubic mound and extends down to the crotch ending on the other side of the vaginal opening. You then have the anus and between it and the vaginal opening in females and the scrotum in males, is an area of skin called the Peraneum.
> My girlfriend of about a year and I have recently started experimenting with things below the waist (I know that's a long time
No apology necessary. While it may be considered a long time in some circles, I believe you two are in a better circle. The better a couple know each other before sex of any sort is introduced into the relationship the greater the chance for success.
You can benefit from the articles listed in the Index. They have been prepared to answer the most common questions and concerns people have. Please read them individually or with your girlfriend. There are many things you need to know that you may not know you don't know.
Please feel free to ask questions. That's why the site exists.