Hey all,
I'd appriciate some help with a problem my girlfriend and I are having.
We've been together about 9 months now and have been doing it for a few months. Her mom is pretty laid back about it as long as she takes the pill and use condoms. The pill she is on is called 'Microgynon 30' that she takes once per day, except during her period. Now the thing is, it seems to stop her from getting horny at all which is really really frustrating for me, as I want it quite a bit, and for her, and she feels she doesn't please me because she rarely wants it. Sometimes its good, sometimes it just feels forced on her part, and shes just doing it to keep me happy. She does, however, get very horny during her period (when she isn't taking the pill), but we can't do it then (Well, we can, but neither of us really want to) for obvious reasons.
Another thing is that when we do it, it doesn't really affect her. She's wet, but has no awesome sexual feelings. She loves me rubbing her clit, but when it comes to actual penetration, she doesn't have any feeling from it.
Any advice, and how does the pill affect her?
Thanks to everyone in advance :)
- Boo.
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I recommend seeing her health care provider and discussing the matter with him/her. There are several kinds of pills available and it is probably worth trying one that has less effect on her. This may take some time.
As for making love during her period, you can do it during those days of least flow with just a towel under her. She can also use a Cervical cup or diaphragm other times.
Even when using an oral contraceptive and a condom, it is a wise couple who also uses a third method--vaginal foam.
If you feel you are not deriving enough friction by wearing a condom, spread some lubricant on the Glans only of the penis before rolling on the condom. This will give you some "wiggle room".
I hope this is of help.
I agree w/Doc.
The information you give can be side effects of the BCP...I would ask how long has she been taking it? If for 3 months, she should call the Prescriber/Gyn and discuss this since it's not abnormal to those who are new to BCP's often a change in chemical make up is a good fix.
Be kind and bear with her...
BCPs come in all kinds of formulations. She just has to find the right one for her system.
If she's not feeling it, then you're not hitting her 'hot spots'.
Read around the forum, we've discussed those 'hot spots' many times.