my bf and i have been goin out for a couple of months and we want to have sex. im a virgin, and so is he. ive heard that it will hurt, but idk. i know im ready and so is he. one problem- parents dont know. neither of ours do, for that matter. where should we have it? hes going to use condoms and lube. any tips? please? thanks :)
Mon, 06/28/2010 - 03:42
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where?
> my bf and i have been goin out for a couple of months and we want to have sex.
> i know im ready and so is he. one problem- parents dont know. neither of ours do, for that matter.
Please read the articles under this heading "SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE" listed in the Index, found at the top of the main screen.
> Maybe yes, maybe no, maybe just a twinge. Much depends on the following factors:
* the construction of the hymen
* how much of the membrane is intact
* how much pressure is applied to or alongside the hymen
* technique
* use of a lubricant
* becoming relaxed
* the choice of a sexual position
> where should we have it?
If the weather is good, how about under a tree in some field alongside a back road. Take a picnic meal and a couple of pillows.
Are there any hiking trails in the area? If so, how about off the beaten path?
A bed if nobody is going to interrupt you for three hours.
> hes going to use condoms and lube. any tips? please?
Yes! Please do not rely upon someone else for your protection. If you do not wish to become an unwed mother and have the future course of your life forever changed, then look out for and protect A#1--you by using the pill or some other form of highly reliable form of birth control.
Yes! If your boyfriend does not wish to become an unwed father and have the future course of his life forever changed, then he must look out for and protect A#1--himself.
Yes! The two of you should use a back up form of contraception. Use a spermicide in addition to the other two.
Yes! If you cannot go to the doctor for birth control, at least use the spermicide in addition to the condom.
Yes! Every girl/woman should have a gyn. exam prior to having intercourse for the first time in order to get questions asked and answered and to make sure all "systems" are go.
Please read all of the articles in the Index, together or separately, and discuss what you have learned. Knowledge is empowering.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
If you both are ready so I think you can do it.
He should use condoms because it's your first time.
He should use a condom and you should have vaginal spermicide in you - not because it is your first time but because you do not want a baby.