nothing wrong with that more so if your not getting any sex. How old are you by the way. this could be an issue depending on age and if you actually cant stop. But probably its nothing I masterabte quite often usually 1 time a day 7 days a week but I also have consistant sex.
im 35 yrs old..married with 3 kids..sex have def stopped quite a bit..she is always tired which i can understand cuz she works and has to take care of the kids when she comes home...but c'mon i work also and i try to help out as much as i can..i shouldnt have to fight for sex..makes me want to find someone who knows that im married and just want to have fun no strings attached..funny thing about it i want to get her off and not care if i get off..knowing that she is turned on turns me on..lucky for u have consitant sex! u should swing some my way lol joking...
[QUOTE=HornyAsAlwayz;264970]is masturbating like 2-3 times a day normal atleast 4 days out of th week?
i cant stop it[/QUOTE]
Yes, depending upon a person's age and how he is "wired", this amount is perfectly normal. Post pubescent boys generally masturbate every day or two and often up to four or so times a day. This frequency only lasts several weeks and then begins to taper off to some amount much less compelling and time consuming.
As a person ages and/or marries or otherwise has a relationship, the frequency with which he masturbates declines; however, it is important to understand there there is a difference between masturbation and the need to reduce stress and sexual tension--and, orgasms that result of the outward expression of the love two people have for one another.
It is not unusual to hear about a girlfriend or wife who makes love with her partner only to discover a short time later that he has maturbated. The results are the same, although, the means to that end is different. Stress can build up in men quickly throughout the day, so while making love at 9:00 in the morning and then masturbating three hours later often bothers women who wonder why she has not satisfied him. The two are not connected!
So, if you wish to masturbate each day, and/or multiple times per day, then do so. You cannot overdo it. If you attempt to climax more than your body is able, it will simply refuse to respond for a few hours.
I do suggest that you learn to manage your urges because if you are masturbating for the pure fun of it and then later in the day find that you must do so, again, to eliminate stress and sexual tension and discover that your body won't respond then you'll most likely be terribly antsy and agitated until you can climax. Also, if you are bothered by weak orgasms, then you should by all means back off and reduce the number of times you masturbate in a 24 hr. period. If you are OK with the quantity and intensity, then continue on....
[QUOTE=HornyAsAlwayz;264970]i shouldnt have to fight for sex. [/QUOTE]
If you are a responsible caring partner and carry your share of the household workload by taking care of the kids, doing the laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, etc., then you are on the right path.
That she is unable or unwilling to make love means that there is still something amiss with your marriage or the relationship. It has been said that if a relationship is working, sex is 10% of the reason; if the relationship is in trouble, sex is 90% of the cause. I suggest that the two of you sit down together alone and talk about what each of you perceives is wrong, what is troubling you, and to try and negotiate a solution and a plan for moving forward. You may need help. If so, seek a marriage counselor that you both feel comfortable talking with.
Lastly, how do you start to make love? Do you jump her bones? Do you put your arms around her, kiss a few times, and then get down to business?
My recommendation is to begin preparing her for what you hope will follow, early that morning before leaving for work, or, even the night before. You can telephone her sometime during the day and tell her you lover her, are looking forward to holding and cuddling her tonight, and nothing more. Make the call short, sweet, and hang up.
Once you do begin to fool around, have no more expectations than to express your love. If more follows, great! If more does not follow, then know two things: first, that you have pleasured her from all the necking and petting the two of you did; second, that you are laying the groundwork for more to follow at some future session. Before you can have meaningful sex, you have to (re)connect emotionally and this is why the make out sessions are so important to her. Fool around and make out for no less than half an hour before ever getting to the foreplay stage, not to mention intercourse. Women require this amount of time to become turned on and warmed up. Men benefit from all this time and attention as well.
You're normal masturbating as you are - so no problem.
Having to fight for sex? Maybe, you will have to. You might have to fight the internal policies regarding sex in her head and in your head. You're not entitled to sex - ever- whether married or not but the lack of sex can slowly erode away the love in a loving relationship. You can't demand sex.
However, in the absence of medical issues, your wife should be able to 'hang you out to dry' 2 to 3 times per week - at least. Stress and having too much to do and too few hours in which to do it will kill her desire. I'd recommend hiring a cleaning company to to do the housework once a week and instituting a parental hour -where the kids leave you two strictly alone together. (Easiest with teenage kids. They don't want to hang around you anyway)
Talk with her. Ask her how she feels about a specific point. Set up 'date nights'. Do not accept 'appeasement sex'. Etc. We've dealt with this topic many times. Look around for more information!
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;265031]You're normal masturbating as you are - so no problem.
Having to fight for sex? Maybe, you will have to. You might have to fight the internal policies regarding sex in her head and in your head. You're not entitled to sex - ever- whether married or not but the lack of sex can slowly erode away the love in a loving relationship. You can't demand sex.
However, in the absence of medical issues, your wife should be able to 'hang you out to dry' 2 to 3 times per week - at least. Stress and having too much to do and too few hours in which to do it will kill her desire. I'd recommend hiring a cleaning company to to do the housework once a week and instituting a parental hour -where the kids leave you two strictly alone together. (Easiest with teenage kids. They don't want to hang around you anyway)
Talk with her. Ask her how she feels about a specific point. Set up 'date nights'. Do not accept 'appeasement sex'. Etc. We've dealt with this topic many times. Look around for more information![/QUOTE]
i didnt mean fight like fist fight lol..just shouldnt have to get aggravated..
I never thought of fight as fight - banish the thought! But fight as in onvercome whatever is holding both of you back from having a wonderful sex life - the wrong attitudes re: sex, etc.
nothing wrong with that more so if your not getting any sex. How old are you by the way. this could be an issue depending on age and if you actually cant stop. But probably its nothing I masterabte quite often usually 1 time a day 7 days a week but I also have consistant sex.
im 35 yrs old..married with 3 kids..sex have def stopped quite a bit..she is always tired which i can understand cuz she works and has to take care of the kids when she comes home...but c'mon i work also and i try to help out as much as i can..i shouldnt have to fight for sex..makes me want to find someone who knows that im married and just want to have fun no strings attached..funny thing about it i want to get her off and not care if i get off..knowing that she is turned on turns me on..lucky for u have consitant sex! u should swing some my way lol joking...
lol I probably would if I knew yea and were attracted to yea
[QUOTE=HornyAsAlwayz;264970]is masturbating like 2-3 times a day normal atleast 4 days out of th week?
i cant stop it[/QUOTE]
Yes, depending upon a person's age and how he is "wired", this amount is perfectly normal. Post pubescent boys generally masturbate every day or two and often up to four or so times a day. This frequency only lasts several weeks and then begins to taper off to some amount much less compelling and time consuming.
As a person ages and/or marries or otherwise has a relationship, the frequency with which he masturbates declines; however, it is important to understand there there is a difference between masturbation and the need to reduce stress and sexual tension--and, orgasms that result of the outward expression of the love two people have for one another.
It is not unusual to hear about a girlfriend or wife who makes love with her partner only to discover a short time later that he has maturbated. The results are the same, although, the means to that end is different. Stress can build up in men quickly throughout the day, so while making love at 9:00 in the morning and then masturbating three hours later often bothers women who wonder why she has not satisfied him. The two are not connected!
So, if you wish to masturbate each day, and/or multiple times per day, then do so. You cannot overdo it. If you attempt to climax more than your body is able, it will simply refuse to respond for a few hours.
I do suggest that you learn to manage your urges because if you are masturbating for the pure fun of it and then later in the day find that you must do so, again, to eliminate stress and sexual tension and discover that your body won't respond then you'll most likely be terribly antsy and agitated until you can climax. Also, if you are bothered by weak orgasms, then you should by all means back off and reduce the number of times you masturbate in a 24 hr. period. If you are OK with the quantity and intensity, then continue on....
[QUOTE=HornyAsAlwayz;264970]i shouldnt have to fight for sex. [/QUOTE]
If you are a responsible caring partner and carry your share of the household workload by taking care of the kids, doing the laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, etc., then you are on the right path.
That she is unable or unwilling to make love means that there is still something amiss with your marriage or the relationship. It has been said that if a relationship is working, sex is 10% of the reason; if the relationship is in trouble, sex is 90% of the cause. I suggest that the two of you sit down together alone and talk about what each of you perceives is wrong, what is troubling you, and to try and negotiate a solution and a plan for moving forward. You may need help. If so, seek a marriage counselor that you both feel comfortable talking with.
Lastly, how do you start to make love? Do you jump her bones? Do you put your arms around her, kiss a few times, and then get down to business?
My recommendation is to begin preparing her for what you hope will follow, early that morning before leaving for work, or, even the night before. You can telephone her sometime during the day and tell her you lover her, are looking forward to holding and cuddling her tonight, and nothing more. Make the call short, sweet, and hang up.
Once you do begin to fool around, have no more expectations than to express your love. If more follows, great! If more does not follow, then know two things: first, that you have pleasured her from all the necking and petting the two of you did; second, that you are laying the groundwork for more to follow at some future session. Before you can have meaningful sex, you have to (re)connect emotionally and this is why the make out sessions are so important to her. Fool around and make out for no less than half an hour before ever getting to the foreplay stage, not to mention intercourse. Women require this amount of time to become turned on and warmed up. Men benefit from all this time and attention as well.
You're normal masturbating as you are - so no problem.
Having to fight for sex? Maybe, you will have to. You might have to fight the internal policies regarding sex in her head and in your head. You're not entitled to sex - ever- whether married or not but the lack of sex can slowly erode away the love in a loving relationship. You can't demand sex.
However, in the absence of medical issues, your wife should be able to 'hang you out to dry' 2 to 3 times per week - at least. Stress and having too much to do and too few hours in which to do it will kill her desire. I'd recommend hiring a cleaning company to to do the housework once a week and instituting a parental hour -where the kids leave you two strictly alone together. (Easiest with teenage kids. They don't want to hang around you anyway)
Talk with her. Ask her how she feels about a specific point. Set up 'date nights'. Do not accept 'appeasement sex'. Etc. We've dealt with this topic many times. Look around for more information!
[QUOTE=jessica roy;264981]lol I probably would if I knew yea and were attracted to yea[/QUOTE]
lol yea but ur to far away..but im attractive tho lol:p
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;265031]You're normal masturbating as you are - so no problem.
Having to fight for sex? Maybe, you will have to. You might have to fight the internal policies regarding sex in her head and in your head. You're not entitled to sex - ever- whether married or not but the lack of sex can slowly erode away the love in a loving relationship. You can't demand sex.
However, in the absence of medical issues, your wife should be able to 'hang you out to dry' 2 to 3 times per week - at least. Stress and having too much to do and too few hours in which to do it will kill her desire. I'd recommend hiring a cleaning company to to do the housework once a week and instituting a parental hour -where the kids leave you two strictly alone together. (Easiest with teenage kids. They don't want to hang around you anyway)
Talk with her. Ask her how she feels about a specific point. Set up 'date nights'. Do not accept 'appeasement sex'. Etc. We've dealt with this topic many times. Look around for more information![/QUOTE]
i didnt mean fight like fist fight lol..just shouldnt have to get aggravated..
I never thought of fight as fight - banish the thought! But fight as in onvercome whatever is holding both of you back from having a wonderful sex life - the wrong attitudes re: sex, etc.