[QUOTE=ninja;265347]when you're hooking up with a chic and you begin fingering her,
1. do you finger her to orgasm then have sex n' go for another orgasm or
2. do you just finger to arouse her then have sex? If so what if you notice didn't orgasm, then do you finger her after sex until she comes?[/QUOTE]

You can vary your script to suit. Variety is the spice of life. Not always doing things the same way all the time makes for interesting times.

1. Generally speaking etiquette dictates that your partner enjoy the first and last climax while you and/or her enjoy what happens in between, together.

2. Intercourse should only begin upon being invited to enter--and then only when each of you has become extremely aroused. That said, with many sexual positions, there is insufficient ongoing body rubbing to bring a woman to climax strictly from intercourse. What a wise, caring, skilled, lover will do is to reach around and finger his partner while stroking.

As with all things romantic, take your cues from her reactions and then adjust your plan to suit.

Plan A:
* First orgasm for her
* First orgasm for you (or your first, her next)
* etc.
* Last orgasm for her if it is her wish

There is an article on all this listed in the Index.