Well tonight my girlfriend and I were fooling around in my new car, and for some reason I just couldnt get my all star out to play. It took 45 minutes for me to get a semi erection and I needless to say was pissed:mad: . My girlfriend on the other hand thought it was funny, but she ended up a little disappointed in the end as well. So I've pretty much narrowed it down to two things. I was either focused on other things, I mean I did just get the coolest car anyone could ever own. Or I am no long physically attracted to my girl. She tried everything, rubbing,sucking, licking, fondeling everything. This is the first time I've ever had this happen so naturally I'm a little freaked. After I managed to get the flag at half mast we pretty much just gave up and I drove her home. On the ride home I called an old female friend and asked what could have gone wrong. She thinks it might have something to do with the energy drink I drank an hour before hand. I'm not too sure about her theory so let me know what you all think please.Also my other question is why am I so obsessed with cleaning myself? I shower twice daily, I shave my pubic region once a day, I wash my hair twice a day, I brush my teeth 3 times a day. I wash my hands anywhere from 6-10 times a day. I clean my room twice a day,I cut my hair once a week, I shave my facial hair every day, I constantly find myself looking in mirrors. My girlfriend thinks I have obsessive compulsive disorder because I do all this, but I think shes crazy. But now its starting to get me thinking. What is really wrong with me? I wash my bedsheets once a week, but thats because I sleep naked and have alot of sex in my bed so I constantly feel its dirty. Also after sex I HAVE TO ABSOLUTELY HAVE to shower. It makes my girlfriend feel offended because I dont want to lay and cuddle and kiss and snuggle after sex. I just want to be clean. She thinks its not dirty to lie in bed after we ****, but I find it so gross. What should I do?
Sun, 03/19/2006 - 11:03
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Whats wrong wit me
sorry this should be posted in the "other" category not "pleasing her"
Maybe you were subconsciously worried about getting getting semen on the seat of your shiny new ride? :)
sounds like your just a very clean person, nothing else.
as for the new car bit, probably was that now you are in this new area (im just guessing) that is your car, and since you havent done anything in this car (since its new) you felt hessitant to do anything.
or maybe it WAS the energy drink.
I dont know, maybe it was the whole new car, new area thing. I was pretty hyphy about getting my car, and I was thinking about it alot. Should I go to my doctor? Champloo you think its natural to do all that stuff? Thats what I say too but my girl thinks otherwise.
im not sure, im just taking a gander at it...
what brand of car was it? (maybe the seets/flooring made you uncomfortable?)
and of course, it COULD be the energy drink.
I just bought a 68 Camaro Super Sport, and the leather seats were new, they were pretty stiff and uncomfortable. The ironic thing about the energy drink is its name. I'm not sure if we're allowed to name products on this site so I wont say it, but it sure is ironic. I wont be drinking it anymore thats for sure. I've been looking at a few magazines and a few websites and still, my star player wont come out to play...man this is getting annoying
NICE car though :D
maybe the leather irritated you, and then the drink. (im not askin names)
but...you mean you have yet to get an erection since?
damn that energy drink...but how long has it been since you was with your girlfriend in the car?
Very nice car, it is my dream car. Yeah that might have been it, the seats were very stiff. Yeah, I have yet to get an erection since...its making me frustrated and irritated. Well its 5:28 am here and we were in the car around 2am. So a good 3 and a half hours.
sorry to be sarcastic but..
lol, so much for energy drinks helping your erection (from that one topic)
and, it sounds like that particular energy drink is the anti-viagra.
yeah I guess your right, energry drinks are not the way to go lol. Well it has alot of Guarana in it(not sure i spelt that right) and it says on the back "Warning: This drink contains high levels of caffeine" So i guess it has a lil more pep than most drinks lol.Still...no erection.....
well hey, brandye is in scotland, and doc in cali, and then m1cheal i dunno, but them three seem to give the best advice/judgement out of anyone.
and you live i guess around cali too...if it is 5 am over there.
good luck getting hard soon ;)
yeah im in cali. your right they pretty much are the go to folks for this kind of stuff. and thanks I'm working as we speak lol
thanks for the info.....sorta.
well hey, brandye's a doctor, so she's basically a free online check up (sorry if i offend there) and doc has been giving me good answers since ive been here for the past couple of weeks.
and m1cheal seems to be a pro at this field.
no offense takin champ, and umm yeah your welcome for whatever info it is i gave you lol. Well hopefully one of them will get on soon so i can fix my problem and get my all star back on the field.
[QUOTE]and thanks I'm working as we speak lol[/QUOTE]
thats what i meant by "info" lol
oh i gotcha lol well still..no luck...magazines....articles...pictures...websites..nothing. I mean I feel horny but "el capitan" wont rise to the ocassion
still nothing...
> Well tonight my girlfriend and I were fooling around in my new car, and for some reason I just couldnt get my all star out to play. It took 45 minutes for me to get a semi erection
Stuff happens like this from time to time to all of us. In and of itself this is nothing to worry about; although, given your possible OCD problem, it could be.
> I've pretty much narrowed it down to two things. I was either focused on other things, I mean I did just get the coolest car anyone could ever own. Or I am no long physically attracted to my girl.
How has masturbation been going for you? If that works fine then the problem lies elswhere. If it won't rise to the ocassion even then, then, you should have the matter investigated. I doubt the problem is tied to either the car or the girl in or out of the car. If she turns you on then you are reacting to the sparks and the pheramones except for the erection aspect.
(I have a service man coming to change my electric utility meter. I'll be off the air for awhile. More later.)
Well, that only took a few minutes yet it disrupted a couple of clocks and my satellite TV receiver. The change lets the utility company read the meter from the street instead of having to go into people's yards or contend with animals. Now, where was I?
Also, are you experiencing any spontaneous erections? Have you tried masturbating even though you do not have an erection? You should be able to climax, can you?
> This is the first time I've ever had this happen so naturally I'm a little freaked. After I managed to get the flag at half mast we pretty much just gave up and I drove her home.
If your obsessive behavior has been on going then it doesn't make sense to me that it is just now affecting your genitals. Why not do a test and see what happens? For the next ten days do not masturbate and do not make out with her and see what happens. (After doing this, what happened? Did you return to normal?)
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> Also my other question is why am I so obsessed with cleaning myself? I shower twice daily,
Even though I live in the dry climate of Northern California, I often shower twice a day during the hot summer months and especially if I've been physically active; otherwise, once every day or two. I really don't see anything particularly obsessive about this, especially if you live in a humid climate.
> I shave my pubic region once a day,
Sounds like a personal preference to me and nothing more. Shaving daily keeps the stubble from causing severe itching. Unless you are shaving for some other reason than personal preference then I see no problem. If there is a compulive reason for doing so then this is another matter.
> I wash my hair twice a day,
...with your bath, there is nothing inherently wrong with this, either, considering the information above, but if it is a compulsion, then....
> I brush my teeth 3 times a day.
Normal. My dentist recommends brushing three times a day or after every meal.
> I wash my hands anywhere from 6-10 times a day.
Red flag.
> I clean my room twice a day,
Is this a problem for you or is what you term "cleaning" just straightening up?
> I cut my hair once a week, I shave my facial hair every day,
Normal
Normal
> I constantly find myself looking in mirrors. My girlfriend thinks I have obsessive compulsive disorder because I do all this, but I think shes crazy.
If this does not bother you then I suppose there isn't a problem; however, you just gotta know that most people do not look at themselves in the mirror that often.
> I wash my bedsheets once a week, but thats because I sleep naked and have alot of sex in my bed so I constantly feel its dirty.
Normal.
> Also after sex I HAVE TO ABSOLUTELY HAVE to shower. It makes my girlfriend feel offended because I dont want to lay and cuddle and kiss and snuggle after sex. I just want to be clean. She thinks its not dirty to lie in bed after we ****, but I find it so gross. What should I do?
Why not cuddle and wait a reasonable length of time before showering? Both of you will benefit from the cuddling of the afterglow and not doing this is to send a very negative message to her not unlike making love with your socks on! This is a problem that you can solve with a change of mind.
> But now its starting to get me thinking. What is really wrong with me?
I recommend having a discussion with a therapist.
told ya Doc could give you a better answer.
Well thanks doc, Yeah I live in northern california, where the climate is pretty nice. But I still gave yet to get an erection. I cant masturbate or climax at all. I've tried. I still have yet to even get it half way up. And for the cuddling part, I just cant. I feel so dirty and filthy afterwards that I MUST shower right away. It bothers me ad I know it bothers her but I cant help it. I made an appointment with my doctor for tommorow at 8am. For both the erection problem and the possible OCD. thankyou for the help doc
i REALLY hope you get hard soon. XD
not for me, but for you. thats pretty bad.
thanks man. I'm trying every chance I get, but no such luck
Rather than try every chance you get, why not back off and let nature try and take its course like I suggested? Depending upon your age, within or after ten days you should either be frantic, have had a wet dream, or, broken down and masturbated because your sex drive just wouldn't let you abstain any longer. In any event I'm suggesting that abstaining may reset your body's nervouse system or at the very least give you a base line upon which to base further action or therapy on.
thanks Ill take that way and see what happens. as of right now im on the no touch diet. You really think it will work doc?
good luck
i hope everything work out.
i know how you feel.
I don't know if this stratagy will work or not, however, you will have a definite baseline upon which to base further action.
After the trial period, you might want to rent or purchase the movie "Forty Days and Forty Nights", starring Josh Hartnett that appeared in theaters a few years ago. It is a hoot!
I've seen that one. I know ten days is going to be extremely hard for me. I definately could not go forty days
i could...really...
but good luck making it through 10 days ;)
thanks champ. I am going to the doctors today at 8am. its 4:57 am here right now
as i said somewhere else..
good luck with your doctor lama
hey can steroids affect erections?
i have NO clue....i dont reccomend taking them, if you are thinking of it, not only because of the effects, but because you are going to a doctor soon.
im not gonna take them to find out though.
lol well of course no one would condone the use of anabolic or androgenic steroids unless perscribed by a doctor right? and I meant could steroids make you no longer get an erection?Not would they make you have one.
Ohh...lol...i forgot steroids are prescribed by doctors..lol...i have school today, im forgetting things.
i think they might deffect your chances of getting an erect penis....lol...
i looked at your question a different way :o
well some steroids are different than others, Anabolic has to do with muscles and what not. typically those are the illegal ones. Adrogenic ones are for health things like asthma or whatever. I think anabolic ones might effect your chance of getting erections...hmm..I have some reading and praying to do. Hopefully doc will give some insight on this topic.
yeah, hopefully...seeing he is a dance? (aerobics?) instructor...or whatever he said. should have knowledge on analobic steroids.
i doubt dancers would use anabolic steroids. most athletes like football players, or contact sports use them. Although its very possible for ppl not involved in sports to use them....man wheres doc you when need em.
I'll talk to my wrestling coach tommorow about the effects of roids and see what he says.
that would work...
well, i gotta go to school (argh) good luck lama.
have fun at school champ, and thanks for wishing me luck
went to the doctors, told me to lay off energy drinks, and to come back tommorow if I cant get an erection by tonight.
atleast it wasnt something wrong with your penis, but the energy drinks...
hopefully your girlfriend found out it was your energy drink?
well good news, I got an erection today. And my girlfriend and I had sex. I called the doctor and told him, and he said he figured it would return to normal because "these things happen naturally in life, and most likely will happen once or twice more, its nothing to concern myself with."
Hey, Im new to this forum and this is my first post :P
Reading the thread, although, fortunately, there is no problem anymore, i think it may also have done with your lack of sleep.
I've noticed, for example, you had an appointment with the doctor at 8 am, and were still not asleept at 5 am. So maybe your lack of sleep could have influenced your performance
NICE!
congratz on the accomplishment :p
[QUOTE=moose_hd]Maybe you were subconsciously worried about getting getting semen on the seat of your shiny new ride? :)[/QUOTE]
My money is on the "new car smell".
it was the energy drinks too.