this is more appropriate for the polls section

Probably so, Weasel, however, there are articles that have been written on all this as well as discussions on the forums that he could and should check into, first.

Typical of most young guys, he is looking at this from the male perspective (granted, the only reference he knows) and has completely overlooked the emotional aspect and its importance. Once he grasps the importance of satisfying a woman's emotional needs and the part her psyche plays in making love he then has the understanding to become a much better lover. TOF, it is not all about orgasms for women. Do the research and read up on this well discussed topic. The "wiring" is different between the two genders. Guy's live for orgasms, not necessarily so for women. As nice as they are for all of us, they are not the biological imperative for women that they are for us guys. Knowing what is and how to satisfy those needs is the first key to becoming a world class lover.

You are asking questions, TOF, and this is a good thing. I have just given you some insight into the direction your investigation should take. Please begin reading all of the articles listed in the Index, and do a site search on "biological imperative" to help zero in on what is mentioned, above.

I am the type of woman that cannot come through penetration. Sometimes, my boyfriend will spend time going down on me to make me come- through clit stimulation and then I will return the favour to him and then we have full sex. Or we will have sex and then he will lick me out.

I do not always want to come to say it was a great sex session. Sex with him always leaves me satisfied. He is a very good lover, very attentive and goes out of his way to please me by giving me amazing sex!

For me great sex consists of a loving, thoughful and confident partner. Even though it's not the politically correct answer comming from a female, but for me, great sex includes orgasm for both of us on a regular basis, not just him. Don't get me wrong, I derive a great deal of pleasure just being physically close and intimate with my husband but if I didn't have a reasonable chance of being pleasured too, I would become resentful and become less interested in sex over time.
Luckily for me, I'm one of those women that can orgasm during intercourse and usually enjoy multiple orgasms during our love making sessions. My thoughful, loving and confident husband does his best to ensure that I get satisfaction. On those rare occasions that I don't, it's not a big deal and we don't dwell on it. Even our cars and other mechanical devices fail us from time to time.

Where's the love?

I know the o/p's question is about "sex", yet satisfying the emotional aspects is just as important as the physical, whether the activity be prolonged, quick, lusty.