[QUOTE=shadowy19]Hey all,
My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time in august, and have been 'fooling around' since... I love the intimacy of it all, but there is a slight problem...

I can barely feel him...

Foreplay is great, but once we get into the actual intercourse, I can hardley feel him in me.

He's yet to make me orgasm.. he hasn't gotten me there at all yet.. and to be honest, it's getting a bit frustrating.

Does anyone have ANY suggestions about what i can do to make the sex better? He says it feels amazing for him, but.. I can barely tell he's in me...

Help!!

shadowy[/QUOTE]

It's very common to not have an orgasm from intercourse. You simply may not be wired that way. If you want an orgasm, have him go down on you.

As for not even feeling him, are you saying that he's really small?

[QUOTE=shadowy19]Hi,

I know that not alot of women can orgasm from intercourse alone... and I doubt that I ever will, but it's not just that.

He hasn't made me orgasm AT ALL. from anything! He has gone down on me, fingered me, everything he can do... trust me, it gets VERY frustrating for both of us. I've tried teling him what to do, and showing him, but it doesnt seem to help.

and No, i'm not saying he's realy small.. hes normal. 6" long and I can get my middle finger to touch the ti[p of my thumb around him. Fairly average...

I've been ontop before, and thats the worst. Since I can barely feel him anyways, its hard to tell whats going on.. or if he's even in me. I dont know what to do about it...

am i just getting too wet?

shadowy[/QUOTE]

Okay, you've got multiple issues here. Let's drop the "can't feel him inside me" issue for right now and focus on the orgasm.

Let me ask this: have you ever had orgasms before? Can you get one by masturbating by yourself? When you give him directionsduring oral or fingering, does he do it right or do you just not feel "comfortable"?

Hi Shadowy. You seem to be experiencing what a lot of females experience. especially the part where you think it's a strange situation and something is wrong. if you've never had an orgasm before (or regularly), help has been offered regarding this topic many times on this board. here is an example (see Dancingdoc's second response): http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/other_sex_topics/16505-male_female_genit...

otherwise, search around the board for orgasm questions and you will get pretty much the same answer.

[QUOTE=shadowy19]yes, i've had an orgasm before. I can get there myself any time I want.
When I direct him, he still doesnt seem to get it... It feels ALLRIGHt.. but not amazing or anything better than OK.

I fell totally comfortable, and hot as hell, but he just can't seem to get me there.

Shadowy[/QUOTE]

Okay, so let's narrow this down. It sounds like you're saying that he just isn't following your directions correctly or isn't catching on to what you need - is that correct? I mean, you feel that physically, everything is fine with you but it's just that he doesn't know how (or doesn't try hard enough) to put you over the top. Is that correct?

[QUOTE=shadowy19]Yeah, I suppose that could be right. We won't be together again until April 8th now :( But after our last romp in bed, he's feeling particularly discouraged... and told me that in paril, i'm "getting it" lol. So, we'll see then i suppose..

Any thoughts about the not feelinghim part?

shadowy[/QUOTE]

Well, as a guy, I've never found it that difficult to give a woman an orgasm through oral or manual stimulation. So I don't know what the deal is there. If you take your time, really get into it, and pay attention to her subtle signals, it isn't rocket science.

As for the "not feeling him" part, a woman will have to answer that one. I do know that there have been times where my partner has been SO turned on that she was almost TOO wet and TOO relaxed so that when I was inside her I felt like I couldn't feel much myself. It's like I could go in and out of her too easily. That's when I have to switch to doggie-style to save my erection long enough to come (the primal and controlling aspects of that position are a real turnon).

Start by accepting that he does not give you an orgasm; you take it. If you are truly feeling something, maybe your genitals are telling you something your head has not gotten to yet.