This site is a window on the world. Look out any window and you view only a small portion of the world. So it is with the posts you find here. There are many men and women around the world who like and also dislike many of the same things and there are far more of them than you find represented here. Location and religious beliefs also play a part in what you may or may not be exposed to in a particular corner of the world. An example would be the "Bible Belt" in the U.S. in which a line of Midwestern and Southern states have a preponderance of fundamentalist churches in which family values are much more strict and narrow than in many other areas.

Another thing to consider is that some sexual practices are approached over a period of time and after much familiarity with each other has been established. It's not unlike making out with someone new to us in which you begin with Necking and over the course of weeks and months as you become comfortable with each other and trust is established that you progress further; first, by becoming more bold in your caresses, next partially undressing, selected areas like the chest, and so on and on. From your account it seems like you want to dive right in and this is simply the wrong approach anytime anywhere.

The "why" may have to do with religious teachings during a girls upbringing, although, I'm more willing to say that the reluctance has more to do with being comfortable with themselves, then you, and it being way to early into a relationship for this level of intimacy with regard to anal play.

Rough sex? Here again, you just don't dive right in as the saying "jump her bones" might suggest. Establishing trust is a major aspect of this. Also, guidelines for any rough-housing, or bondage has to have rules and a safe word, first and foremost. As a couple you should agree on what will and will not be done or tolerated, lest your actions be interpreted as rape or molestation, when in fact this is not the intent.

Regardless of where you live, it sounds to me like you need a bigger window on the world (meaning more exposure to more people), and when you do find someone you wish to date--taking a long time getting to know each other more intimately, and not limited to the physical aspect of this.

It also could be that more sexually open people are much more likely to be going on a forum about sex.. If you won't experiment and don't like giving oral, I doubt you would be posting on a forum about sex. So here there are people that like everything.