Just an hour ago I was having a convo with my mother asking her do i dress slutty or do i look like a booty call. She simply said no, i dress nicely i like to look nice compared to my sister who hides her beauty, my question is what kind of clothing men wold you define sluttish or a booty call. also what kind of clothing do you prefer a woman wears to attract you. I also was watching manswers which is a show and they said if you show 80% of your body it attracts men without going over board. so what kinda clothing should women wear and women can answer too.:D
Thu, 09/22/2011 - 00:24
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What to wear
I'm probably not the best to answer this, as I don't like "sexy" clothes on women. I'll explain...
I like a corporate look, because it says "I'm intelligent and have goals and skills". I like an athletic outfit because it says "I give a damn about my health and well being". I also like a clean "mom on the go" loom of jeans, simple top, minimal makeup, and fingered hair. It says to me "I have responsibilities that do not allow polish".
All of these looks are incredibly sexy to me, simply for the sake that sexiness is not the primary goal. Outfits used only for sexiness to me seem hollow. When i see people like that I keep thinking "yeah you're pretty, but what do you DO with your life".
For a great example of my tastes, check out [url=http://www.athleta.com]Athleta
Yeah i agree im use to wearing contacts but now i wear my glasses and i look smart and i do go to college and i wear pants and a v neck shirt. I love to go to the gym and my outfits make me feel good and superior like im in control with me and my surroundings. I love wearing dresses because i feel flowy in a way. I understand what you mean but yes firmus your married so u seen how your wife dresses day to day and shes not always gunna look sexy in what young women wear now because its part of the game of survival of the most attractive, you have seen your wife in a bun on top of her head no make up and just scrubs. women usually dont go around looking like that and the office look not all women choose to do that because it can be very uncomfortable after awhile but thx for the advice.
Hmmm.... What kind of clothes women should wear? I can't give you an answer since every woman and situation/scenario is different. At the end of the day it's all up to you. I don't think there's really a such thing as slutty attire (after all such things are rather subjective), but you'll have to dress the part if you want to attract the men that you want.
> i dress nicely i like to look nice**
> my question is what kind of clothing men wold you define sluttish or a booty call.
Several years ago the question about the length of a woman's dress was being discussed in polite company. The general response was: "it should be short enough to make it interesting and long enough to cover the subject."
As for a top it should be short enough to make it interesting yet leave a lot to the imagination. Large arm holes and plunging necklines and bra straps prominently displayed across the back are a turnoff to a lot of people A hint of cleavage is more appropriate than having 90% of the breasts displayed before God, country, and passersby.
Now having said this, the answers to your questions hinge upon the hour of the day, and the activity in question.
** You will never be wrong with "nice".
As much as some boyfriends or dates may secretly like to be seen with a person who is 80% uncovered, when put on the spot, most would be uncomfortable or even embarrassed to be arm-in-arm with this person when out in public.
"Slutty" equates to "sloppy".
"Slutty" means a girl/woman can be seen as "easy".
"Slutty" can mean one thing to the wearer and quite another to the observer. This is a concept many girls fail to understand and what can get them into trouble when least expected.
"Slutty" can attract the wrong type of attention. Play it safe. You can always role play, later with the nice guy.
> > you'll have to dress the part if you want to attract the men that you want.
So, what about your personality and sense of self, and, self worth?
Very often teenage girls depending upon what phase of the decade long process they are in believe that appearance is "everything" especially if they lack self esteem. How they dress is what they believe will catch a guy's eye and then her to him. True enough, yet older more mature women have discovered that dressing appropriately {read: nice) will catch a much more desirable man with her smile and her personality and her brain. When a man pays attention or notices "me" I feel that I am worthy. Better me thinks to attract a man with your other attributes rather than your mostly nude or provocatively displayed body.
> I also was watching manswers which is a show and they said if you show 80% of your body it attracts men without going over board.
I disagree based upon my vast experience. So, what 20% of your body is left to the imagination? (A bikini at the beach is OK. A bikini style on Main St. or in the mall may not be. The same goes for sloppy unkempt clothing. Thinkaboutit.)
If you believe that the only thing you have to offer boys is how you look, this will more often than not lead to some pretty superficial relationships. Why not present yourself to others thru words, deeds, intelligence, and other traits and qualities that display your character?
-doc
the simplest answer is that the more skin you show the more likely you are to attract attention and garner some advances from the guys. However, as already stated different guys like different things. Dress the way you feel pretty and confident and let the rest fall where it may.
Dear sexgoddess1,
The way people perceive others is mainly caused by what you carry on the inside. The person you are and the way you feel shines through in every little bit of your bodylanguage.
Like a girl in highschool once told me as I wore a short top and hot pants, which would have probably made any other girl look slutty; "Jeez, you can wear anything and still look cute and innocent!" Call it an attitude-thing. This summer I've discovered that I can make every man's head on the street turn as I walked by in my new dress and my recently slimmed and toned body. The key: I felt genuinely good about myself and that was the thing that was noticed. How do I know it wasn't the dress? Because I shortly after noticed they did the same while I was wearing a simple Tshirt and jeansskirt. Several people I know have told me I looked good and had a certain "glowing". Without really being able to pinpoint what was different about me. This was particularly funny because I really wasn't healthy at the time.
You can change your appearance without even changing your clothes. All it takes is positive imagination and inner strength. It's psychologically proven; when you tell yourself you feel good about yourself and imagine this with all your little heart's desire to the point you genuinely believe, you'll start to feel better. It can even show in your physiology as you start to produce more feel-good-hormones and your immune-system becomes stronger. Your movement and postures spring from within. So the way you feel, will show in the way you move your move your body. Basically: shine your inner light!
Actually it is more ATTITUDE than attire than 'defines' the 'easy' woman.
I have a skin tight, red dress that exposes 90% of my skin (calling it skimpy is grossly understating the case) and has proven most effective at attracting positive masculine attention and igniting masculine desire but not effective at getting masculine approaches. By anyone's definition, my outfit is highly "inappropriate" and "suggestive" being too tight and far too minimalist; yet because of my attitude - the way I stand, act and speak - the men tend to seek 'easier game'.
You could be excused for confusing my make-up and skimpy attire as really being my war paint and battle dress since the entire 'package' says Stand & Deliver!
EEK, im surprised you didn't give your definition of a slutty woman!
ill do my best to say it then
paraphrasing:
a slutty woman is just a girl with warm loving arms willing to share the wonders of sex
thanks RR. I agree with you in many ways because i use to be overwieght and i would hide myself and my posture was not attractive. I did not have the confidence I have now where I do walk around with great respect fopr my body. I love to walk with my chest and head high but not to be prideful about it. EEK iI have a sexy red dress as well and thats my favorite color and i look hot in red lol but yes i agree itz the attitude that changes things. I realize that now it is my fault for looking for the bad boys and before i respected myself i wud recieve the guys who just wanted to fuck and i realize now i shud tell them to go fuck off and try to look at myself in the mirror and try to find that inner light so that i am not a booty call but an intelligent woman and attractive. thx for your advice.
[QUOTE=g-dubz;273689]Why yes sexgoddess1 I am LOL :D[/QUOTE]
LOL1 You just answered your own question haha, start hunting red is a very powerful and noticable color... we are known as athena's children, her blood spiled out to those who fight as a warrior goddess like her but also as wise and beautiful. We r out here looking for a warrior godman to come a fight with us even in bed..lol..:p
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;273668]Actually it is more ATTITUDE than attire than 'defines' the 'easy' woman.
I have a skin tight, red dress that exposes 90% of my skin (calling it skimpy is grossly understating the case) and has proven most effective at attracting positive masculine attention and igniting masculine desire but not effective at getting masculine approaches. By anyone's definition, my outfit is highly "inappropriate" and "suggestive" being too tight and far too minimalist; yet because of my attitude - the way I stand, act and speak - the men tend to seek 'easier game'.
You could be excused for confusing my make-up and skimpy attire as really being my war paint and battle dress since the entire 'package' says Stand & Deliver![/QUOTE]
LOL. Where do women like you live?? :D
[QUOTE=g-dubz;273685]LOL. Where do women like you live?? :D[/QUOTE]
lol g-dubz! we r everywhere just look for the lady in red..hehe we r the wild kind but intimidating...so r u up for the challenge.:p
Why yes sexgoddess1 I am LOL :D
Nice. I'll have to be on the lookout then :D:p
[QUOTE=g-dubz;273700]Nice. I'll have to be on the lookout then :D:p[/QUOTE]
YUP YUP YUP! LOL another example is EEK. She is very much like a lioness and wild but with great confidence so hopefully you'll have look luck with that kind of character cuz..hehe..EEK is already met her godman.:D
Women like me are everywhere. Our camoflague is excellent! You simply have to 'see' them.
[quote=evilevilkitten;273721]women like me are everywhere. Our camoflague is excellent! You simply have to 'see' them.[/quote]
correct indeed!:d
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;273721]Women like me are everywhere. Our camoflague is excellent! You simply have to 'see' them.[/QUOTE]
I'll keep that in mind the next time I'm on the "hunt" lol :D
Again, what kind of clothing is just going to far or like trying to hard to get a guy. Slut is term i realize but if your going out looking like a hooker of course your going to get a guy only having thier seed of his pants having jurisdiction over everything..hehe
SG, just wear a well fitting sheath dress in whatever color looks good on you and high heels and be done with "what is going too far to get a guy".
Ok! A guy can tell if your trying to hard with your make up, clothing, perfume, if you can't walk in heels but you do it anyways, how you strut your stuff etc. thats what I'm getting at, my understanding is that a guy can tell when a woman just puts to much out there to attract attention. to an extent a guy would prefer to be yourself, right!
Exactly, so don't wear make-up (I don't unless you count Chapstick), limit your cologne to men's, and just wear earrings. Stilettos come in all heights from "kitten" which is one inch to "completely absurd" in the region of 6 inches. I limit the height of my high heels to 3 inches which puts me right at 6 foot tall making it easier to judge if he meets one of my criteria "Taller than me."
"Less is more" is usually the best rule to follow when it comes to make-up, perfume, heel height and jewlery.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;274161]I limit the height of my high heels to 3 inches which puts me right at 6 foot tall making it easier to judge if he meets one of my criteria "Taller than me."
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Ok, show of hands guys. How many here did the math to see if they meet the criteria? I'm 6'1". **Barney Fife sniff and belt hike**
:D
LOL
If you're taller than me when I'm wearing heels then you're tall enough.
Ok that's one. Let me guess on another few....
I know what the 3rd fork in a formal place setting is for (fish) and is placed depending on if it's for appetizer or main course.
I'm old enough to know how a matchbook will help the playback of an 8-track.
I build and play cigar box guitars.
I own a 30 gallon iron kettle, and have a generational recipe for turtle soup that is heaven by the spoonful.
If that's not enough then I know not what else will do. :P
My list of masculine requirements is very simple:
1. taller than me
2. heavier than me
3. older than me
4. kinder than me
5, smarter than me
See? Very simple.
But if I really want to get their goats, I add 6. cuter than me.
#5 must be the gimmie one, else I'd expect you to be pining away on this forum from loneliness. :)
I would have to go with 1,2, 3, 5, and 6... one thing on #2 though, if the guy is my size i don't mind also if he looks like a rock n roll bad ass skinny jean kind i dont mind but I am more of a masculine buff, bald with a goattee man like chris daughtry. I love Irishman too. I am Irish myself so yeah like the agression sometimes. Id like him to be kind just like me.
Look the last thing I want is a man I can LITERALLY pick up. I'm a tall, slender but powerful woman.
And Firmus - except for a few, I am all alone here, hun.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;274267]Look the last thing I want is a man I can LITERALLY pick up. I'm a tall, slender but powerful woman.
And Firmus - except for a few, I am all alone here, hun.[/QUOTE]
very true indeed with that category. I am a powerful person myself, I guess I like the rock in roll look because I was raised with Rock n' Roll and Country. I'm very alternative girl so yeah. I am attracted to large arms though, where he can wrap me in his arms and could crush my rips, not literally though lol, but instead I feel like i am protected.:)
[QUOTE=Firmus;273646]I don't like "sexy" clothes on women. I'll explain...
I like a corporate look, because it says "I'm intelligent and have goals and skills". I like an athletic outfit because it says "I give a damn about my health and well being". I also like a clean "mom on the go" loom of jeans, simple top, minimal makeup, and fingered hair. It says to me "I have responsibilities that do not allow polish".
All of these looks are incredibly sexy to me, simply for the sake that sexiness is not the primary goal. Outfits used only for sexiness to me seem hollow. [/QUOTE]
Firmus's opinion echoes that of my boyfreind also, and I think such an opinion is more common than one might think
Mine seems to enjoy casual clothes. Slightly baggy, like one of his tshirts, my pajamas, or my painting gear. I think the reason is simelar.
He doesn't like the look of a woman trying too hard to be sexy. It comes off as deseperate and -he says- dishonest. He can tell if I'm uncomfortable and pretending to be something I'm not. He also doesn't like the feeling of being sold sex. I am not trying to push a product on him. If I have tousled hair, no makeup, casual clothes, then I am at my most "me". This gets a good response because it's me that he wants to make love to, see?
The only exception is one of my going-out dresses, but again I bought that because I liked it and without a thought for looking sexy to someone else.
Casual confidence is key.
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For myself (not being immune to the charms of women either) I have to greatly support the element of Tease. It's not sexy to go about with everything hanging out so I don't like plunge necklines or hotpants. More skin doesn't mean more appeal.
Something that covers the key areas but is well-cut and gives just a hint of good things beneath is the hottest. Keep them wondering, and they'll want to see more :)
"Sexy" is more attitude than dress and varies, as we have seen, between persons, since each has their own definition.
Be yourself without apology & without pretense.
But for most men, the sexiest woman is - the one who shows up.
O yes, jumpers, baggy pants, knitted sweaters, jogging pants, etc can just as easy make him gasp "girl you look sexy!" as any sexy dress does. I think it's aiding such clothing is so comfortable that it makes you feel relaxed, again: giving you that glow that shines from the inside.
I never buy uncomfortable clothing for this reason; it could seriously dim you. Also while on the job and I certainly do not wear something uncomfortable while visiting a customer. I love dresses for that; freedom for your body to move, soft and flattering material, with a professional look and the opportunity to choose something with particular detail, that makes you stand out from the rest of the suits :)
thank you everyone and I agree. i don't always where the idea of short shorts, skirts or dresses. I don't even like the idea of hangin out. I just wanted everyones idea and it informed me very well.
tryin to hard is always just not the answer, but thank god im a relaxing casual dressed person unless i go out.