Hum... I think that a beautiful smile and daring eyes are pretty much required. I can be initially turned on rather easily, but what really keeps my attention is an intelligent and clever woman. For some reason, bright people attract me a lot more.
What turns me on about a woman is: proportion -- the whole package put together in synch, in tune. I like women who have themselves put together inside and out, who know who they are and what they want. If she hasn't got that, she's got nothing. Once she's got that all together -- the rest falls into place. I don't care if she's a dishwasher or a high-powered corporate executive. If she hasn't got her shit together -- she isn't worth talking to.
A woman isn't just one thing or another. She is not a dichotomy. Some parts of her aren't better than others.
I take the whole girl and nothing but the whole girl. If something is out of place on her -- I simply leave her where I found her.
Things that are not acceptable, i.e., automatic disqualifiers:
Obesity; implants; liars; drug addicts; the deceitful; whiners; cry-babys; victims; losers.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;265559]According to my husband:
"She showed up!"[/QUOTE]
ROFL!!!
[QUOTE=Poisian;265592]What turns me on about a woman is: proportion -- the whole package put together in synch, in tune. I like women who have themselves put together inside and out, who know who they are and what they want. If she hasn't got that, she's got nothing. Once she's got that all together -- the rest falls into place. I don't care if she's a dishwasher or a high-powered corporate executive. If she hasn't got her shit together -- she isn't worth talking to.
A woman isn't just one thing or another. She is not a dichotomy. Some parts of her aren't better than others.
I take the whole girl and nothing but the whole girl. If something is out of place on her -- I simply leave her where I found her.
Things that are not acceptable, i.e., automatic disqualifiers:
Obesity; implants; liars; drug addicts; the deceitful; whiners; cry-babys; victims; losers.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Poisian;265592]She is not a dichotomy. Some parts of her aren't better than others...If something is out of place on her -- I simply leave her where I found her. [/QUOTE]
Nice dream. Hate to break it to you, though, here in the real world everyone has baggage. EVERYone. Has something that makes them less than 100% perfect.
What if she was smart, sweet, funny, pretty, kind, generous, loving, decent job, good caring family....but at 27 was still a virgin, and had never had a driver's license because due to family history she was scared shitless to get behind the wheel of a car? Is that enough stuff "out of place" that you'd leave her where you found her?
Thank God for me, T didn't. Not only that, but it was only because of him that I named, fought and beat my driving demons. This is not intended as an angry attack, merely a suggestion to rethink your limitations.
[QUOTE=Poisian;265592]who know who they are and what they want.[/QUOTE]
My wife's feet are a huge turn on for me. They are sleek and smooth, with little hairs on her toes, and they really stink when she wears the right pair of shoes. On the other hand, when she wears flip flops, her soles usually turn black, which is also pretty hot -- though in this case they don't stink as bad, unfortunately.
[QUOTE=lnt1103;265598]Nice dream. Hate to break it to you, though, here in the real world everyone has baggage. EVERYone. Has something that makes them less than 100% perfect.
What if she was smart, sweet, funny, pretty, kind, generous, loving, decent job, good caring family....but at 27 was still a virgin, and had never had a driver's license because due to family history she was scared shitless to get behind the wheel of a car? Is that enough stuff "out of place" that you'd leave her where you found her?
Thank God for me, T didn't. Not only that, but it was only because of him that I named, fought and beat my driving demons. This is not intended as an angry attack, merely a suggestion to rethink your limitations.
Now THERE'S something I can wrap my arms around.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Poisian;265592]What turns me on about a woman is: proportion -- the whole package put together in synch, in tune. I like women who have themselves put together inside and out, who know who they are and what they want. If she hasn't got that, she's got nothing. Once she's got that all together -- the rest falls into place. I don't care if she's a dishwasher or a high-powered corporate executive. If she hasn't got her shit together -- she isn't worth talking to.
A woman isn't just one thing or another. She is not a dichotomy. Some parts of her aren't better than others.
I take the whole girl and nothing but the whole girl. If something is out of place on her -- I simply leave her where I found her.
Things that are not acceptable, i.e., automatic disqualifiers:
Obesity; implants; liars; drug addicts; the deceitful; whiners; cry-babys; victims; losers.[/QUOTE]
I do like how you mention the balance instead of the characteristics. I personally think that any set of characteristics eventually can be used in a good way, once proportionally balanced. But that does not mean the person in itself is perfect. And your description comes scary close to a robot instead of a living and breathing human being.
What fun is a relationship if there is no space for eachother to grow?
Where is the humanity in demanding perfect balance?
What happens when after some time, she dares to show you her weakness underneath the iron harness?
What happens if the woman that had everything together, suddenly falls apart?
After all; even perfect machinery can be broken by taken away vital part(s) or it could have bugs after a all...
Personally, what I find beautiful in people is how we grow and develop until the day we die. Everyone has a history, no-one is "just" who they are, they became and we become every day. Once you get to know others well, there's some soft core inside or a soft spot on the outer shell that most just look past. That's the great thing of a close relationship (romantic, friendship, family); how people dare to be vulnerable around eachother. Show eachother what no-one in the world knows. Both being able to be truthful and pure in your behavior; acting on the outside in sync with your inner self (instead of smiling because you're supposed to). You get to know them for who they "really" are, which I consider an honor if someone dares to show me. And likewise: they will know you in your most vulnerable state. Now that seems scary, right? But it is in fact very pure and powerful. People do not realize it most of the time; but vulnerability is actually a strength instead of a weakness. It's also what strengthens and gives great depth to a relationship.
Hum... I think that a beautiful smile and daring eyes are pretty much required. I can be initially turned on rather easily, but what really keeps my attention is an intelligent and clever woman. For some reason, bright people attract me a lot more.
According to my husband:
"She showed up!"
I guess that a bit like how women like confident men, I like women that knows what they want and embrace it.
What turns me on about a woman is: proportion -- the whole package put together in synch, in tune. I like women who have themselves put together inside and out, who know who they are and what they want. If she hasn't got that, she's got nothing. Once she's got that all together -- the rest falls into place. I don't care if she's a dishwasher or a high-powered corporate executive. If she hasn't got her shit together -- she isn't worth talking to.
A woman isn't just one thing or another. She is not a dichotomy. Some parts of her aren't better than others.
I take the whole girl and nothing but the whole girl. If something is out of place on her -- I simply leave her where I found her.
Things that are not acceptable, i.e., automatic disqualifiers:
Obesity; implants; liars; drug addicts; the deceitful; whiners; cry-babys; victims; losers.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;265559]According to my husband:
"She showed up!"[/QUOTE]
ROFL!!!
[QUOTE=Poisian;265592]What turns me on about a woman is: proportion -- the whole package put together in synch, in tune. I like women who have themselves put together inside and out, who know who they are and what they want. If she hasn't got that, she's got nothing. Once she's got that all together -- the rest falls into place. I don't care if she's a dishwasher or a high-powered corporate executive. If she hasn't got her shit together -- she isn't worth talking to.
A woman isn't just one thing or another. She is not a dichotomy. Some parts of her aren't better than others.
I take the whole girl and nothing but the whole girl. If something is out of place on her -- I simply leave her where I found her.
Things that are not acceptable, i.e., automatic disqualifiers:
Obesity; implants; liars; drug addicts; the deceitful; whiners; cry-babys; victims; losers.[/QUOTE]
I agree :D
[QUOTE=Poisian;265592]She is not a dichotomy. Some parts of her aren't better than others...If something is out of place on her -- I simply leave her where I found her. [/QUOTE]
Nice dream. Hate to break it to you, though, here in the real world everyone has baggage. EVERYone. Has something that makes them less than 100% perfect.
What if she was smart, sweet, funny, pretty, kind, generous, loving, decent job, good caring family....but at 27 was still a virgin, and had never had a driver's license because due to family history she was scared shitless to get behind the wheel of a car? Is that enough stuff "out of place" that you'd leave her where you found her?
Thank God for me, T didn't. Not only that, but it was only because of him that I named, fought and beat my driving demons. This is not intended as an angry attack, merely a suggestion to rethink your limitations.
[QUOTE=Poisian;265592]who know who they are and what they want.[/QUOTE]
Now THERE'S something I can wrap my arms around.
My wife's feet are a huge turn on for me. They are sleek and smooth, with little hairs on her toes, and they really stink when she wears the right pair of shoes. On the other hand, when she wears flip flops, her soles usually turn black, which is also pretty hot -- though in this case they don't stink as bad, unfortunately.
I would imagine that all guys find different things attractive. So I think it is really very hard to define.
[QUOTE=lnt1103;265598]Nice dream. Hate to break it to you, though, here in the real world everyone has baggage. EVERYone. Has something that makes them less than 100% perfect.
What if she was smart, sweet, funny, pretty, kind, generous, loving, decent job, good caring family....but at 27 was still a virgin, and had never had a driver's license because due to family history she was scared shitless to get behind the wheel of a car? Is that enough stuff "out of place" that you'd leave her where you found her?
Thank God for me, T didn't. Not only that, but it was only because of him that I named, fought and beat my driving demons. This is not intended as an angry attack, merely a suggestion to rethink your limitations.
Now THERE'S something I can wrap my arms around.[/QUOTE]
Nope. That's not enough.
Holding potential partners to a standard which you yourself can NOT meet is self-defeating.
[QUOTE=Poisian;265592]What turns me on about a woman is: proportion -- the whole package put together in synch, in tune. I like women who have themselves put together inside and out, who know who they are and what they want. If she hasn't got that, she's got nothing. Once she's got that all together -- the rest falls into place. I don't care if she's a dishwasher or a high-powered corporate executive. If she hasn't got her shit together -- she isn't worth talking to.
A woman isn't just one thing or another. She is not a dichotomy. Some parts of her aren't better than others.
I take the whole girl and nothing but the whole girl. If something is out of place on her -- I simply leave her where I found her.
Things that are not acceptable, i.e., automatic disqualifiers:
Obesity; implants; liars; drug addicts; the deceitful; whiners; cry-babys; victims; losers.[/QUOTE]
I do like how you mention the balance instead of the characteristics. I personally think that any set of characteristics eventually can be used in a good way, once proportionally balanced. But that does not mean the person in itself is perfect. And your description comes scary close to a robot instead of a living and breathing human being.
What fun is a relationship if there is no space for eachother to grow?
Where is the humanity in demanding perfect balance?
What happens when after some time, she dares to show you her weakness underneath the iron harness?
What happens if the woman that had everything together, suddenly falls apart?
After all; even perfect machinery can be broken by taken away vital part(s) or it could have bugs after a all...
Personally, what I find beautiful in people is how we grow and develop until the day we die. Everyone has a history, no-one is "just" who they are, they became and we become every day. Once you get to know others well, there's some soft core inside or a soft spot on the outer shell that most just look past. That's the great thing of a close relationship (romantic, friendship, family); how people dare to be vulnerable around eachother. Show eachother what no-one in the world knows. Both being able to be truthful and pure in your behavior; acting on the outside in sync with your inner self (instead of smiling because you're supposed to). You get to know them for who they "really" are, which I consider an honor if someone dares to show me. And likewise: they will know you in your most vulnerable state. Now that seems scary, right? But it is in fact very pure and powerful. People do not realize it most of the time; but vulnerability is actually a strength instead of a weakness. It's also what strengthens and gives great depth to a relationship.