[QUOTE=Hot Virgin Girl;240464]Hi Dears

I`m a virgin girl who lives in a country where having sex before marriage is forbidden cause we should keep our hymen safe and be virgin for the first night with the groom.
So here most girls have anal sex with their boyfriends before marriage.But I do not like anal sex.So what should do I do so that both my partner and I enjoy our relationship?
Please help me by your advice..
Thanks alot[/QUOTE]

Maybe you could try lubing up your inner thighs, close your legs, & let him thrust in between your thighs (he would need to wear a condom to make sure that his semen or pre cum doesn't come in contact with your vagina) Ive herd of this but never tried it personally, so I'm not sure how well this would work:confused: But of course there is always oral sex, titty fucking, & mutual masturbation. Hope this helps:D Oh & don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything your not comfortable with.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

Please read the Index found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles. If you also go to the site's Home page, you will find links to animated illustrated sexual positions and much more information.

Foreplay {oral stimulation of each others genitals and/or stimulating each other by hand) is a great alternative.

Unfortunately, I have little knowledge about sexual practices of people in your culture; however, I invite you to read the articles in the Index as it pertains to Western societies. If you would care to share with us what dating rituals are like and how couples romance each other I would be very appreciative.

Here is a link to information about anal stimulation for your information. I hope you find the how-to information enlightening whether you decide to pursue this or not.

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

In addition to the articles discussing making out (kissing and caressing) please read the articles listed in the Index by EvilEvilKitten.

Please feel free to ask any questions regarding the male and female anatomy, relationships, making love, etc. We are here to help.

I hope this is of help.

-doc

One thing I have always enjoyed with my wife is dry humping her ass. I don't know how to explain this without sounding stupid, but here goes. Lay on your stomach and squirt some lube into your butt crack and lube up his penis as well. Now he just lays on top of you with his penis between your cheeks and grinds. My wife will flex and move and I gotta tell you is feels fantastic. We did this for awhile after the birth of out second because she was still healing and I didn't want to hurt her. He can reach around to stimulate you, but it works much better if you take care of that yourself. This is also good for keeping sperm away from your vagina as his "deposit" will end up on your back. I hope this helps.

It still amazes me that people consider anal sex "okay" but its "forbidden" to have vaginal sex. I dunno... anal is as intimate or more so than vaginal!
Plus, I don't think sodomy is considered "okay" in most religions lol.
Geez louise!
Just do what is right for yourself... don't have anal just b/c! There are other ways to please.

Im sorry but this is just backwards thinking... How is anal sex o.k. but but normal sex is not? Most girls hymens break before they are 18 anyways just from physical activity... whats the point? I respect that some religions say wait until marriage (I don't agree though) but when you just try to find ways around that, you clearly don't honestly believe in that religion yourself anyways. Anal sex, oral sex, and vaginal sex ARE ALL SEX. Have it, or don't, just be safe and informed.

Good post Clever.
Totally agree!
Also about the Hymen thing.. yes for some girls it will be mostly worn away (not all girls). By the time I had sex mine was gone. I also used tampons and had been fingered so I am sure that attributed to that.. I think doing the splits on a bicycle bar has also affect it lol.

Clever, you are missing the key ingredient. This woman lives in the Middle East and she is governed by both strict society and religious dictates. Things are different when people live outside of Western cultures.

What we in the western world believe is acceptable, tolerable, normal, are most likely out of the question elsewhere. There is a Sticky article on this somewhere.

You have lips, tongue, hair, breasts and a pair of hands. That is enough to keep any man satisfied without risking anal sex which can lead to pregnancy. Note how close the vaginal entrance is to the anus - out of which drains most of the semen (and sperm) he will ejaculate into your rectum.

If you do not want anal sex then dont do it. You just need to be straight forward and explain to your boyfriend that you do not enjoy this and it is not going to happen. Sometimes guys needs to hear it flat out cause they will keep trying thinking its a little game. On the other hand he prob does need to be satisfied or he might stray. I know it sounds bad but it does happen. How about getting lube and giving him a hand job. Im sure that would be plenty good for him. Good luck and it is awesome you are waiting.

How to enjoy your relationship?
WHY do you feel you have to do something sexual to 'enjoy your relationship'? Do you think he'll leave you if you don't?

Frankly, if he does leave you because you don't - you're better off!

If you value yourself as being worth more than just a body for sex - so will he, especially in your culture. If he strays, he was not worth your time.

Stand up for yourself, sweetheart!

Well, EEK, therein lies the problem.
Our poster either lives in a Middle Eastern nation or somewhere in which cultural standards, religious dictates, and social behaviors are much different from the Western world. This is why I invited her to share more information with us.

She most likely has few if any options to act on her own or be in charge of her life.

Once, again, I invite her to share and provide more information on all this so that we might better understand her life.

Islamic women are expected to say NO before marriage, to be chaperoned when out of the house esp. if 'dating', and while saying no might appear to be 'not an option' in a culture that values feminine virginity to the point at which Iran does - her saying no will only increase her value in his eyes.

The whole point, of course, is to allay masculine fears that they'l end up raising a child that is not their own. Therefore they are trying to control feminine sexuality.

If she can prove the point by saying NO to him, then she should be able to say NO to anyone else which make for an easier life all around. His fears will be assuaded and she won't get beaten up or killed over perceived 'dishonor'.