I disagree with the above, yet agree with the ending of your comment, CollierAlda1.
These are important decisions and must be considered seriously.
I do agree with Ducy in that if you have to ask the question, you are nowhere near ready to do more. When you believe you are ready, then read up about the next stage and gather information about this step before blindly plunging into it. That said, please read every article listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen. Knowledge is empowering!
[QUOTE=mikkeyj;265837]I have been dating my bf for a while now and I can tell he wants to do something more. Should I let him or not???:)[/QUOTE]
It is not always about "should I let him or not". You can also take the initiative and up the ante' yourself by starting something new and different. Please read the article in the Index regarding boundaries and Implied Consent. By taking the initiative, you also open the door so to speak for him to continue finding new and different ways of making love all within the boundaries you set and using Implied Consent as the non-spoken method of testing limits.
If you're questioning it, especially to complete strangers, then no..you are not ready. You will know when you are ready.
And I agree with the statement that it isn't a matter of "should I let him or not". Don't "let him" unless that is what you WANT. When I had sex for the first time (I'm assuming this is first-time here), I was the one that initiated. I wanted to be the one in control over my first experience. And I've never once regretted it. So basically, unless you're ready to take it head-on (no pun intended) and go for it because you want to, then you aren't ready. You only lose your virginity once, make sure it's on your own terms, not because you're "letting him".
Read the sticky: Am I Ready? Then think things over. No one can answer this for you.
You shouldn’t think too much about it if you want to do something more by him just tell him or feel him that you are ready to go for next step.
NO
You are asking random stranger who know virtually nothing about you, your bf, or your relationship.
It is only a question you can answer for yourself and by asking other people then you are obviously not ready since you cannot decide for yourself.
> You shouldn’t think too much about it if....
I disagree with the above, yet agree with the ending of your comment, CollierAlda1.
These are important decisions and must be considered seriously.
I do agree with Ducy in that if you have to ask the question, you are nowhere near ready to do more. When you believe you are ready, then read up about the next stage and gather information about this step before blindly plunging into it. That said, please read every article listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen. Knowledge is empowering!
[QUOTE=mikkeyj;265837]I have been dating my bf for a while now and I can tell he wants to do something more. Should I let him or not???:)[/QUOTE]
It is not always about "should I let him or not". You can also take the initiative and up the ante' yourself by starting something new and different. Please read the article in the Index regarding boundaries and Implied Consent. By taking the initiative, you also open the door so to speak for him to continue finding new and different ways of making love all within the boundaries you set and using Implied Consent as the non-spoken method of testing limits.
If you're questioning it, especially to complete strangers, then no..you are not ready. You will know when you are ready.
And I agree with the statement that it isn't a matter of "should I let him or not". Don't "let him" unless that is what you WANT. When I had sex for the first time (I'm assuming this is first-time here), I was the one that initiated. I wanted to be the one in control over my first experience. And I've never once regretted it. So basically, unless you're ready to take it head-on (no pun intended) and go for it because you want to, then you aren't ready. You only lose your virginity once, make sure it's on your own terms, not because you're "letting him".