Ok so I need some help, me and this girl have known each other for two years we are very close to each other (we call each other buddies and stuff i an the closes guy freind she has, even this guys she sorta likes but is not sure about is not as close as i am to her) i know everything about her from her fav color to the size of her bra lol but we never did any dating or hugs non of that until recently she randomly said she wanted to give me a kiss next time were alone. And So I was at her house and she gave me a hug for the first time in two years. Than she brought up this topic that im scared to give her a kiss, we had a fun argument of excuses and that went on for a couple min just before I was about to kiss her her parents came and we had to hide for a lil than she ran back inside. Before that we had a nice talk about her and how things are going, than as I was about to leave she tells me that I will never get a hug from anyone and we have another freindly argument about that. After that she ended up giving me a hug that I mentioned in the beginning. This whole time she was acting freely and always looked deep inside my eyes and we made a lot of eye contact, at some points we would stop and look into each others eyes and have one of us end up saying "what are u looking at". When we were out side she crossed her legs often I think and later ended up climbing on top of the hood of my car, she never did that, she dressed like she wanted to impress me yoga pants an just a tank top all colors matching ( she ussually comes out with random clothing that she was wearing, I did tell her that I can come over and she said she wanted me to do so.) durring the hug it seemed like she really wanted to get close she pulled me closer and tightened her grip around my neck to the point where I could feel the our chests were pushing againts each other. After I came home we talked and she said she got in trouble for going out side (her parents didn't know why she was out side though) well we were talking and she said its her fault cuz she made the hang out long, I asked if its cuz she didnt want me to leave she said "idk I guess" at this point I'm confused does she like me or have feelings for me? We were always in the "freindzone" and we never talked about dating. Unless it was about her liking some other guy or a guy liking her. I hope I make sense in my story I know I jumped around a lot :/ sorries about that.
Thu, 07/12/2012 - 10:46
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What is she up too?!? Help please!
So, what is she up to? She is up to waiting for you to man up, throw caution to the wind, and make your move.
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> she randomly said she wanted to give me a kiss next time were alone.
There is a great article about first kisses. Be sure to include this in your homework. There is info in this article that will tell you what to do when, and how to interpret the signals she is giving you.
> So I was at her house and she gave me a hug for the first time in two years.
Why did it take so long? If you want to have a relationship with this girl that is closer than what you have had, you are going to have to take action. Women do not always want to initiate every little thing. This is the man's job mostly. If you want to hug, HUG! Step up, wrap your arms around her and do the deed.
There is an article in another section of the Index that discusses "Implied Consent" and boundaries. Please read this.
> Than she brought up this topic that im scared to give her a kiss, we had a fun argument of excuses and that went on for a couple min just before I was about to kiss her her parents came and we had to hide for a lil than she ran back inside.
First kisses: asked and answered, above. Are you afraid to kiss her? What are you waiting for?
> After I came home we talked and she said she got in trouble for going out side (her parents didn't know why she was out side though) well we were talking and she said its her fault cuz she made the hang out long,
I do not understand this. What about going outside would make her parents mad? What's all this about? How old is your friend?
> Before that we had a nice talk about her and how things are going, than as I was about to leave she tells me that I will never get a hug from anyone and we have another freindly argument about that.
This sounds to me like things are going nowhere slowly. If you want progress, then step up to the plate and make things happen using Implied Consent. If you want this relationship to mean something then start guiding it in the direction you want it to go. So far she has been dropping hints and giving you some quips in the hope that you will hug her, kiss her, ask her out on a date---something.
> I'm confused does she like me or have feelings for me? We were always in the "freindzone" and we never talked about dating.
This signs are obvious. Yes and Yes. A woman will not spend much time with a man she does not like or have feelings for. Now, having said that, she will no doubt move on, whether you remain friends or not, if you do not take the reins. The technique of Implied Consent will help you with boundaries and how to advance the closeness and intimacy of your relationship.
Now, telephone her (no E-mail or texting) and ask her on a date. Pick a movie she would like, or an activity that interests her, then drive over, pick her up, open doors for her, chat about this or than, no little arguments, and have a great time. Hold hands as appropriate, place your arm around her as appropriate, and when you take her back home, look into her eyes, tell her how attractive she is and that you hope she enjoyed the date as did you, then move in and plant a soft kiss on her lips. You can do this in the car, or better yet, at her front door as you say "good night".
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
-doc
She likes you. So kiss her already. Don't get sloppy about it or think it means more than a kiss.
But dont let her sit on your car again - it will damage it.
If you do not understand her signals, ask your mother or older sister. Her next two steps will be to hit you along the head with a board and then depart. RESPOND in kind!!!!
And follow Evil's advice: Girl germs destroy the paint on a car.
It's not the germs, it's the scraping of the clear coat. Even touching it with your hands can cause damage. Paintwork remains touchy even nowadays. Sorry, but I married a car-guy.
And here I was just thinking as I did in high school "oh crap how am I gonna explain an ass shaped dent on the hood of the car!?!?!"
That too, Firmus.