yea i know, the question is as much accademic as practical.
On the practical side I'm dealing with a girl who is a bit of a tomboy so not so much into the romance maybe ? although a rather confident person within and ever more talkative in a group she seems a bit withdrwn on a 1 to 1 basis. I've put my arm round her a couple of times when a photo is being taken so trying to work up to bringing her out a bit, just don't want to cross lines too fast
infact while on the subject [url=http://rotaract1070.org.uk/album/Rushden%20Rotaract/Treasure%20hunt%2020... District 1070/rotaract album/Rushden Rotaract/Treasure hunt 2010/SUNP0015 she is in the middle, I'm to her right, you can probably suspect my arm went across he back (yes a bad shot though ;) as it was taken by a friend that seems to aim to get as bad photos as possible when people are not looking at the camera or in strange poses)
Personally, I find DD2's suggestion of kissing her hand one of the most gallant and romantic ways to kiss. I still very much enjoy it when my bf does. He usually first softly caresses my fingers, puts my hand in his gently and then kisses it. It builds the moment exquisitely :) But he's done a lot of "sneaky" kissing like that as well. Accompanied with a big smile and twinkly eyes I practically melt at the spot! :o Hands are very intimate; though we tend to forget about that at times. It's no miracle lovers hold hands. Our hands are so fine tuned in movement and the many nerve-endings make them so sensitive! Yep, hands should definitely be kissed and caressed more often :)
Other than kissing, you could also just use simple touching to express affection. Putting a hand on her shoulder or a pet on the back could work wonders! But make sure you do it with the right mood/ mindset/ feelings. Really: you can feel through someone's touch. It's what melted me in the first place. And especially if she's a bit withdrawn, I would go (very) slow with things.
You could also catch her eye from across a crowded room so to speak and blow her a kiss!
Shuck, Simon, catch her eye and...
a) either kiss your hand and toss the kiss toward her
b) kiss your hand, hold it palm up, and blow across it from wrist to fingers sending the kiss toward her.
If she ever returns the air kiss, give it a second or two to reach you and then jerk your head as if it had smacked you. Follow this with a genuine smile.
I would try somthing more bold intence but down played. An example like walking along you and her chatting about whatever you talk about. When she is talking just lean in and quickly without warning kiss her lips. Just a peck nothing to wild make it kinda fast so she would be off gaurd some. Then just as fast as you did this say sorry I could not resist any longer can you blame me when you look this cute. Then just as fast as that change the subject ask her about what she was talking and launch right back into your chat like nothing just happend. She should be off gaurd but this lets her revert to norla keep talking or invites for more. At the same time it will get her mind working overtime but in a good way. I would sugest you do this when your near a seperating point. So you can each go your own ways that way it will avoid a very akward situation if she does not take well to it. In either event you made your move and you can apoligise latter if needed. Or she may respond well and then.....who knows good luck!!
Well it's all some way off, a sneaky hug will come first as she is quite shy about "human contact" (we were at a fair running a stall and some family friends came past and hugged her and made a bit of a fuss and when they went she started explaining she's not seen them for a while), problem is I can never get her alone except when we give each other lifts, it's like she don't trust me or something. There was a time when she would not even take a lift from me.
Yea I'm sure I will doc the thing is how long. she has opened up a lot recently, in fact as president of the social club we are members of I'll be giving her the "rotaractor of the year" trophy as she has had exellent attendance especially to charity fund raisers that no one else comes too and I'd like to slip in something about being more talkative / participating more (seriously 18 months ago it was like she was not there at all as she would just not say a word spontaneously) without embaressing her too much although I feel the odd embaressment is going to be required to draw her out a bit as she realizes each time it's not so bad after all.
I got her last year: we were camping and she was sitting on a chair visibly shivering, So i went and got my sleeping bag and draped it over her, she indignantly ask why and I said well your shivering, I can see your shaking (she is always cold), well that was that she left it on there
Well, Simon, there is also the cheek, or, taking her hand and kissing the top.
yea i know, the question is as much accademic as practical.
On the practical side I'm dealing with a girl who is a bit of a tomboy so not so much into the romance maybe ? although a rather confident person within and ever more talkative in a group she seems a bit withdrwn on a 1 to 1 basis. I've put my arm round her a couple of times when a photo is being taken so trying to work up to bringing her out a bit, just don't want to cross lines too fast
infact while on the subject [url=http://rotaract1070.org.uk/album/Rushden%20Rotaract/Treasure%20hunt%2020... District 1070/rotaract album/Rushden Rotaract/Treasure hunt 2010/SUNP0015 she is in the middle, I'm to her right, you can probably suspect my arm went across he back (yes a bad shot though ;) as it was taken by a friend that seems to aim to get as bad photos as possible when people are not looking at the camera or in strange poses)
Personally, I find DD2's suggestion of kissing her hand one of the most gallant and romantic ways to kiss. I still very much enjoy it when my bf does. He usually first softly caresses my fingers, puts my hand in his gently and then kisses it. It builds the moment exquisitely :) But he's done a lot of "sneaky" kissing like that as well. Accompanied with a big smile and twinkly eyes I practically melt at the spot! :o Hands are very intimate; though we tend to forget about that at times. It's no miracle lovers hold hands. Our hands are so fine tuned in movement and the many nerve-endings make them so sensitive! Yep, hands should definitely be kissed and caressed more often :)
Other than kissing, you could also just use simple touching to express affection. Putting a hand on her shoulder or a pet on the back could work wonders! But make sure you do it with the right mood/ mindset/ feelings. Really: you can feel through someone's touch. It's what melted me in the first place. And especially if she's a bit withdrawn, I would go (very) slow with things.
You could also catch her eye from across a crowded room so to speak and blow her a kiss!
Shuck, Simon, catch her eye and...
a) either kiss your hand and toss the kiss toward her
b) kiss your hand, hold it palm up, and blow across it from wrist to fingers sending the kiss toward her.
If she ever returns the air kiss, give it a second or two to reach you and then jerk your head as if it had smacked you. Follow this with a genuine smile.
I would try somthing more bold intence but down played. An example like walking along you and her chatting about whatever you talk about. When she is talking just lean in and quickly without warning kiss her lips. Just a peck nothing to wild make it kinda fast so she would be off gaurd some. Then just as fast as you did this say sorry I could not resist any longer can you blame me when you look this cute. Then just as fast as that change the subject ask her about what she was talking and launch right back into your chat like nothing just happend. She should be off gaurd but this lets her revert to norla keep talking or invites for more. At the same time it will get her mind working overtime but in a good way. I would sugest you do this when your near a seperating point. So you can each go your own ways that way it will avoid a very akward situation if she does not take well to it. In either event you made your move and you can apoligise latter if needed. Or she may respond well and then.....who knows good luck!!
Well it's all some way off, a sneaky hug will come first as she is quite shy about "human contact" (we were at a fair running a stall and some family friends came past and hugged her and made a bit of a fuss and when they went she started explaining she's not seen them for a while), problem is I can never get her alone except when we give each other lifts, it's like she don't trust me or something. There was a time when she would not even take a lift from me.
One step at a time. Keep plugging away. Eventually you will reach your "destination".
Yea I'm sure I will doc the thing is how long. she has opened up a lot recently, in fact as president of the social club we are members of I'll be giving her the "rotaractor of the year" trophy as she has had exellent attendance especially to charity fund raisers that no one else comes too and I'd like to slip in something about being more talkative / participating more (seriously 18 months ago it was like she was not there at all as she would just not say a word spontaneously) without embaressing her too much although I feel the odd embaressment is going to be required to draw her out a bit as she realizes each time it's not so bad after all.
I got her last year: we were camping and she was sitting on a chair visibly shivering, So i went and got my sleeping bag and draped it over her, she indignantly ask why and I said well your shivering, I can see your shaking (she is always cold), well that was that she left it on there