Saturday night (may 24) I was having sex with my friend with benefits. this was the third time doing it over the span of a year and a half. the emotional part of our relationship, is pretty well developed, or so I thought.
Anyway, after the first act, he came inside me with the condom on and then seemed to keep going for about 5 more strokes. then when he pulled out, i dont remember if he was holding the condom on the base of his penis but only he came out. not the condom. i stood up and the condom was hanging outside of me about an inch...and a little semen dripped out from the condom onto the floor.
we rushed to a 24hr pharmacy and bought Plan B. the whole time he kept trying to calm me down. i wasnt freaking out, i was just very quiet because i was in shock.
anyway, i told him to call me the next day to make sure i was ok etc. he said ok, and then drove home.
He never called or texted me. I even sent him a message on myspace saying i was sorry about everything, blaming myself, and and asking if he was ok. he read it, but hasnt replied.
guys out there, what is he thinking? whats going on? i want to text him and ask if hes ok, but I dont know..maybe i should give him more time? is it fair to be left hanging like this?
any input from anyone would be appreciated.
Only he knows what is being thought. I'd say your benefits have ran out with this friend.
Some friend.........
Another good reson to always use vaginal spermicide when using condoms. I have no idea what he was thinking. I suspect my thoughts would be the same as you are having. And, yes, most women have had the penis exit without the condom. It is his actions since that are questionable.
Thank you so much for your responses. Him and I are in contact again and everything looks like its going to be ok. He's assured me that he still wants to be involved me, he was just a little shaken up. I will definitely be investing in spermicide,also in birth control pills. Im setting up an appointment for a pap smear/pelvic exam tomorrow. :)
lesson learned.:o
I know its kinda late but I can tell you exactly what he is thinking....
Holy crap what if she is pregnant, what am I going to do, I cant be a father, I shouldnt have had sex, HOLY ****!
I agree with all which posted. Contact him to see if he is okay? Hardly. Take care of yourself & not checking on you is a strong signal as to his lack of caring for your well being as a friend.
Try being pregnant and finding you FWB is long gone since he could not handle it; what does that say about him? He is willing to run when the pressure is on. Shows he is not willing to accept his own actions and will abandon you. Choose friends wisely & always be careful of your sexual health.
[SIZE=3]Condoms & vaginal spermicide are a must.[/SIZE]
Never ever make a "lady" feel alone especially in a situation such as this.
DO THE RIGHT THING. Treat people with the respect and dignity that you
would have them treat you with. PERIOD
CL - agreed!
NOW you see why we all recommend BCPs AND condoms - right?
(If he's not using lubricants with the condom, the condom can 'stay behind' in you, just reach down and carefully remove it before standing up.)
[QUOTE=Stella;216099]we rushed to a 24hr pharmacy and bought Plan B. the whole time he kept trying to calm me down. i wasnt freaking out, i was just very quiet because i was in shock. [/QUOTE]
Maybe he wasn't trying to be uncaring when he didn't respond to you messages, maybe he was just ashamed of all the trouble that had started. He probably assumed that you were angry with him for causing you such trauma.