Last nite I went over to my b/f's house (look at previous post), and like I said before he had only had sex once with oneother girl. I have had sex a good amount of times with one guy before him ,but that was over a year ago. Anyways, to the point. He always kisses me, and I mean not jus on my lips but on my neck my ears my shoulders and what not. Last nite when we were having sex (1st time w/ each other) he wouldnt even kiss me, and I just wonder what guys think about when they are having sex because it seems to have changed everything...like we already cared about each other a lot, but now it seems like everything is 20 times more serious than before! Help please, what do guys think about during sex?
Wed, 11/23/2005 - 14:49
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What is he thinking about?
Good to concentrate on her, and how she feels, it doesn't matter how we feel, it's the girl!...
At least for me, I couldn't care less about myself, I want to make the girl feel the best she could
It doesn't change anything for me. I will say that it is hard some times to kiss my girlfriend when we have sex. Just cause I am a big guy and I am afraid of crushing her so a lot of my weight is on my arms and pulled away from her making a kiss very difficult. But I always do anyway. I know I am very in tune to making sure she is doing alright while we have sex, so in tune in fact, that I am concentrating so hard that all i think about is us having sex and it makes it harder for me to last long! Oh well. That will get better.
Paul
As a guy, I can honestly say your guy's behaviour baffles me.
If I was to make an educated guess, I'd say he was very concerned about not messing up and paying close attention to your reactions so he could please you, and in all this care he didn't remember to relax enough and kiss you as he always did. If he was a virgin, he may have been very self-conscious about his performance.
But this is only a guess. I think it's best to just ask him.
Talk to him about it. Not every guy is the same, so no one can really give you the answer you are looking for. Talk to him about it, ask him why he was so serious, that is the only way that you will really find out.
-Mariah