I know how you feel. I'm a guy and my girl wants to stick her finger in my ass. I can't figure it either. But from a guys perspective, anal is taboo so we are really curious. We believe its supposed to be tighter than the vagina which makes sense and its supposed to feel good. I can imagine for someguys its like deflowering a virgin because of the reaction from the girl. Also, its a serious trust thing. You have to really really really trust this guy to let him do that but if done properly, it can be enjoyable. Can be is the proper prasing here. I like it, I know a few women who does and my girl is willing to do it for me so we are learning now.

But if you don't want to do it, ask him if he wants you to put your finger in his ass first or he wants you to kiss him while you have his cum in your mouth. Let him know that is how anal is to you. He should understand your revulsion and accept that you are not going to do that.

Another thing, the problem is you met him when he was a virgin. That is great for you but bad for him. He wants to try everything he has ever heard of. Keeping his virginity for some time builds up all types of fantasies and in your case, stamina and imagination ;-). But he's going to want to try stuff you may not. If you plan on settling down with him, you may want to know that he might want to sow his wild oats before settling down. I know I do.

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EKKotey: This is a woman's only forum. Do not post here.

Lincoln: Some women do enjoy anal sex but do not depend upon what you see in porn movies. Those are pro's getting paid to show enjoyment. I do not allow anal penetration but do enjoy rimming and anal play - especially during cunnilingus.

In my experience, most men want to try it sometime or another. We each have our limits and anal penetration is beyond mine.

Others???

I don't mind anal penetration once in a while but that is all. The biggest thing about the first time is to relax. If you aren't relaxed Don't Do It. It will hurt worse. If you try it, you will know whether you would want to go any further. If you don't feel right or comfortable don't do it. It's not everybodies cup of tea. Just make sure to wash before entering the vagina.

For me it's an intimate trust thing -- the trust required to remain attuned to the comfort & relaxation is very intimate.... & yes it has it's own physical pleasurable sensation quite different than vaginal! Not something I go for often, but it should not hurt at all when done correctly ;)

I thought it said men could post if they had something helpful to say, I thought it was a good point....I thought......anyways.