we are good at openning jars and lifting heavy stuff....like to see a cucumber do that!

I provide warmth. This saves them money on blankets and jackets so they can spend it buying more shoes.

I know that mine is particularly useful for lifting things, and makes a nice statue for discussion. He's also the best sex toy in the house!

Well I'm good at lifting things.... and..... hmm. Nothing else really.

What is this? Are you seeking personal validation on the web?

Lover, backhoe, friend, sextoy, husband, blanket, sire of children, fighter off of saber-tooths, car mechanic, breadwinner, all around pain in the ass, the guy who makes you laugh, he guy who mows your lawn and takes out the trash - men are very valuable indeed.

Which is why I recommend every woman to have three of them.

Well I see we've heard plenty from the Peanut Gallery (kidding, only kidding :) )

But seriously, for a woman who actually desires to have a man (monogamously) in her life, the right one is irreplaceable.....

Security, perspective, fun, someone to celebrate with in good times and fall into in bad....

The way I described T when we first got together, and it's still true today, is that he makes me laugh and helps me cry, we talk about everything in the world, nothing at all, and everything in between.

And we are better people for having entered each other's lives.

Oh and the jars thing and the heavy lifting thing are pretty nice too. And lest we forget, the high-up reaching thing, since he's 6'3" to my 5'5". :D Plus, he chauffeurs me around when it's too dark or too bad weather for me to drive myself. And just this morning he expertly saved me from one of the two most painful leg cramps I've ever endured.

Don't look to me WSO to tell you what's wrong with men - most men are quite nice people. Those who aren't can be ignored. Relationships help you develop a deeper understanding of each other and further mutual personal growth. This might explain why you can't "get it".

I like men; I adore men; I enjoy having them around - sometimes. For the long-haul, I prefer female partners. So what does the man do for me? Or, what keeps me interested in bisexuality rather than simply being lesbian?

There is nothing that even remotely resembles a real penis sliding into me. That entry is my second fondest desire in sex. There is also great psychological satisfaction in receiving the little deposit a man leaves behind. The vagina has, as its only purpose, extracting semen from a penis. We are fulfilling our biologic duty by getting this.

I have never been married. Came very close but death interfered, so I cannot give the view of those women with long time husbands and partners.

I'll have to speak for my late wife of 34 years, but when she was diagnosed with cancer 6 years ago, I was her caretaker, nurse and companion for the remainder of her life. Nobody else was there for her--that was the deal we made, "in sickness and in health." During her final 2 months, I left my job and, with the help of Hospice, managed to fulfill her desire to stay home and die in her own bed, with dignity and as little medical interference as possible. I bathed her, fed her, cleaned up her messes, injected her and made sure she was as comfortable as possible. I did the laundry, shopping, cooking and cleaning, took care of the kids and managed all of the doctor and nurse visits. I read to her, prayed with her and held her until she breathed her last breath. THAT is what a man is good for...
Michael

Kind of hard to joke around after that.

Seriously though. Comfort, security, warmth, that feeling of being protected and wanted. These are all things that men bring to a woman's life. Not saying that they can't get this elsewhere, but it just isn't that same in most cases. Not to mention sexual satisfaction that men can give a woman and the obvious fact that without men the human race wouldn't survive.

The following is supposed to be constructive:

Trying to explain interpersonal relations to WSO feels like trying to explain to an immature girl that being wet isn't gross or to an immature boy that his ears aren't the reason he's single. There's just a developmental stage that has been skipped and until that's passed, all reasoning hits a brick wall.

I don't mean to be rude, but it appears that you have emotionally withdrawn yourself from life as a whole. It seems like you constantly try to analyze emotional topics for validation of your choices in life and I think you'll just be running in circles without emotionally investing in something yourself and gaining a new perspective.

I also mean the following constructively. I'm taking for granted that your question is not rhetorical, but that you are honestly asking that it be explained. Like Fun, I get the feeling you truly are at something of a loss when it comes to interpersonal stuff.

Emotionally investing means letting people get close, letting yourself get close in return and being willing to take the risk.

Did you ever have a project you were working on, whether it be at work or in school or a do it yourself project on the house, that you were very excited about and worked very hard on? Spent every possible waking moment planning it, tweaking it, making sure it was perfect? If it was successful, did you get a sense of pride and accomplishment from that? Your pride, accolades for a job well done, the sweetness of victory, made all your hard work worth it, didn't it?

If not as successful as you'd hoped, were you disappointed? Perhaps motivated to do better next time?

That project was a professional, physical, mental, personal investment. The return you got was as a result of the effort you put in....a result of your investment. Read the hard work on the project as the taking of risk in a relationship. That's emotional investment.

Safety is Smith & Wesson. Men are 'fun and games'.

I've never felt as safe with a women as I have with a man.

at 6'6", and not a bean pole by any means, the women I know like having me around when they go out as escort/body guard...for some odd reason, they feel safe(r) with me than alone...

Interesting twist. I have never considered having a man around for safety. I guess it is a valid consideration but a criterion for companionship.

Brandye - actually for protection without fireams - a large dog will do.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;249768]Safety is Smith & Wesson. Men are 'fun and games'.[/QUOTE]

colonel colt made all men equal :D

Not exactly - but he did make might no longer automatically right.

then there's Mr Gattling.... :D

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;249788]Brandye - actually for protection without fireams - a large dog will do.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, but for protection from the intangibles, for creating that bubble through which nothing bad can reach me when it feels like the whole universe is out to get me .... nothing beats being engulfed in those big, strong, muscular arms.

Oh, yeah, I'm definitely an arm girl.

but I can still open stuck jars...and get things down from high shelves. ;)

[QUOTE=mikkiji;248895]I'll have to speak for my late wife of 34 years, but when she was diagnosed with cancer 6 years ago, I was her caretaker, nurse and companion for the remainder of her life. Nobody else was there for her--that was the deal we made, "in sickness and in health." During her final 2 months, I left my job and, with the help of Hospice, managed to fulfill her desire to stay home and die in her own bed, with dignity and as little medical interference as possible. I bathed her, fed her, cleaned up her messes, injected her and made sure she was as comfortable as possible. I did the laundry, shopping, cooking and cleaning, took care of the kids and managed all of the doctor and nurse visits. I read to her, prayed with her and held her until she breathed her last breath. THAT is what a man is good for...
Michael[/QUOTE]

At times, some men make me almost ashamed and embarrassed to admit that I'm a man. However Michael, you make me stand tall and proud to admit I'm a man!

Sorry wet_suit_one...I really have nothing to add.

Simply put...This is one of life's questions that you'll have to find/figure out for yourself.

BTW, at times, we men ask the same question...What good is a woman to a man? :p

Fortunately, there are equally "primtive" women for WSO readily available.

(Not that I personally know any but I'm sure they're out there.)

wet_suit_one...

I was merely jokin' :p As I'm sure you already know... :D

Oh, yes, I know lots of them - but that's what men-friends are for.

So get out there and make friends, WSO!