I like honesty & i hate lying &cheating(dishonesty)i have had too many guys walk away from me without even so much as a goodbye.If they were honest with me then i could at least understand what happened to make them change their mind about me.Also at least two have cheated on their wife/fiancee & lied telling me that these relationships were over.I wouldn't have started anything with them had i known they were still attatched to someone else.

I dislike cowardice.

Cowards lie, use, hide behind dogma, are brutal, refuse to think, are unreliable, have weak egos, and do not accept responsibilitity for their own actions and emotions.

Sounds alot like the guys i dated,mentioned in my last post here.

Precisely, raunchy. Cowardice in the form of fear of emotional storms is responsible for all of those behaviors. When women do the running away, it from fear of being beaten, etc. but most often women just cower and try to appease the angry male.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;260543]Precisely, raunchy. Cowardice in the form of fear of emotional storms is responsible for all of those behaviors. When women do the running away, it from fear of being beaten, etc. but most often women just cower and try to appease the angry male.[/QUOTE]That last part sounds alot like me.I guess i've just gone along with everything to avoid confrontation,but as you say & Brandye in another thread i'm only making things worse.I need to stop being a coward myself and face reality instead of trying to play happy families,when i know it's all bull sh*t

I have a wonderfull bf that meets just about each of my wishes :) I like loving, caring, patient, kind, open and honest. I need a certain degree of shared interest, cause I like to spend time together on things we both think is fun. He should like the way how I always try to figure out the world that makes me so enthusiastic and passionate, yet sometimes saddens me too and sets of the activist in me. He should like this, not because I require him, but it would make him mad if he doesn't as I'm unable to stop ;) Apart from serious stuff, I am very playful. So he should be able to indulge in playing (or it would lead to frustration). Last but not least; I have a strong wish to have a shared household with children. And that seems to be the tricky part...

I hate dominant, macho-types of guys, esp those with a tendency to think little of women. I dislike the tendency of guys to start hiding whenever stressed out or feeling bad... Which according to general psychology is truly a men's thing, so won't be easy to find that prince charming that does not display this sort of behavior ;) I do love it when after all the patience, he is ready to tell me what's on his mind and heart.

According to research on the subject, Red Roses, you should be looking for an older man who was adopted into his family, does not know and has no chance of finding out who his bio parents are who is unmarried and without children of his own. I am informed that such men HUNGER for a family with wife and children and wants to be a father actively engaged in the family - all of it.

Raunchy, you can HAVE a happy loving family IF you're willing to stand up and fight for it. Firmly quash all opposition as soon as it arises and stick to your guns. We are all sitting down to dinner together at 6pm - PERIOD. No excuses. Rules applied to all and firmly adhered to give positive results especially if levened with humor, love and understanding. Daughter wanted to go vegan, said so at dinner, father said without any heat, 'over your dead body' - and that was the end of that. Why? Because she already knew that her mother has to use tongs to handle vegetables - I hate most veges - and the idea of me having to make two separate meals? - forget it!! Not going to happen, sweetheart. And don't threaten to run away from home - it isn't nice to tease your parents like that. And if you ask if you can go to your buddy's house for dinner, be prepared to be asked " second or third mortgage?" or "pizza or spaghetti?".

<--two kids and a million examples

When you ask for a little wine and hold out your glass and you get all of them whining "I don't wanna play wiffleball." well, there's nothing you can do but *sigh*.

beyond the whole not abusive, faithful, and generally some self confidence, it all depends on the girl

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;260569]According to research on the subject, Red Roses, you should be looking for an older man who was adopted into his family, does not know and has no chance of finding out who his bio parents are who is unmarried and without children of his own. I am informed that such men HUNGER for a family with wife and children and wants to be a father actively engaged in the family - all of it.[/QUOTE]

Ha, ha, EEK that's probably true ;) I did great with the "older" part and the fact he has no children of his own. I think we missed out on each other for a few years. About 7 years ago he was ready to have a child, really wanted it. He became chronically ill shortly after. In the beginning of our relationship, 3 years ago, all possibilities on having kids were still open. And he has known my strong wish since these early stages. By now he's sure he does not want it, as his health only gets worse. This choice is understandable to me... but I don't think it will be acceptable in the long run.

It won't. When your desire for a family overcomes your desire for him, you will leave.

Yes, it's perhaps a bit sad, but true, EEK. We both know it and are fully aware this day will come. We're hoping, perhaps even counting on proceeding with a deep friendship, allthough no-one can ever be sure of that ;)