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If you go to the site's Home Page you will find many illustrated animated sexual positions. Here is a link to the Missionary position:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/sp_missionary.shtml

As you see, the woman can do some pelvic lifts. Gyrations or grinding also work. The lifts help with your arousal and also stimulate him to a greater degree.

[QUOTE=TallieFairey;234188]I recently lost my virginity, and we tried lots of different positions, which didn't work to well/at all. Such as the spoon, cowgirl, so we only tried missionary.

[COLOR="blue">This is understandable as the two of you are new to the process of making love as well as learning to incorporate these positions that are also new. Practice, practice, practice. Do not be self critical as making love is not automatic.[/COLOR]

I am not really sure what I am supposed to do, whilst his on top of me. The sex wasn't good, I could just feel him in there but no pleasure or anything.

[COLOR="blue">Asked and answered, above.[/COLOR]

What can I do to make it better, I was just laying there. At first I was sorta thrusting back when he went in, but he said I should stop, just in case i hurt him. So I did.
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As noted, there is no reason to lie there motionless; yet, while it is possible your movements may inadvertently hurt him if you get a bit frisky, just learn from this and adjust.[/COLOR]

Not sure what I should do, we tried 3 times and it was the same.

[COLOR="blue">Making love is a partnership. It is not what one person does to the other; it is what we do with and for each other. [/COLOR]

What made it worse was he kept asking me how close I was, and I was no where near.
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His comment is understandable out of concern for your pleasure, yet stems from both inexperience and a lack of communication on both your parts. Please read the article listed in the Index on verbal and non-verbal communications.

When using the Missionary position, what a knowledgeable, caring, compassionate, skilled, lover will do is to reach around and finger his lover's clitoris and pieces-parts. The why of this has be addressed dozens of times in other posts and articles. This and most other positions do not provide the woman with the needed physical contact with the man's pubic mound sufficient to generate the required friction, so, additional help from fingering is often required. Lastly, if you are unable to reach a climax during intercourse, then it is your responsibility to ask him to help you afterward. If you have learned to masturbate and have orgasms, then he should never be permitted to leave you hanging. It is good etiquette tofor a man to help his partner have one or more orgasms before intercourse as well as after. During intercourse, work at it but do not expect them to just happen as a result of your body movements.[/COLOR]

All tips to be appreciated. I'm reading the site and cosmo and magazines, but they dont tell me what I do whilst Im being fucked.[/QUOTE]

Cosmo is good. I recommend that you go to the library and pick up a copy of "The Joy of Sex", if it is available where you are. In the meantime--

Please read every article listed in the Index; then, if you have additional questions or desire clarification, do not hesitate to ask. The two of you should be just fine once you acquire some additional information, tips 'n techniques, and take your time.

The first time you were on a bicycle, you likely fell. Sex is much more complicated and takes some practice. Clearly, your partner knew no more than you.

Look all over the Board because your issues are addressed piece by piece many places. We women actually need to learn to orgasm. It is not automatic for us as it is for our male partners. Look around the ideas for masturbation. The best training for sex for a woman is masturbation. You then know what you are looking for. And you were not ready to have him in there or something would have felt good.

Get the book Our Bodies Our Selves and start to figure out how you work. Once you know how your body works the rest comes pretty naturally.

P.S. Doc's post just went up. Read Our Bodies first - it is for women. Then the Joy for both of you.

You do whatever feels good to you and NO, if you thrust back you're not going to hurt him; not unless he's a itty bitty guy and you're some huge Valkyrie.

Now then - you are two unskilled lovers so I'll give you the gist on male superior aka "missionary":

he sits more upright and rubs the head of his penis on your G-Spot,
he sits more upright, again, and rubs the head of his penis on your anterior fornix (carefully)

this is not "thrusting" mind you - this is sex using small motions since it is for your pleasure and not necessarily his

he leans more forward over you and rubs the head of his penis on your posterior fornix - this is where the thrusting comes in - this time aiming 'down' instead of 'up' as in the previous two above. (at no time does he lay down on top of you)

What you do is whatever gets him onto your G-Spot and the fornices and keeps him there. Roll your hips, move with him, move against him - whichever works at the time. You also express your feelings/joy/elation. Feedback is good so give him feedback.

Got it?