Guys, what do you say during sex or fingering? I can't get my girl to have an orgasm, and I think maybe I should try talking to her more. But everything I say always sounds cheesy. What are some things you say?
Mon, 05/14/2007 - 15:30
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What do you say during sex?
I've generally found that something like this works pretty well: "It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a blow job."
Jiffy,
Ask her how it is for her etc, let her tell you what feels good and what doesnt, that way you can learn to pleasure her.
some things NOT to say...how much will this cost?? if we try this way does it cost extra? :)
I normally don't say anything at all, but when I do say something it might be like "Does that feel good?" or "Is that the spot, or should I shift a bit?" Her response is directional if what I'm doing isn't working.
Yeah sometimes too much talking is distracting.
If you are having trouble getting her to orgasm...be sure to read ALL of dancing doc's stickies in the new to sex thread regarding this issue.
Talking will only help if dirty talk turns her on, and not all women are into that or have the same results.
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
> I can't get my girl to have an orgasm, and I think maybe I should try talking to her more.
* Talking--when?
* Talking--about what?
Talking a lot during sex can be distracting. Talking in the form of having a discussion about all this is a good thing. Taking what you said literally about talking is not going to solve anything because there is no connection with talking and orgasms except about being a distraction.
Now, there is a big difference between talking as it pertains to chatter, and uttering words of praise, exclamation, encouragement, or confirming a state of pure enjoyment! Such utterences convey a lot of information and often urge our partner onward.
I make a lot of noise but I do not actually say anything intelligible.
When I am into dirty talk, trust me it's filth! For some reason I don't think your g/f will find it too amusing. As her if your finger feels as good as a nice big c***?, How bad does she really want it? Ask her, then ask her maybe you really want me to stop? Demand her to cum, etc. That's pretty mild. Probably don't tell her she is your dirty little sex whore....Getting the picture?
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;178624]I make a lot of noise but I do not actually say anything intelligible.[/QUOTE]
The strange thing is I know a lot of people who are like that all the time.
Well, let's put it this way. She never cums from sex (with anyone), so I'm not going to try that. However, she has been able to cum with other guys from fingering/oral, but not me. She has told me that over the past year or two, her "parts" have become more difficult, even for her.
I've tried all the different types and durations of stimulation that I can, and nothing has worked.
So, I think that maybe setting the mood with talk could help. I know that when I'm lying there after having sex twice, completely spent, the only thing that can get me up again is sexy talk from a girl...it's such a turn on. I'm thinking maybe I can use talk to help get her in the right mental state to have an orgasm.
So, I'm wondering what some common things people say during sex, fingering, foreplay, etc, are.
would we need some "shavings of Dove" or the whole darn bar?? giggles
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How is your stock potfolio? How about those Red Sox? Think Randy Moss will get along with Belachek? We need to pick up milk at the store. Coke or Pepsi? Ever seen a troll? 2 sugars and a cream with your coffee? Just kidding...I think that you should jsut ask here what type of talk turns her own. I would suggest while fingering her to whisper soft erotic type things to her, tell her how sexy she is, how you have been wanting this moment all day, then maybe progress to more and more dirty things. I would not start off talking like you are in a XXX flick. Start soft and move more porgressivly. My wife likes the "soft porn" talk while I like the XXX stuff. We compromise and talk to each other in ways to get us off.