I'm not exactly new to sex but this is my first boyfriend and we haven't been at it for very long so...
Well, a few times lately my boyfriend has had trouble keeping an erection. And I am sure it is nerves or depression, probably a combination of both. When this happens I can see how terrible he feels about not being able to please me that way and I tell him to just relax because worrying about it is only going to cause it to happen more and more frequently and whatnot. But, of course, this doesn't make him feel any better. And one thing he made me promise never to say is that it "happens to lots of guys."
So, if any guy (or girl) could give me some idea of what I could say to him in a situation like this, or if i should just leave it be and try to help him feel like it's not some sort of obligation or expectation I've put on him (because I know that's how he feels), I would be extremely grateful. I just want him to know that this doesn't bother me as much as it apparently bothers him.
first of all it is great that u are so understanding, and now to your question,first off talk about it tell him how u feel about it tell him how you understand and so on just talk and also ask him to talk to you and to tell you how he feels about it and while he is talking just listen let him talk and just listen and if while he is talking he sez somthing that u want to say somthing to just wait till he is completly done then bring it up dont interupt him. thats the onley advice i can give you
... hope it helps
I don't know if there is really anything you can say to make him feel better. He's going to be disappointed with himself no matter what you say. Guys feel this huge need to please us women, and when they can't it's a slap. All you can really do is tell him that it's ok for you and that it doesn't matter how long you have sex, it's just being together that makes you feel good. Reassure him that it felt good no matter how long it lasted.
Maybe if you didn't focus on actual sex as being the objective, just spend time making out, this means lots of touching and kissing and he should eventually get an erection as he shouldn't be focused on it which should overcome any mental problems he may be facing