Here's the situation.
The man who took my virginity, the first boyfriend I ever had in my late teens, is the only person I have ever had sex with. The first experience with him was very painful and quite bloody. I broke up with him because of college and the fact that I wanted to be able to date around for a while but we are still close and every once in a while we still have sex. Most of the time it's still painful, so painful, I end up mad at him by the end of the experience. When its not painful I don't feel much of anything. We've used lube and that doesn't seem to help the pain. Also, comparitively speaking, he has a large penis. It's not just long but it is very wide and round. The foreplay is wonderful and sometimes I really just want to have sex with him but this experience has turned me off to sex period and I'm afraid to let another man touch me.
I'm open to anything. What could be the problem?:confused:
you're not having sex often enough or relaxing enough during intercourse.
sex is painful for many girls who have even had a lot of sex if they stop and start with months in between.
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Please read the section in orange. This exercise may be of help. If not, I recommend seeing your doctor. There are other conditions that can cause pain so better to sort his out with the help of your doc. if these two suggestions do not solve the problem.
Another problem that can cause soreness is how you go about intercourse. I recommend using the Woman Superior (Cowgirl) position for several sessions. This position places you in complete control over where the penis is positioned, the amount of pressure used to gain entry, the depth and speed, how slow/fast stroking is done, etc.
I responded earlier but it seems to have disappeared.
Your first stop should be at your gyn. All women should have exams before their first vaginal sex to preclude this experience. If some minor damage was done, your continuing problem could be the result. Resolution is usually quite simple but you need to know that everything placed right and working properly.
And, please, ignore the first response.
I agree with both Doc and Brandye - you NEED to get to your gynecologist ASAP. Your pain is NOT normal. Period. So get on with getting yourself into his/her office and getting this solved.