Hello everyone I'm new to this board. I am in a serious relationship with a female (20 yrs old) for the last year and a half. We started having sex within 2 months of going out. She is the first person I have ever been with (I'm 25 yrs old). But she had sex before (she told me her first time was when she was 16)with 2 previous boyfriends she had before we started to go out. She says she regrets sleeping with them and wished she had saved herself for me. Which makes me very happy that she would say that. She was in a car very serious accident about 3 yrs ago and she is now taking medication for some brain injuries. Within the 3 month of us having sex she would say she was sore after intercourse or sometimes even during intercourse. My suspision is that the medication is making her not get as "wet" as she should be. She went to her gynocologist and he suggested she use lubricant. We use the lubricant and everything is fine now even though she gets sore when we sometimes hit the 30-40 minute mark during intercourse(which is understandable).
The other thing is that she said she has never had an orgasm with her previous 2 partners. She says she feels different things (good) when we have sex than she did with her previous 2. During intercourse she thinks that she is having orgasm, but she doesn't know how an orgasm feels. I asked what exactly is it that she feels and she says she gets goosebumps and her body feels tingly and she feels like something is released or relaxed which she says she has never felt before. Also there is a whitish creamy secretion (not my semen cause I don't cum when she secretes it) that comes out of her during sex sometimes(it has a unique smell to it), but we don't know if it's because she came. She usually does this when she is very excited and anticipating the sex. What are the physical feelings or signs that women have when they orgasm?
Thank you in advance for any replies.
Everyone experiences orgasms differently, some people tighten up and have this totally tense moment and then total relaxation, others become relaxed and have a spine tingly sense of euphoria was through them.
For me, I can tell when my girlfriend has an orgasms because her PC muscles will clench down extremely tight before, and then immediately after they begin to pulse kinda like how a penis will throb when a guy has an orgasm.
I did read somewhere, IDK if it was on this site or perhaps something else, but when a woman is aroused her nipples become perky (like when its cold) Immediately before and during an orgasm the go back to a soft almost non existent state and then afterwards they go back to perky. Perhaps one of your sex geniuses can give us some insight on the matter.
I think she is having an orgam, just a very tiny one. Congratualtions to her and you to achieving this feat and just remember everything improves with time.
I do know that the whitish creamy secreations means that she is creaming and is a good sign...it means that she is incredibly aroused and generally feeling totally out of it. This has happened to my girlfriend a few times, and generally she cant understand anything that is going on, and afterwards all she can really remember is that it felt amazing. :D Congratulations on
Tell her to compare the ones she has on her own during masturbation to those with a partner--key indicator.
Thanks for the replies Ducy and Sera300
[QUOTE=sera300;194244]Tell her to compare the ones she has on her own during masturbation to those with a partner--key indicator.[/QUOTE]
She told me she has never masturbated in her life. I thought it was a little odd as I imagined everyone masturbates. That's why she never knew what an orgasm felt like. I'ved asked her if she'd play with herself during intercourse and she says she doesn't know how to and she prefer that I stimulate her. She does get turned on watching me masturbate though.
[quote=clint_torres;194252]Thanks for the replies Ducy and Sera300
She told me she has never masturbated in her life. I thought it was a little odd as I imagined everyone masturbates. That's why she never knew what an orgasm felt like. I'ved asked her if she'd play with herself during intercourse and she says she doesn't know how to and she prefer that I stimulate her. She does get turned on watching me masturbate though.[/quote]
Okay guaranteed ALL people have done it at one time. She may be embarrassed to tell you or taught it's bad to do. Encourage her to begin alone. Therefore, she will be able to distinguish what's happening and how to get there.
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> We use the lubricant and everything is fine now even though she gets sore when we sometimes hit the 30-40 minute mark during intercourse(which is understandable).
Many women report back stating that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they do become sore, bored, and tired. If the two of you desire to extend intercourse this long, then extend your love making overall and take a break from prolonged intercourse. Go at this in short stages with some fooling around in between.
If you need a lengthy session of stroking in order to reach the trigger point of an orgasm then you are going about this backwards. Stroking maintains a preexisting high level of arousal and thrusting peaks this and triggers a climax.
Intercourse should not begin until you have been brought to the brink of an orgasm, yet can still maintain control in order to move around and get into position, by making out and later including Foreplay into the mix. Similarly, do not roll a condom on prematurely; wait until you are ready to engage.
[QUOTE=sera300;194255]Okay guaranteed ALL people have done it at one time. [/QUOTE]
i lived 19 years without doing it. only recently tried it once and i couldn't get it to work.
[quote=eminatic;194267]i lived 19 years without doing it. only recently tried it once and i couldn't get it to work.[/quote]
Masturbated once in their lives...not orgasm...
[QUOTE=sera300;194268]Masturbated once in their lives...not orgasm...[/QUOTE]
yes, thats what i was referring to...
But you have masturbated once in your life... So what's your point?
[QUOTE=oedipussy;194297]But you have masturbated once in your life... So what's your point?[/QUOTE]
yes but not until i was 19 (if you'd even call it masturbation :rolleyes: ) which is well past puberty, and after i lost my virginity, so my point was that the assumption that EVERYONE has already tried it is wrong.
Eminatic---It's not an assumption...you did it. In fact, it's a statistic. Get over it & yourself. Your debates on topics are poor at best...and I do notice you target anything I do write for some odd reason.
19 and well past puberty?
Might wanna double check that.
[QUOTE=sera300;194317]Eminatic---It's not an assumption...you did it. In fact, it's a statistic. Get over it & yourself. Your debates on topics are poor at best...and I do notice you target anything I do write for some odd reason.[/QUOTE]
alright so if you made that statement a month ago your entire theory would be wrong. my point was i lived 19 years without doing it, so there are probably other younger teens that have not either-in fact, i know plenty of girls who have not.
my previous post was actually not directed at you, and i "target" posts that i find interesting or questionable.
OK, the way I see it - unless you're DEAD AND BURIED, you can't say that you've never masturbated once in your entire life. Even if you hadn't done it yet, you'd still have the rest of your life ahead of you to try. The fact that you were a late bloomer really doesn't prove your point at all.
[QUOTE=oedipussy;194353]OK, the way I see it - unless you're DEAD AND BURIED, you can't say that you've never masturbated once in your entire life. Even if you haven't, you still have the rest of your life to do it.[/QUOTE]
and thats a guarentee that everyone will? because they have the time to do it? and i referred to my one experience as questionable because there was no orgasm or penetration involved.
OK, fine, everyone but a small handful....
Eminatic - why do you have such a negative attitude about everything? You always focus on the bad things in your posts. Lighten up and start enjoying life before you wake up someday and regret all the things you never got a chance to do.
And for christssakes go masturbate already...
[quote=eminatic;194350]alright so if you made that statement a month ago your entire theory would be wrong. my point was i lived 19 years without doing it, so there are probably other younger teens that have not either-in fact, i know plenty of girls who have not.
my previous post was actually not directed at you, and i "target" posts that i find interesting or questionable.[/quote]
I'll take that as a compliment. I stated that during one time in peoples lives they give it a try. I don't since I find it "void" or "boring"; however, I do recall at one time (about the age of 13 trying the curling iron--off of course) attempting to see what happened. Also, I bet many who say they never have, are just not being forthcoming since there is a stigma attached. Not exactly a conversation I would want to open up w/a friend!
[QUOTE=oedipussy;194355]
And for christssakes go masturbate already...[/QUOTE]
lol well i had the one try, but it didn't work so i gave up
@ sera:
i did mean it as a compliment-it didn't occur to me until you brought it up that i mostly respond to your posts, and i suppose its just because you are a more active member and make alot of posts that can spark further discussion.
i'm aware that the majority of the population masturbates, but if the OP's girlfriend says she never has, it doesn't necessarily mean she's lying- it could just be something she's never tried.
All I can say is, Dont Hate Masterbate!....sorry not really too helpful but still.