Why don't you look at advantages & disadvantages then make an informed decision, then post a legitimate & focused question. Asking members to "serve you up" reasons you shouldn't, for your consideration/contemplation, is absurd.

Here is one really good one; ready to potentially be a DAD?

lots of things influence when. if you're 30 but havent met the right person, then it's fine. sure, you're a bit of a loser lol but if it's not right it's not right. similarly, if you're 14 and can talk about sex without giggling (especially with the person you are with!) and you love them and feel comfortable, then nothing should stop you.
however, there are outside influences. if your parents wont let you you're buggered lol but also... your friends! if everyone else is doing it, chances are you're going to conform. but, if all of your friends are prudes or value their virginity and would call you a slut/whore/whatever for having sex then of course that would influence you.
you shouldnt care what others think, when it's right it's right.

well you obviously dont have to be able to spell.
whether*****
allowed*****

Obviously you are not understanding what I said. If you engage in sex be prepared for the potential consequences of YOUR actions. There are times unplanned pregnancies occur.

Yes, adults dictate laws and policy to protect children from running wild and out of control. Yes, these adults have every right to determine when is an appropriate age to have sex.

Gee, glad to hear that potentially being a father has no bearing on your decision to have sex. Courts have ways to ensure you live up to your responsibilities.

As I said in a previous post, the thought process of; "I want to do what I wish without having any consequences & no one can tell me otherwise", reminds me of an excerpt from "Lord of the Flies".

See my sticky Am I Ready for Sex?

Biologists identify "sexual maturity" at the time one is capable of reproduction. We know this will cause damage in most mammals including humans. Most dog breeders will not allow their charges to become pregnant at the first estrus.

In humans, psychological factors are a dimension of sexual maturity that biologists cannot measure.

Your post arrogance is only equalled by its' ignorance.

> i would liek to know if in fact i should listen to any of the reason u can think up...

ABSOLUTELY, positively, indubitably--yes.

It is a teen thing to believe you know everything, yet when you look at being a teen it is a ten year spread. It has been said (mainly of old folks) that to stop learning is to be dead. There is a truth in this that should not go without some consideration.

Boys and girls enter puberty at different times and over the course of ten years the body and the mind change from that of a child into that of an adult. For boys and our typical development click HERE:

At around eleven you begin to see outward physical changes both to the scrotum and to his stature. The last part of a person to change happens at around age 21 and is something you cannot see. It is the internal development of the frontal lobe of the brain and the part that allows a person to see around corners--or, more specifically, to see and understand and predict the consequenses of his actions.

Two of the main differences between an adult and a child are (life) experiences and knowledge. As parents, we pass along this knowledge and these experiences to our children as we continue to raise adults in progress.

You are asking important questions here, and with the PM to me, for which I presume you want adult input based upon our considerable and collective insight. Doesn't it seem counterproductive to ask a question for which an answer is desired only to discount answers as possibly being stupid or irrelevent or not what we want to hear?

If a person does not listen, s/he is headed for a potential train wreck in one way or another. The more information a person gathers the better able s/he is of making the correct decision or choice when the time comes.

> should anything be able to influence the age u start having sex, from parents to the society

Again, yes.

Quite literally, you can be too young and immature (physically and mentally) to have sex. We recently had a discussion about a girl who wanted sex with a 13 y/o boy who was not yet sufficiently developed to handle a relationship, let alone the emotional and physical components.

Although girls can become pregnant at an early age, her body develops and matures much later. This means that it is unwise and unsafe to have a child until the body and bones have completed their development.

It is much easier for the male of the species to separate sex and love than it is for the typical female. We can have sex for the pure enjoyment that comes from getting our rocks off and not have an emotional breach. The typical female integrates the physical aspects of sex with the romantic ties of a relationship much more completely than the male. That said, most young girls are not yet emotionally prepared for the ramifications that come from having sex. This is simply a maturity matter that will take care of itself in due course.

It is common to read on these forums about girls who have made the decision to have intercourse only to regret that decision after the fact. They answer to the call of the wild and react to their raging hormones finding immediate justification to proceed, and then learn later just how incorrect the choice was.

For boys, having raging hormones is also a test of manhood and developing adult decision making processes and learning about consequences while under pressure. Put another way--it is learning when to say yes and when to say no, and knowing why the decision is a wise one.

I understand about having a healthy curiosity about sex and wanting to experience it just to find out more about it. At the same time, I understand about constraint and recognizing a need to be fully prepared in all aspects for the experience. It is not enough that your body is capable; therefore, I advocate waiting until such time as the two of you have acquired more knowledge and mental maturity that comes a few years after the physical maturity.

In the meantime, if you want to fool around, then I suggest reading my Sticky posts on the how-to of making out. Begin with Necking, and over time, the two of you can proceed on to Petting, Heavy Petting, and Foreplay. I'm here to say that as good as intercourse is, getting and receiving a hand job and/or blow job is often much more intense. Keep this thought in mind for the future.

welll only you know when your ready to have sex, and it sounds like your not.
nothing influences you well it shouldnt you should be able to make the decision with the partner you care about not just so you can say that you've done it

yes there are definitally things that influence sex age like, oh, how about consent age!!

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/in_news/21217-fifth_graders_having_sex_c...