Background:
I'm 25 years old, uncircumcised, and in good health.
I wasn't always happy with how long I lasted during intercourse, so I started practicing with the start/stop masturbation technique so I could last longer. I also occasionally use the Durex Performax climax delay condoms.
Before using the start/stop technique, I used to be able to get really intense orgasms with tingling/numbness in my face/other parts of my body when my girlfriend gave me head or we had sex with her on top. Didn't have the crazy face-tingling every time, but it was always good.
Recently, I almost never feel "complete" after coming. I only come close when I'm on top. When she gives me a handjob, or head, or is on top, I always come with a normal amount of ejaculate, but I still have that "itch" like I could come more--and I usually can. One time I tested it. Counting the time I came from a BJ, I came 5 times within a half hour period. Once from her, the other four from my own manual stimulation. By the last few there was very little/no ejaculate, and I had to jerk off insanely hard. And still, even after 5 orgasms, I didn't feel "finished" and still felt like I needed to come again, even though I don't think it would have been possible.
Has anyone else who used the stop/start technique had this problem? How can I have normal, fulfilling orgasms again?
> Has anyone else who used the stop/start technique had this problem? How can I have normal, fulfilling orgasms again?
Having fulfilling {intense, satisfying) orgasms usually results from two ingredients: first, making love with a person we have an emotional connection with. We become aroused to a much greater degree when with someone than when home alone and taking matters into our own hand; second, by holding off on the number of climaxes in a day/week. This requires being able to manage the desire for pleasure against the need to reduce or eliminate stress.
If you hold off and do not have a climax for 72 hours or more, your next orgasm will be intense. It should be even more intense when with a partner. If you try for multiple orgasms in a session or several in a day, then the intensity will be less with each successive climax; and, each successive climax in the string will be harder to achieve with output becoming less and less. At some point depending upon age and "wiring", your body will refuse to respond for several hours. The only way to "reset" your body and get back to normal is to abstain for a minimum of 48 hours.
If you try for an orgasm too soon, yet say a couple of hours later as an example, then the resulting orgasm will be weaker than what your normal ejaculation is. So, take stock of how frequently you masturbate and also try waiting for 2-3 days before masturbating. If your intensity and satisfaction returns then you know that you are pushing yourself too much too often. If this is the case you may find that managing your pleasure vs your need to reduce stress and tension is also difficult, yet something you must learn to do. Somewhere in all this there is a happy medium.
I cannot speak to the face-tingling, having never experienced this or known anybody who has.
When making love with a partner, how aroused do you become? If you are doing a lot of stroking/thrusting in order to bring about an orgasm, then I suggest that you devote no less than half an hour to making out before climaxing via foreplay or intercourse. The latter should not begin until you are on the verge of a climax--not before.