When I have an ejaculate there isn't much in the way of sensation just a relief of sexual energy. Basically I'm less horny. lol. My penis could be pulsating for the next 30 seconds but it doesn't feel good. Anyways its true that the journey is more important then the destination but I do want to have mind blowing orgasms. I'm uncircumcised, 26, fit, healthy and am not on any medications. I have been married for a year and as far as I remember this is the way its always been. Don't get me wrong I enjoy sex still and riding the edge can be quite enjoyable but I really wish I could get something close to the mind blowing orgasm my wife gets when I give her oral or from intercourse occasionally.
I've read that some people have this issue because they masturbate too tightly with their fist but this isn't an issue with me at all. I've been using the fleshlight to masturbate starting back when I was a fresh university student because I hear it was a great way to train to last longer. So basically all but a handful of my orgasms in the past 8 years have been from intercourse/oral from my wife or masturbating with the fleshlight.
Now I'm just trying to think of what else to add. I can last 30-45min from intercourse possibly longer but my wife doesn't want it to last longer then that. I used to masturbate for 2 hours or more with the fleshlight back in university to train myself. Oh we've been trying out the program for the past several weeks as well. Umm if there is any other information I should add to give a clearer picture please go ahead and ask.
Thank you all
PS: Should I have considered posting in a different section since some of the female experts might not check this area?
Edit: Just wanted to add that I've never been sexually abused since some people might think could be a reason why I don't enjoy my orgasms very much.
> PS: Should I have considered posting in a different section since some of the female experts might not check this area?
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you are enjoying participating. Please note the "New Posts" link on the blue navigation bar at the top of the screen. Clicking this link after logging on the site will display all new posts in all forums since you last visited. The best or correct forum is based upon subject matter, not who will read the information.
The "Fleshlight" is an interesting albeit an expensive toy. I have not used one, preferring to make a very inexpensive alternative that feels like the real deal. For those wanting to do this, take a small plastic ziplock baggie and cut a slit along one side at the bottom sufficient to accept your penis. Next, lubricate your penis and also the inside bottom of the bag. Insert your penis, fold the bag over and add a folded hand towel over the pseudo vagina in order to add bulk.
Position the pseudo vagina with you inside between two pillows while assuming the Missionary position. As an alternative, you can place the device between the mattresses while kneeling by the side of the bed. If you want to recline on your back, do so as if you were using the Woman Superior position and similar to masturbating. This plastic bag feels very real indeed.
I believe that by relying upon any dildo or toy to the extent you apparently have is to train your nervous system to respond to this type of feeling rather than your fingers/hand, or a real vagina which will also have a very different feeling than a persons hand.
Questions:
A.) how often do you masturbate during the week?
B.) do you often masturbate multiple times in one session?
C.) do you masturbate sometime during the day before making love?
As a test, I recommend that you do not masturbate for at least 72 hours prior to making love in order to establish a base line or point of reference. This duration will also give your body plenty of time to recharge itself.
Next, do not begin intercourse until you have reached the peak of your arousal curve and are about to lose control yet can still move around and get into position. If you are at the brink of a climax then your climax should occur within the first few minutes of stroking. If it occurs upon initial insertion or the return stroke or the first couple, then this is known as Premature Ejaculation. If this is happening then use one of the methods outlined in this article listed in the Index:
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation
> I can last 30-45min from intercourse possibly longer but my wife doesn't want it to last longer then that.
True enough. Many women report that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes that they become SORE, bored, and, tired. If the two of you decide to prolong intercourse and love making in general, please do so in stages reverting back to The Program and making out in between.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
I suggest retraining your nerves to respond to your fingers and hand when you masturbate. Begin using your fingers or fist. Squeeze the shaft no harder than necessary in the moment. Second, use a lubricant on your shaft as well as your fingers and use the least amount of pressure possible. Try a grazing action in which you brush over the shaft rather than gripping and moving the skin back and forth as with a dry hand.
Learn where your hot spots are. Most men have one or more distributed around the Corona Rim in addition to the Frenulum. Use one or more when stimulating your shaft and then on to the Glans.
Put the Fleshlight away for occasional use only.
-doc
I have sex several times a week and masturbate maybe only once a week since we started living together a couple years ago. I have tried not ejaculating for a 4-5 days in the past to see if the orgasm is any better. In the end I'm just more horny but the orgasm intensity isn't all that different. The only difference would be ejaculating a larger quantity of semen and more contractions of the muscles at the base. I've read that most men find this more pleasurable but to me its just a release for my sexual energy and isn't any more pleasurable. Yes the glans if my penis especially the ridge towards the base is sensitive and stimulation of this brings me to orgasm but getting to orgasm isn't an issue. As I mentioned I usually try to ride the edge so I last longer and in the hopes of a better orgasm but even though I can successfully edge for a long time it hasn't helped.
You made it sound like I use the fleshlight on a very regular basis. I do not. I admit I used it a lot back in my late teens and early 20's but only couple times a month now.