Hey,
Me and my bf broke up for a good 2weeks...
Then we were talking 2 nights ago, and he asked me out again. (I broke up with him) I still loved when we were broken up and I still do now, he's the one who took my virginity. I care about it a lot and I'll always love him. I just dont want this to be qa break up get bac together thing, We've known eachother for 3 years but have been going out a year and a half. What is your advice and what do you suggest, please any advice will be useful. 
Wed, 09/15/2004 - 01:15
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We broke up and got back 2gether... reply
If it feels right then it's the correct thing to do. Other than that you need to work it out for yourself really. Talk to your friends if it helps.
Cheers,
Ringo
Also, deciding if you are good enough for him or if he needs a "better" girl is really HIS decision, not yours.
you may think you are doing what's best for him, but you aren't letting him have any say in the matter really.
it will work out if you really want it too.
Only time will tell... but i think it's important to suggest that your situations don't mean a relationship together is a bad thing. It sounds like you both have similar outlooks, so breaking up with him so he can find a "better" girl who he can spend more time with isn't the right thing.
Focus on what you have in common, especially the fact that at this point in your lives concentrating on studies is important. You're fortunate that you both seem to share that... common values go a long way in maintaining a relationship.
As for the arguing... sometimes that's simply a matter of learning how to "fight." That's often the case when arguments are about small things. Go back to what you agree on, take a deep breath.
I wouldn't make this too complicated.
Well....
We argued a lot bcuz we are not a couple that sees each other evry day. We might see each other 4 times in 1 month or more or less. So sometimes I feel like he needs better then a girl like me... you know someone he sees every day... but we're in high school and we both have to start being serious with our studies so that gets in the way also with the visiting each other schedrule... and we dont go to the same Hs. and he lives like 2 towns away from me. Inside I do feel like he loves me and I kno that he wouldnt cheat on me... I'm not really concerned with that... I broke up with him bcuz i felt like there might be a better girl for him out there. And within those 2 weeks that we were "just friends" he made it clear that he still loved me and wanted to get back together. And i knew deep inside that I wanted him back too... I just dont want it to be a break u get back together thing... Bcuz I can see myself with him in the future and I dont want to get hurt. So i got back together with him bcuz I still love him. And I always think about him... EVRY1 in school knows me as "D's gurl"
Now that you have more info.... any more advice on if I did the right thing?
Sounds like a communication isssue!
If it wasn't about cheating, then you both need to sit down seperately and think back about the things that prompted your fights.
I think you're being a bit less than honest with us about the circumstances of your break up.
From money, job, where he spends his free time, recreational drug use, drinking, to family or religion - there is SOMETHING that is causing you two to fight alot. So much that you broke up.
Now the fact that you both realize you both love each other enough to try again is GOOD..but unless you look deeper into why you 2 fight, you'll just be delaying the inevitable.
Talk. Listen. Hear. Be honest. DO NOT JUDGE. Put it all on the table!
This is one of those circumstances where no one can really truely give you a manual for you to follow except yourself.
There are many times when couples break up at the moment but then cool down and realize what they had done and then get back together.
But then there's times when things were never really meant to be. You could have broken up with him two weeks ago knowing this was true but are now double thinking because your lonely or you miss the past of you both... Does this make sense?
In short, basically we don't know enough. Don't get me wrong if you saw my last post all the people that replyed to my post critisized me about my lack of information... And I thought I typed alot. But what I want to ask is... Why did you break up with him in the first place? Why do you feel different now? etc, basically what your comfortable with... tell us about what mad eyou break up with him ok?
We just argued a lot, we never cheated on eachother... I really dont know what started the arguements... they were about suxh small things... what do u think
well kind of depends on the circumstances in which you broke up. did he cheat on you? was it just not working out? were you argueing a lot?
any different thing could depend on the severity of the break up to decide whether you should jump right back into it.