Yeah I like to watch my man do it too. I like when we lay in bed and he starts to do it, kinda like a sign he wants some action
I just ignore him for a bit and watch
More couples should enjoy watching and being watched masturbating. Yes, eveyone thinks about oral and otehr kinds of penetration-type sex, but i will tell you, YOU WILL LEARN SO MUCH a bout your partner by watching him/her masturbate!
From facial expressions and body movement, to techniqe and other body-touching! GO FOR IT! Take pics, video tape, enjoy!
MsPersia, of course that dosen't mean he ONLY values you for sex...but look at it this way......if you didn't engage in sex with him (for whatever reason)...he wouldn't masturbate because he thinks thats for single guys...and THAT IS WHY HE DOSEN"T WANT TO MASTURBATE IN FRONT OF YOU ...BECAUSE JERKING OFF IS FOR SINGLE GUYS - AND HE'S NOT SINGLE!
He needs to let go of that perception - and as long as you validate that percepction by giving into him you're not going to ever see him masturbate. And yes, i'm thinking long-term in most of my comments - right now it's not a real issue..but trust me..>EVERY RELATIONSHIP HAS ITS TIMES WHEN YOU CAN"T HAVE SEX AS OFTEN AS YOU WANT....and because he sees masturbation as something for single guys..there is a POTENTIAL LONG TERM PROBLEM HERE!
I know it's hard for you to see it..but i have concrete examples of this problem with couples who i know and care fore deeply!
He never said that I owe him sex or that I am obligated to do anything for him. That's where you wrongly assumed. He does feel that masturbation is for those guys that are single but that doesn't mean that he only values me for sex.
You said: IT's very selfish of him to view you as a kind of sperm depository and fosters a feeling that YOU OWE him sex..
Rawbob, OMG that is so wrong that you said that. Please don't assume things in the future. Don't get the wrong idea. My bf is not like that at all. He doesn't ever act like I owe him sex at all and I know that he doesn't view me as just some sperm depository. I know that he pleases himself when we are not together but he just won't admit it.
MsPersia, i'm sorry if i offfended you, but i was just repeating back to you what HE said!
In your prior post you said:[QUOTE=Quote ]He says he's not shy about masturbating but that he sees no need to because he has me.[/QUOTE]
Your making a simple request to watch him masturbate is NOT a big deal....but he sees masturbation as something HE DOES ALONE WHEN HE DOSN"T HAVE A FEMALE SEX PARTNER. So, he needs to get over that and you should be mindfull of what he's saying.
It's just my opinion, but i've heard guys say the same thing before, and it always came down to a inner perception that their girlfriend/partner should not ever make him "have" to mastubate - cause masturebation is for single guys.
Underlying his "attitude" is the concept that his PLEASURE is YOUR responsiblity. IT's very selfish of him to view you as a kind of sperm depository and fosters a feeling that YOU OWE him sex....because masturbation is ONLY if he dosn't have a woman to f***...and THAT IS NOT A GOOD MINDSET!
What happens if you travel for a week or 2....is he going to just NOT masturbate? What if you're sick and can't engage in sex....or worse, you go for a while where you just don't have sex.....he's going to get pissed at you because you're "Making him" have to masturbate......thats something you need to break him of ASAP!
We've been together about a year and a half. In general we are not shy with each other but there are a couple things that I am shy about. He says he's not shy about masturbating but that he sees no need to because he has me. I don't know why I'm shy about this with him but I am. I'm also really shy about talking dirty with him. I've asked him to talk dirty with me but his answer was that I should do it first. It does seem childish that we're playing this who goes first game about trying something new but I just am way too shy about these two things to go first.
Maybe he is shy to do it front of you. How long have you been together?
My honey didn't start doing that for a very long time. Of course I didn't know it turned me on so much either.
You might just have to give in and do it for him to get the ball rolling. Start out slowly. Play with yourself until you get wet and he gets hot for you.
We often use it as part of foreplay and then move on to other things.
I do think he is insecure when it comes to masturbating. I'm not but I'm shy to do it in front of him. I don't know why because I'm not really a shy person but when it comes to this I am.
I enjoy watching my husband. I really love it when we do it together and he ends up cumming on me. In my early 20's I dated a guy who had a huge, thick sausage. The first time I ever saw a guy masturbate was the night Mr. Huge asked me to do a strip tease for him. He stripped naked, poured oil all over himself and slowly worked himself over while I danced and stripped. He came so hard I thought he was going to pass out. I was soooo turned on. The thought of it still gets me hot.
My partner and I also make video's of ourselves for each other! If he's away on business or fora day or so, i'll take out the video camera and make a home video of myself just for him! When he comes home, i have it wrapped up in a basket along with some wine, massage oil, candles, etc! He gets the message loud and clear!
Talk jumpstarting a lovemaking session! WOOOOOOO HOOOOO!
OH God I love it when he touches himself or when we masturbate together! Nothing better than getting the juices flowing if ya know what I mean.
We enjoy masturbating together every now and then. You can even try lying on your back with your head at the foot of the bed and his head and the top of the bed. This way you can please yourself and even be able to watch whenever you want to and visa versa. But we really tend to enjoy this when we it together. If he ever touches himself during foreplay or while you're having sex. Moan a little and tell him how much it turns him on when he does this. I guarantee you that he'll slowly come around. This worked for me. There is nothing more of a turn on for them especially when they're turned on for you to tell them what turns you on. Alot of times it make them want to do it more to turn you on more.
Mspersia....there's NO DOUBT that many "insecure" men belive that masturbating is not good if they are in a sexually active relationship....well..best to set him straight right up front!
The sexual part of any relationship needs to be a broad spectrum of activities and techniques.
If he wants you to start, thats fine....but make it so hot for him that he'll WANT to masturbate! Have fun with it, but hold the line and dont' let him jump your bones!
Watching him masturbate will tell you alot about his pleasure points and reactions!
I suggested we do it together but he doesn't want to. He wants me to go first and then he says that he will. I don't know why he's being difficult about this because usually he's pretty open to trying anything I suggest. I think he's had it drilled into him that it's pathetic for men to masturbate.
mspersia82 masturbate together. Turn the lights off and light some candles or something and put in a porno movie.
I like doing this on my bed, but a couch or the floor will work just fine.
Lie next to each other, shoulders touching. Its nice to have the human contact. You can play footies or whatever.
Then you both start doing your thing. I tell you there is nothing like it. I love watching my man touch himself and he loves watching me. You can either do this to completion or use it as part of foreplay.
Just remember to tell each other what you like. Be open and honest with your feelings on what turns you on or anything having to do with sex.
I have never seen a man masturbate but I would love to. I've asked my boyfriend to do it a few times but he won't. I think he thinks that men in relationships should not masturbate. He thinks it's only for single guys that can't get a girl or something. I know he masturbates but he denies that he does and won't do it around me. Recently he said he would do it for me if I did it for him first but I want him to go first!
Imagine telling him how to rub himself, how slow or fast, to use oil, or to hump some pillows ... just to watch what it does to him. Having the woman be in control of him.
I have this fantasy of a woman in tight jeans, sitting watching me, and controling my body and orgasms. Making me hold off for a couple hours while I beg for release. Then for the next two hours commanding me to cum as much as I can one after the other until I am completely sexually exhausted. All my orgasms and ejaculations are at her whim ... for her pleasure ... for her entertainment. At her Command.
I'm wondering if sexual control role reversal might be exciting for some wormen.
Now, I absolutely ADORE watching my guy, like, there are no words to describe how much it turns me on, but he dosent seem to like it. He's really unusual in that his man concen in life seems to be to pleasure me, and the only reason he'll do it is because I seem to like it. Anyone else in this sitch? (Situation )
I love it very much. It is a very regular part of our sex. I like to get in bed and watch him make himself all hard for me. And he loves me watching. Says its totally different then when he is alone.
Which is true when we masturbate together. We get more out of it knowing that the other is watching.
Funny but for me I last so much longer with him watching then if I do it alone and he can cum so much faster with me watching.
Tessie~~~~ going off to contemplate Jack and Jill parties. Hmmmmmmm??
I am a member of a group that hosts JACK AND JILL parties. These are held in private homes where the ONLY acceptable form of sexual activity is masturbation. Watching and being watched and mutual masturbation are all that is allowed!
It's VERY much a turn on and a welcome change from bars and swing clubs, adult bookstores or bathouses! AND TOALLY SAFE!
-laughs-, now thats something I never thought about or knew. So alot of you girls like watching your man masturbate? I was always under the impression that girls hated doing that and were a little disgusted if they saw they're man masturbate. Kind of tells you how well informed I am.
But guys definitely wouldn't mind watching their girls masturbate, apart from the the simply fact of watching it, it also tells us what the girl likes and where she likes to be touched, two for one. Pretty good.
It's so easy for you girls to stimulate guys though, with you girls your all so complex and like different types of stimulation down there.-shakes head-
If you get aroused watching him masturbate then you know what he feels when he gets the chance to watch you masturbate. You must know that men are quickly stimulated by what they see.
I did this for my friend a few days ago because she said she didnt really feel like doing anything herself, but she had no problem watching me pleasure MYself.
After a while it got to the point where she got so into I asked her to help me out a bit and she practically jumped to it.
Oh my, it's great to watch a man play with himself or to masturbate together. I also agree it's educational to
see how he likes it done...how to grip or bend.
That's not the case though. I already know that he masturbates but he just won't admit it. I think he's embarrassed or something. He even suggested once that maybe we should wait until we're married for religious reasons but in the end we both decided against that so I know that if we couldn't have sex it wouldn't be the end of our relationship. And if I couldn't have sex with him, he would masturbate still.
Hey!
Let me tell you, girls like watching guys masturbate. My girlfriend absolutely loves watching me.. and usually she helps by kissing me, biting my earlobes, neck, etc.... it REALLY makes the experience even better... Whats REALLY cool is when she inconspicuously begins to touch herself at the same time!
[QUOTE=sexykitty;98917]It is such a turn on for me to watch a man masturbate. Does anyone else think the same? [/QUOTE]
My wife enjoys watching me and I enjoy watching her. We never just start out this way. If I start to rub myself she usually takes over. She likes to go down on me and then have me start to help out. She was down on me and I moved my hand and started to rub my balls with her working on my shaft. We then switched and she worked on my scrotum and I was working my shaft with my hand and her mouth. It turned her on so much. Now there are times she will working on my shaft and pull my hand over so I can join in. She just wants to watch while enjoying sucking on me.
On the reverse side, it is much the same. Unless she is really turned on, she is too inhibited to just give me a show. Once she is there though, then she will rub and finger herself. It usually only lasts for a little while and then she pushes my mouth back down on her. Some of the time I have backed away to just watch and it is a great site to she her touching herself. I have stroked myself while watching which she has enjoyed.
Wecome to the site ibm. If your post is hinting towards what I think it is, this is not a hook up site. Just felt I should point it out since many new members constantly request cam and personal meet ups
I can't say that I like watching him masturbate. That's just too boring. I do like looking at his cock though. It just never ceases to amaze me. I also like watching him stroke it before he cums into my mouth.
O GOD YEAH I LOVE IT and you know what me and my boyfriend haven't done that yet so hey WE WILL NOW
thnaks
Yeah I like to watch my man do it too. I like when we lay in bed and he starts to do it, kinda like a sign he wants some action
I just ignore him for a bit and watch
I also like it but often i can't stay aside!
More couples should enjoy watching and being watched masturbating. Yes, eveyone thinks about oral and otehr kinds of penetration-type sex, but i will tell you, YOU WILL LEARN SO MUCH a bout your partner by watching him/her masturbate!
From facial expressions and body movement, to techniqe and other body-touching! GO FOR IT! Take pics, video tape, enjoy!
Bottom line, its SAFE SEX and SELF LOVE!
Definately a bug turn on.
My problem is I dont see it often enough!
MsPersia, of course that dosen't mean he ONLY values you for sex...but look at it this way......if you didn't engage in sex with him (for whatever reason)...he wouldn't masturbate because he thinks thats for single guys...and THAT IS WHY HE DOSEN"T WANT TO MASTURBATE IN FRONT OF YOU ...BECAUSE JERKING OFF IS FOR SINGLE GUYS - AND HE'S NOT SINGLE!
He needs to let go of that perception - and as long as you validate that percepction by giving into him you're not going to ever see him masturbate. And yes, i'm thinking long-term in most of my comments - right now it's not a real issue..but trust me..>EVERY RELATIONSHIP HAS ITS TIMES WHEN YOU CAN"T HAVE SEX AS OFTEN AS YOU WANT....and because he sees masturbation as something for single guys..there is a POTENTIAL LONG TERM PROBLEM HERE!
I know it's hard for you to see it..but i have concrete examples of this problem with couples who i know and care fore deeply!
My GF used to use a Fleshlight on me. One of those clear ones. God was that hot. http://frequentflyer.blogspot.com/
He never said that I owe him sex or that I am obligated to do anything for him. That's where you wrongly assumed. He does feel that masturbation is for those guys that are single but that doesn't mean that he only values me for sex.
You said: IT's very selfish of him to view you as a kind of sperm depository and fosters a feeling that YOU OWE him sex..
Rawbob, OMG that is so wrong that you said that. Please don't assume things in the future. Don't get the wrong idea. My bf is not like that at all. He doesn't ever act like I owe him sex at all and I know that he doesn't view me as just some sperm depository. I know that he pleases himself when we are not together but he just won't admit it.
MsPersia, i'm sorry if i offfended you, but i was just repeating back to you what HE said!
In your prior post you said:[QUOTE=Quote ]He says he's not shy about masturbating but that he sees no need to because he has me.[/QUOTE]
Your making a simple request to watch him masturbate is NOT a big deal....but he sees masturbation as something HE DOES ALONE WHEN HE DOSN"T HAVE A FEMALE SEX PARTNER. So, he needs to get over that and you should be mindfull of what he's saying.
It's just my opinion, but i've heard guys say the same thing before, and it always came down to a inner perception that their girlfriend/partner should not ever make him "have" to mastubate - cause masturebation is for single guys.
MsPersia..you gotta nip this in the bud!
Underlying his "attitude" is the concept that his PLEASURE is YOUR responsiblity. IT's very selfish of him to view you as a kind of sperm depository and fosters a feeling that YOU OWE him sex....because masturbation is ONLY if he dosn't have a woman to f***...and THAT IS NOT A GOOD MINDSET!
What happens if you travel for a week or 2....is he going to just NOT masturbate? What if you're sick and can't engage in sex....or worse, you go for a while where you just don't have sex.....he's going to get pissed at you because you're "Making him" have to masturbate......thats something you need to break him of ASAP!
We've been together about a year and a half. In general we are not shy with each other but there are a couple things that I am shy about. He says he's not shy about masturbating but that he sees no need to because he has me. I don't know why I'm shy about this with him but I am. I'm also really shy about talking dirty with him. I've asked him to talk dirty with me but his answer was that I should do it first. It does seem childish that we're playing this who goes first game about trying something new but I just am way too shy about these two things to go first.
Maybe he is shy to do it front of you. How long have you been together?
My honey didn't start doing that for a very long time. Of course I didn't know it turned me on so much either.
You might just have to give in and do it for him to get the ball rolling. Start out slowly. Play with yourself until you get wet and he gets hot for you.
We often use it as part of foreplay and then move on to other things.
I do think he is insecure when it comes to masturbating. I'm not but I'm shy to do it in front of him. I don't know why because I'm not really a shy person but when it comes to this I am.
I enjoy watching my husband. I really love it when we do it together and he ends up cumming on me. In my early 20's I dated a guy who had a huge, thick sausage. The first time I ever saw a guy masturbate was the night Mr. Huge asked me to do a strip tease for him. He stripped naked, poured oil all over himself and slowly worked himself over while I danced and stripped. He came so hard I thought he was going to pass out. I was soooo turned on. The thought of it still gets me hot.
My partner and I also make video's of ourselves for each other! If he's away on business or fora day or so, i'll take out the video camera and make a home video of myself just for him! When he comes home, i have it wrapped up in a basket along with some wine, massage oil, candles, etc!
He gets the message loud and clear!
Talk jumpstarting a lovemaking session! WOOOOOOO HOOOOO!
OH God I love it when he touches himself or when we masturbate together! Nothing better than getting the juices flowing if ya know what I mean.
We enjoy masturbating together every now and then. You can even try lying on your back with your head at the foot of the bed and his head and the top of the bed. This way you can please yourself and even be able to watch whenever you want to and visa versa. But we really tend to enjoy this when we it together. If he ever touches himself during foreplay or while you're having sex. Moan a little and tell him how much it turns him on when he does this. I guarantee you that he'll slowly come around. This worked for me. There is nothing more of a turn on for them especially when they're turned on for you to tell them what turns you on. Alot of times it make them want to do it more to turn you on more.
Mspersia....there's NO DOUBT that many "insecure" men belive that masturbating is not good if they are in a sexually active relationship....well..best to set him straight right up front!
The sexual part of any relationship needs to be a broad spectrum of activities and techniques.
If he wants you to start, thats fine....but make it so hot for him that he'll WANT to masturbate! Have fun with it, but hold the line and dont' let him jump your bones!
Watching him masturbate will tell you alot about his pleasure points and reactions!
Have fun!
I suggested we do it together but he doesn't want to. He wants me to go first and then he says that he will. I don't know why he's being difficult about this because usually he's pretty open to trying anything I suggest. I think he's had it drilled into him that it's pathetic for men to masturbate.
mspersia82 masturbate together. Turn the lights off and light some candles or something and put in a porno movie.
I like doing this on my bed, but a couch or the floor will work just fine.
Lie next to each other, shoulders touching. Its nice to have the human contact. You can play footies or whatever.
Then you both start doing your thing. I tell you there is nothing like it. I love watching my man touch himself and he loves watching me. You can either do this to completion or use it as part of foreplay.
Just remember to tell each other what you like. Be open and honest with your feelings on what turns you on or anything having to do with sex.
I have never seen a man masturbate but I would love to. I've asked my boyfriend to do it a few times but he won't. I think he thinks that men in relationships should not masturbate. He thinks it's only for single guys that can't get a girl or something. I know he masturbates but he denies that he does and won't do it around me. Recently he said he would do it for me if I did it for him first but I want him to go first!
Wow PassionateMan I have never thought of that before. Am now though.
My hubby is like liloldme. In that whatever I mention sexually that I might like he will jump to do it.
Imagine telling him how to rub himself, how slow or fast, to use oil, or to hump some pillows ... just to watch what it does to him. Having the woman be in control of him.
I have this fantasy of a woman in tight jeans, sitting watching me, and controling my body and orgasms. Making me hold off for a couple hours while I beg for release. Then for the next two hours commanding me to cum as much as I can one after the other until I am completely sexually exhausted. All my orgasms and ejaculations are at her whim ... for her pleasure ... for her entertainment. At her Command.
I'm wondering if sexual control role reversal might be exciting for some wormen.
Now, I absolutely ADORE watching my guy, like, there are no words to describe how much it turns me on, but he dosent seem to like it. He's really unusual in that his man concen in life seems to be to pleasure me, and the only reason he'll do it is because I seem to like it. Anyone else in this sitch? (Situation
)
Tessie..i hear there is a GREAT jack and Jill club in Orlando!
I love it very much. It is a very regular part of our sex. I like to get in bed and watch him make himself all hard for me. And he loves me watching. Says its totally different then when he is alone.
Which is true when we masturbate together. We get more out of it knowing that the other is watching.
Funny but for me I last so much longer with him watching then if I do it alone and he can cum so much faster with me watching.
Tessie~~~~ going off to contemplate Jack and Jill parties. Hmmmmmmm??
I know my girlfriend loves it. It really makes her wet, which makes fingering or licking her more pleasant.
I am a member of a group that hosts JACK AND JILL parties. These are held in private homes where the ONLY acceptable form of sexual activity is masturbation. Watching and being watched and mutual masturbation are all that is allowed!
It's VERY much a turn on and a welcome change from bars and swing clubs, adult bookstores or bathouses! AND TOALLY SAFE!
-laughs-, now thats something I never thought about or knew. So alot of you girls like watching your man masturbate? I was always under the impression that girls hated doing that and were a little disgusted if they saw they're man masturbate. Kind of tells you how well informed I am.
But guys definitely wouldn't mind watching their girls masturbate, apart from the the simply fact of watching it, it also tells us what the girl likes and where she likes to be touched, two for one. Pretty good.
It's so easy for you girls to stimulate guys though, with you girls your all so complex and like different types of stimulation down there.-shakes head-
If you get aroused watching him masturbate then you know what he feels when he gets the chance to watch you masturbate. You must know that men are quickly stimulated by what they see.
I did this for my friend a few days ago because she said she didnt really feel like doing anything herself, but she had no problem watching me pleasure MYself.
After a while it got to the point where she got so into I asked her to help me out a bit and she practically jumped to it.
Oh my, it's great to watch a man play with himself or to masturbate together. I also agree it's educational to
see how he likes it done...how to grip or bend.
That's not the case though. I already know that he masturbates but he just won't admit it. I think he's embarrassed or something. He even suggested once that maybe we should wait until we're married for religious reasons but in the end we both decided against that so I know that if we couldn't have sex it wouldn't be the end of our relationship. And if I couldn't have sex with him, he would masturbate still.
Hey!
Let me tell you, girls like watching guys masturbate. My girlfriend absolutely loves watching me.. and usually she helps by kissing me, biting my earlobes, neck, etc.... it REALLY makes the experience even better... Whats REALLY cool is when she inconspicuously begins to touch herself at the same time!
yeeeeeeeeeh...its my favorite thing jx
[QUOTE=sexykitty;98917]It is such a turn on for me to watch a man masturbate. Does anyone else think the same?
[/QUOTE]
My wife enjoys watching me and I enjoy watching her. We never just start out this way. If I start to rub myself she usually takes over. She likes to go down on me and then have me start to help out. She was down on me and I moved my hand and started to rub my balls with her working on my shaft. We then switched and she worked on my scrotum and I was working my shaft with my hand and her mouth. It turned her on so much. Now there are times she will working on my shaft and pull my hand over so I can join in. She just wants to watch while enjoying sucking on me.
On the reverse side, it is much the same. Unless she is really turned on, she is too inhibited to just give me a show. Once she is there though, then she will rub and finger herself. It usually only lasts for a little while and then she pushes my mouth back down on her. Some of the time I have backed away to just watch and it is a great site to she her touching herself. I have stroked myself while watching which she has enjoyed.
must admit, i really enjoy seeing someone watch me online, not done it in a while :-(
Wecome to the site ibm. If your post is hinting towards what I think it is, this is not a hook up site. Just felt I should point it out since many new members constantly request cam and personal meet ups
thank you for the welcome Ducy. Sorry you thought that, I was only just putting my thoughts on the subject.
No worries ibm, take a look at my reply to your PM and you'll understand why I put what I did
I don't like to watching men masturbate my pussy is waiting for them
I can't say that I like watching him masturbate. That's just too boring. I do like looking at his cock though. It just never ceases to amaze me. I also like watching him stroke it before he cums into my mouth.
women should definitely help their man masturbate