I have been with my GF for 3 and 1/2 years now and i have always wondered if i really took her virginity like she says. I always figured she should have been real tight but she really wasn't. Sometimes i wonder if she is cheating on me because she actually seems kinda loose compared to my other experiences. When we use a condom, which doesnt happen often, i can barely feel her when she is real wet. I am kinda on the skinny side 61/2 x 2 but the other women i have slept with still felt tight. The other thing is she is somewhat on the heavy side but not really (5'3'' 145). I have pretty much put it off as me being so skinny and her being bigger but i still cant help but wonder about her being loose. someone please help me out.
Fri, 10/13/2006 - 05:12
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Was she really a virgin??
I don't feel you need to worry she is cheating on you. A couple of thoughts for you.
1. Does she own a dildo? She could just be using that. I know that the more sex a girl has the "looser" she becomes. But when she doesn't have sex for a long time she becomes "tighter.
2. You are not on the skinny side. Your size is average.
I hope this helps to ease some of your concerns.
You absolutely cannot tell if a woman is a virgin based on how tight she is.
You seem to have a larger problem, though (i.e., trust).
In the end, what difference does it make if she was or wasn't a virgin?
> I have been with my GF for 3 and 1/2 years now and i have always wondered if i really took her virginity like she says.
In the overall scheme of things, why is this question so important or even relevent?
> I always figured she should have been real tight but she really wasn't. Sometimes i wonder if she is cheating on me because she actually seems kinda loose compared to my other experiences.
Not every vaginal opening is tight. Not every hymen (if there is one) fully obstructs the entrance. It is possible to slip past some hymens. Not all women find the process of rupturing a hymen all that unbearable. Some report that it is quite painful; others say it is just a momentary twinge of pain. Much depends upon the construction and a person's tolerence for pain. It is also very possible that a person's hymen will erode away just from being physically active. So, hymen or not, if you were the first man to have intercourse with her, then, YES, you "took" her virginity.
> When we use a condom, which doesnt happen often, i can barely feel her when she is real wet. I am kinda on the skinny side 61/2 x 2 but the other women i have slept with still felt tight.
You should know and understand that when a woman becomes very aroused, the vagina expands in diameter. Now, I ask you to consider this as a consequence of your actions and to be pleased.
> The other thing is she is somewhat on the heavy side but not really (5'3'' 145).
Somewhat heavy? Not hardly.
> I have pretty much put it off as me being so skinny and her being bigger but i still cant help but wonder about her being loose. someone please help me out
Different positions offer different contact thus different feelings. Only enter and begin stroking when you are extremely aroused and not before. Do not "labor" under the mistaken belief that lots and lots of stroking is the way to bring about a high level of arousal and then a climax. Stroking simply maintains a pre-existing high level of arousal. Thrusting peaks this and goes on to trigger a climax. Devote lots and lots of time to making out, fooling around, and walking the "bases", not racing to each one in turn.
The shape of your penis will also contribute to what you feel when inside. Try out and evaluate different position to find those that work best for you.
the fact of me taking her virginity or not does not matter to me. I mean obviously if i did and for the most part i feel i did i feel thankful i was the lucky one. Except i have just couldnt help but wonder because how she feels but thanks doc.
y does it matter so much?
As it's already been mentioned by two other posters, this really isn't about her anatomy, this is about lacking trust and jealousy.
Wondering if she lied about being a virgin, wondering if her being looser than you recall because she's sleeping around, this to me reveals there are real problems in your relationship.
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;154453]> I have been with my GF for 3 and 1/2 years now and i have always wondered if i really took her virginity like she says.
In the overall scheme of things, why is this question so important or even relevent?
>.[/QUOTE]
Because it made him feel special. My girlfriend told me im the only one to make her orgasm, this made me feel special. If i found out it wasnt true Id be very upset.
[QUOTE=Sirene;156018]Because it made him feel special. My girlfriend told me im the only one to make her orgasm, this made me feel special. If i found out it wasnt true Id be very upset.[/QUOTE]
Except the 'rights' to a woman's virginity and orgasms are not for YOU to possess. If a woman tells you these things and they're lies, either she's just trying to raise your low self esteem or she feels she has no other choice with you. A confident partner and lover doesn't need to be told these things to feel special or good about themselves.
[QUOTE=Blackweb;156019]Except the 'rights' to a woman's virginity and orgasms are not for YOU to possess. If a woman tells you these things and they're lies, either she's just trying to raise your low self esteem or she feels she has no other choice with you. A confident partner and lover doesn't need to be told these things to feel special or good about themselves.[/QUOTE]
Who said im confident? Both me & my girlfriend have huge insecurities, & are not confident at all.
I also never signified that anything about her could be a possession. I know this. But they shouldnt say it if they dont mean it.