i really didn't know where to post this... my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 9 months. and we've had sex before and done a lot foreplay. recently all he wants to do is have sex. and for some reason it seems that he wants me to please him during foreplay, but then he does not return the favor. other than when we tried 69 about two weeks ago (which i didn't like at all, and i didn't get anything at all from) he hasn't touched me with his hands/mouth for about a month and a half. he only tends to do a little playing before he sticks his penis inside of me.
so getting to my question..
what can i do to make him understand that i want to be pleasured in ways other than sex, too?
i don't want to stop touching him all together to get the point across, but i kind of feel like thats all i can do...
Tell him flatout that either he begins to participate or you will find someone who does.
i've tried to talk to him about it.
and he's asked what would make sex better for me.
and i mentioned foreplay about two or three weeks ago.
i just don't understand.
and i don't think he'll be threatened by me.
because other than that
everything has gone right in our relationship.
i don't want to get rid of him just because he doesnt pleasure me.
Certainly is your decision. How long do you want to go in this frustrated state? I cannot imagine a relationship with a mannequin.
Next time you start with the kissing, try this: Grab his hand and put it where you want it. Move it the way you would like it to move. Act really excited. If he tries to jump straight ahead into sex, sexily whisper, "Not yet. Let's go slow" and put his hand back where it belongs. Let him know how good it feels.