hey everyone! new to the forum, but I've been checking out this site for a while now, and everyone here seems to give great advice and know a lot!
so, my problem might sound completely ridiculous, but I just need someone to help me and this is the only place I feel like I can go. I've been with my boyfriend for over 9 months now, and we love each other more than anything. We've talked about it a lot, and we know that we're both ready (I turned 16 in march, he'll be 17 at the end of the month).
Anyways, this is gunna sound crazy, but I'd honestly rather have sex than do anything else, and I've talked to friends about it and they agree with me. I'm extremely self-concious, and I think because of that, the whole idea of oral sex just freaks me out (and grosses me out) - I'm afraid that I'll do it wrong or something and he'll think I'm a loser. Or I don't want him to do anything to me because I'm afraid it'll be a complete turn-off for him. So, as crazy as it may sound, I'd rather have sex with him before doing other things.
What's wrong with me? 
dont worry!!! chances are, he'll love what ever you do. try putting just the head of his penis in your mouth and wrapping your hand around the rest of it. coordinate your mouth movements and the movement of your hand, and he'll probably tell you youre awesome. he doesnt have to come in your mouth either. Ask him politely to alert you when hes going to come and you can finish him off with your hand. Oral sex is fun!!! and if you do it to him, he'll probably want to do it to you. this is normal and in a little bit, you'll laugh that you were ever worried. if you really dont want to try it, then just use your hands, but please do try some sort of foreplay before sex. you need to be properly lubricated for it to work right!!
I used to thingy bout receiving oral, but trust me its something you WANT to try. tehehehe other than that I cant offer you anymore advice than what has already been given. have fun and remember.... if you cant be good be safe
everybody has preferences- its not unusual to prefer sex over oral, but i recommend practising both so you can make an informed decision
It sounds like you are just self-conscious. You need to relax and not worry about it. Read the post on oral sex and then just take your time and let him show you what he likes... which is what you have to do with anyone new. No two people are alike or enjoy the same techniques. You have to learn each time you are with someone new what turns them on.
As Rawbob said, don't limit yourself before you even start. Give yourself a chance to enjoy new experiences.
Lastly and MOST importantly, don't forget to be safe. Condoms and a spermicidal gel/foam at the least.
Have fun and take care.
Well....first off...relax!
Since you're new to the whole sex thing, its probably good to NOT start limiting yourself before you even get going.
Oral sex is, for 99% of the sexually active world, an important part of intimacy.
You're probably more afraid of the unknown than anyting ...that, and that u might be nervous about technique, hygene...etc.
Bottom line, there are ALOT of posts here on this site and alot of folks here to give good advice. Relax, explore, be safe.
If you want to start with intercourse, thats fine...but just always keep in mind that you're missing alot of fun with oral sex. For most couples, oral sex is a big part of foreplay. For most men and women, foreplay is important to literally get the "juices" flowing for the ladies and it feels really good too!