Butt pluggs are for loosening you up. You might consider a strap on dildo with less girth.

We enjoy anal play on me as a regular part of our sex lives. Many years ago I never dreamed that I would enjoy anal play on me, but as I began to understand my prostate and how anal play can be exciting.

We purchased a Bend Over Beginner Kit. It has a harness with a pouch for a small vibrator to stimulate her clitoris while she does me. It also includes two small silicone dildos(Silk Small-7/8 by 4.5 inches- and Silk Medium-11/4 by 5.5 inches- made by Tantus). Both of these are small and easy to insert with lube(Wet Original). DW put on the harness with the Small Silk dildo). She became so hot as she rubbed lube on the dildo and talked dirty about her dick. I got in the doggy position and she lubed my opening. She slowly inserted the dildo in me. It felt so good. She thrust some in this position, but we decided to try a variation on the missionary position. She removed the dildo and I lay on my back with my legs drawn up. She lay between my legs and inserted the dildo in me. In this position she can easily reach my dick for a handjob while she fucks me. She lubed my penis and went to thrusting while giving me a handjob. It wasn't long until we were both cumming-she from the harness vibrator and me from prostate stimulation and the handjob. Cum squirted everywhere.

We then purchased a new harness(Buzz Me Tender) which is a little more sturdy and has pouches for two vibrators.

We have graduated to new dildos. A word of caution about dildo size. The maximum dildo diameter that is comfortable for me is 1 1/2 or a little less, but up to 7 inches long or longer is fine. We much prefer silicone dildos. Some we enjoy are Vibrating Mistress(1 3/8 inch by 6 inches) made by Vixen Creations, Vibrating Leisure(! 1/4 by 7 inches) made by Tantus, Acute(Tantus)1.25 by 5 inches and curved, Compact (1 by 5.25 inches-made by Tantus,.

A recent addition is a double dildo. We use Nexus Jr. with a harness and we do each other at the same time. DW had her first squirting orgasm while we were doing each other.

Remember use lots and lots of lube. You can't use too much.

Some couples are concerned about creating a mess. If you have a BM an hour or two before sex things will usually be clran. For me , however, I use a Fleet Enema filled with warm water before sex. i usually fill it three times or until it comes out clear. Also you can use a condom on Hope this helps. Strap on sex is a great addition to our sex lives.She does me about once a week.

We also like watching hardcore DVD'S together during mutual masturbation.

PM me if you have more questions