Hello all,
I am a new forum member with a couple questions. I've browsed some of the stickies already and hope to really delve into them more but it's busy final exam time here and sorry I'm eager and couldn't wait for answers, haha.
I've asked my girlfriend if she has ever reached orgasm/cum before and she replied that she didn't know. From the little reading around that I've done on here, this seems like a normal coincidence. We're fairly new to this relationship but I've sort of gathered that she has never owned a sex toy and never really experimented with masturbation. It seems like she needs to begin masturbating to figure out the best way to bring herself to orgasm. Is that correct?
Is there a way for me to identify when she orgasms? I've watched her react in ways that I figured were her climaxing but I'm never 100% sure. Additionally, during sex I feel like I've experienced her becoming much more wet than usual. I just would like to be able to tell better when/if its happening. I've had sex before and had a girl tell me she came six times but I had no idea that I'd even done anything. I just started having sex less than a year ago so I don't know what I'm seeing sometimes.
From fingering I've seen her whole body shaking and her body become roasting hot and begin to sweat and moan, etc. More frequently I don't see the shaking but I see gasping/moaning. After building it up more she begins to react in ways and tell me that it's insanely ticklish (this is primarily when focussed solely on her clitoris). I tell her to relax and go with it and relax more but she begins squirming around, moving, sometimes grabbing my hand and asking me to relent because it tickles so much. Is this tickling sensation a sign of anything?
Thanks for the help!
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[QUOTE=ncstatewhoop;230499]Hello all,
I am a new forum member with a couple questions. I've browsed some of the stickies already and hope to really delve into them more but it's busy final exam time here and sorry I'm eager and couldn't wait for answers, haha.
[COLOR="blue">I appreciate that you are busy--been there done that a time or two myself.
Please --BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics and read the relevant articles. These articles address the most common concerns people have.[/COLOR]
I've asked my girlfriend if she has ever reached orgasm/cum before and she replied that she didn't know. From the little reading around that I've done on here, this seems like a normal coincidence.
[COLOR="blue">True. Girls do not have the innate hormonal drive to masturbate and must learn through conscious effort, often years later than boys, if at all.[/COLOR]
We're fairly new to this relationship but I've sort of gathered that she has never owned a sex toy and never really experimented with masturbation. It seems like she needs to begin masturbating to figure out the best way to bring herself to orgasm. Is that correct?
[COLOR="blue">You are correct. Mother Nature plays a dirty trick on us in that she gives us the ability to enjoy orgasms yet fails to "connect the dots"--the sensitive nerve endings in the skin with the pleasure center in the brain via the autonomic nervous system. Each of us must learn by experimentation how to masturbate and then establish these connections. Encourage her to explore and learn and in time she will probably be able to; however, not all women climax and none need to in order to enjoy making love. There is an article or two on this, also.[/COLOR]
Is there a way for me to identify when she orgasms? I've watched her react in ways that I figured were her climaxing but I'm never 100% sure.
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She may or may not be getting close. If she is unsure what an orgasm feels like and how her body and mind react then she has probably not had one. As for knowing for sure when one happens, encourage her to inform you either by verbally or non-verbally. The female orgasm is much more internalized than the male's, so the only way we can know for sure is with feedback from her.[/COLOR]
Additionally, during sex I feel like I've experienced her becoming much more wet than usual. I just would like to be able to tell better when/if its happening.
[COLOR="blue">See above. [/COLOR]
I've had sex before and had a girl tell me she came six times but I had no idea that I'd even done anything. I just started having sex less than a year ago so I don't know what I'm seeing sometimes.
[COLOR="blue">Do not make this so mechanical. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. Making love, having sex, requires communication and feedback (verbal and/or non-verbal); exploring and learning together in partnership. This is more art and technique.
Vaginal wetness changes weekly and can be watery or viscous at different times. Amounts vary in large part to how aroused she has become.[/COLOR]
From fingering I've seen her whole body shaking and her body become roasting hot and begin to sweat and moan, etc. More frequently I don't see the shaking but I see gasping/moaning. After building it up more she begins to react in ways and tell me that it's insanely ticklish (this is primarily when focussed solely on her clitoris).
[COLOR="blue">If you know she is being tickled, use slightly more pressure or change the tempo.[/COLOR]
I tell her to relax and go with it and relax more but she begins squirming around, moving, sometimes grabbing my hand and asking me to relent because it tickles so much. Is this tickling sensation a sign of anything?
Intense arousal.
Thanks for the help![/QUOTE]
You're welcome. After reading the articles, feel free to post other questions that may be of concern.