me nd my girlfriend try having sex all the time but we never can because when i get in ...it doesnt go very far and it hits like a wall and doesnt go in any further...help me
Fri, 12/01/2006 - 23:05
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a wall
Would it be possible you're talking about her cervix ? Is she aroused enough before you start to penetrate her ?
it seems she is wet enough but it never goes in all the way...i want her to relax but i cant get her to...she jumps and pulls away....i also tried fingering her but she pushes my hand away before it gets half way in
okay. are you sure she really wants and are ready to have sex ?
yeah im pretty sure...the only problem is i cant get passed that wall....how do i get passed it?
Did you succeed at least once in penetrating her at least a little bit ?
And is your girlfriend a virgin ?
yes shes a virgin and no i never penetrated
Is it really at the entrance of her vagina and not in it ?
And is she really well aroused and do you use lubricant when you start to penetrate her ? That's really important.
Is she really relaxed ? And do you go slowly ?
If you answer yes to both of these questions, that might be her hymen. But that's really an hypothesis since it is not really a wall. Might be but it has a hole in it. And some women have already have one stetched by the time they first have intercourse so. She can look at it inthe miror. There's gonna be a thin membrane covering partially the entrance of her vagina. But that really bothers me since it is really thin and should be supposed to stretch pretty easily.
It might be due to her tensing up more.
I'll let you answer my questions and I'll talk about it more.
i dont think she is ready if she pushes your hand away. reassure her that you'll wait until she feels comfortable (which i hope is the case)
We need precise answers, or at least I do.
Where is this wall you speak of? Is it a fraction of an inch inside the entrance or a greater distance in and then about how far in? If it is farther in would you say it is toward the front or rear of the vagina?
hmm that reminds me a lot about how it was with my boyfriend. try as much foreplay as you can handle, get her like bloody wet. and most important, she must be convinced that you'll withdraw your finger the second she says it hurts too much. (without that assurance, vaginal muscles can be very stubborn things) if it helps any, she can try inserting her finger instead, starting from the smallest one, she'd know when it hurts and how far to go and she could guide you that way. lubricate the finger before putting it in, with saliva or lubricant or whatever. only put it in as far as she'll let you, and be very very gentle. (clipped fingernails would be very good). be patient and you'll make progress after a few tries. if that 'wall' is her hymen, you'll eventually cross it and get inside. you can later switch fingers or try more than one, gradually.