So tonight my girlfriend and I were playing around a bit, and I lay down on the bed next to her while we talked. We talked about sex for the first time, and she indicated that she wants me, and of course I want her.
I ended up taking off my shirt for her to touch my breasts, and she worked her way down just sort of feeling me over, and she even felt between my legs, but didn't go any farther. I did the same to her.
My gf is aware that I want to go slowly because I'm still not sure about lesbian sex, but when I felt her I found that she was VERY wet. She wants me, and I really want her, so is it still advisable to wait or should be go ahead?
If you went "ahead" where would you end up?
Should you? Here are some of the factors that will determine the answer:
* Your ages
* How long you have been dating
* The quality of the relationship
* What you want out of your proposed increase in intimacy.
Do you want to just fool around stopping at the end of a hand job and/or oral stimulation? Or, do you want to have intercourse? Why?
* If your interest is mainly mutually self-serving, meaning you want a nice way to get your rocks off every so often or she the intimacy and sense of a loving connection to you, then I recommend not going forward yet. You need time to establish a strong bond between you unless you simply want a friends with benefits relationship.
* Have you discussed birth control? If yes, did your discussion determine that both of you need to take equal responsibility essentially taking care of #1? If you came up with a different answer, then you need to have another talk.
* How slow is slow to you? If you plan to make out this week and in a couple of weeks get (partially) undressed, and the week after, play with each other's genitals, then this is hardly what someone older would consider slow. If you plan to spend a month or more at each stage, then maybe you should give it a go after all the above is addressed.
I don't think they have to worry about birth control, doc. From my understanding it's pretty hard for a girl to get pregnant when there aren't any penises involved...
The answer to this one is simple enough - do you want to have sex with her now or later on in the relationship? I don't see any problem with either choice, although if you're both ready for it I don't understand what it is that you're waiting for.
Only part to concern your self with is safe sex...no STD's. Neither can get preggers.
Yeah, just to make it clear - I'm a girl.
My main reason for wanting sex is because I'm so damn curious about it, and masturbation isn't really doing it for me anymore. I want something new. I've kind of given my girlfriend the cold shoulder about sex since we've only been dating for five weeks, but it's getting to the point where I can't wait any longer. I have sex dreams, I think about sex during the day, I get turned on at the slightest vibration....
From what other posters have said I understand that I can't really call what my gf and I have "love" because it's merely an interest right now, but does that prevent us having sex? Or will sex this early ruin our chances for a loving relationship later?
You are a grown woman. If you wish to have sex with her do it if you have sexual feelings for her. I just said don't rush in initially since you were so confused and you worked with her. Sex does not negate a loving relationship later on.