I'm a virgin- and I still live at home with my mother. I just recently turned 18, and my boyfriend is 23, and we've been dating since a tragedy 6 months ago. I met him, and we're official now for 5 months.
But I'm still a virgin.
He lives at home because he goes to school and works; so we can't ever "hook up" at his home, cause his mother is always there- and not at my house, because there are always people there too! The only place we ever mess around is in the car!
We're both nervous about it- to a degree that we just want to be able to have oral sex, anywhere but it! What can we do- hotels are definetely out of the question, but otherwise... what can we do?!
HELP XD
:( Well it's not that I want to have sex with at all, I mean- we both have talked about it- and we figure we can safetly have sex... at least in a year. Sex for us would complicate things entirely, since I still live at home and he's not able to move out because of his mothers health while his dad works!
What I need to know is; where in the world can I got to BE with him alone- as in, mess around anywhere else but his car. He's the first boyfriend I've ever been serious about- and until him, the only one whose genitelia I've ever seen and done anything with.
As far as "sex" goes we've done almost everything but anal play. It's just hard for both of us because it's difficult to fully be excited when we're always worrying- someone could drive by... or something like that.
Gah :confused:
Boats with cabins, tents on camping trip, in pine needles in a forest, backstage in the school auditorium, in a canoe, on the kitchen floor, hut along a biking trail, a sleeping bag in two feet of snow, a gazebo in grandparents garden, shepherd's hut off-season, on a sandy beach, on a porch swing, banks of a lake under the stars, in the hay rick of a barn, need I go on. Have neither of you any imagination?
My boyfriend and I have the same problem minus one thing....we don't have a car. lol. If we did, oh boy, I'd love him forever.
Seriously, me and him are 17 and yeah, parents are always home and we have to sneak every time just to make love. We were both virgins. And perfectpleasure is right, you don't make a lot of noise because you know why? We lost our virginity to each other in my bedroom floor (the bed would have made noise) while my dad was standing on the landing of my stairs talking to my uncle. Talk about a risk...but it was worth it.
Now if you're tired of the car I do have some ideas for you, though they are just as dangerous of getting caught but hey, that's the fun in it, right? So you don't want to have sex...wonderful for you. Keep it that way. If all you want to do is fool around, my number one suggestion is go see a movie. Not just any movie...a movie that's been out for a while and that hardly (if anyone) will be in the theatre. Trust me. It's awesome.
And if you really want to dare it, dressing rooms at like the mall. But that's only if shopping turns your man on. ^.^
Well, I had the same problem. It involved a lot of sneaking around. The first time you have sex, its never usually loud and disruptive, so in my opinion, its not that hard to get it passed the family. You just have to be careful. It really depends on if you want your first time to be anything specific. Hey, skirts we made for a reason :) Its really either that, or just keep waiting for a perfect opportunity. Although, I don't think one of those really exist.
I wish you luck :)
You see, we're not sexual deviants; now, I rather enjoy sexual things and pleasing him and being pleased- but it's not easy for me to find a "raunchy" hotel either- I wouldn't have a clue on where to look EITHER. And as far as trails and whatnot- I couldn't ever get him to go do something like that- I don't know if I'd do it- I would love to be ablone... so yeah, I would; but getting him to do it would be hard too, you know?
I dont think its a question of imagination... more like guts or balls. For some people, mainly people who dont have much sex. It would be hard to just go at it off the side of the trai just like thatl. Although it would be really fun, just gotta overcome that fear and go for it.Let go and let the passion, the emotions, the luuv take over for a bit. U'll feel better afterwards.
Hotels are out of the question for us too.
One, neither of us are of age to rent one and two, I have no idea where to find the "roach" hotels
Out of curiosity, why are motels and hotels out of the question?
The "roach" motels are anonymous. They don't bill you. The one I use around here is $18 for 2 hours and I pay in cash.
So yes, curious as to why you can't use one of those. One (or both) of you can drive so why not try it out? The odds of you getting caught in a car are much greater than getting caught in the hotel.
...and, one more thing about going to a movie...
sit in a rear corner of the theater.
Depending upon where you live you may have to wait a few months for the weather to warm and be pleasant outside. When this happens you have lots of places such as off a bike trail, hiking trail, pasture with a grove of trees, pond, and riverside. Pack a picnic basket, use real silverware and cloth napkins if possible and convenient, otherwise plastic and paper work fine. Include a couple of blankets and pillows. If you do not want to prepare the meal, you can always shop at KFC, etc.
We made out once on the beach on and under blankets. There were not a lot of people around and they left us alone because we chose a spot out of way.
Dressing rooms....movie theatre...woods....trails at a party....his family member's house....
Yeah, apparently the 'wild and abandoned' thing doesn't apply to my guy because no matter where we are, he's up for it. :D
I'd go with you in a second! He'll get the hint! If he doesnt well, I guess he doesnt want it that bad......i guess.