Oh wow.. 13?!?!? :rolleyes:
I was a virgin til I was like 22... nothing to be ashamed of.
Doesn't mean anyone is any better than another person b/c they lost their virginity earlier or later.
Those of you complaining about still being virgins when you're barely into double digits should check the legal age of consent in the state/province/country you live in.
I'm 20 and I'm a virgin. I'll go one further and even say i've never been kissed by a woman. I have to wait a few more years till i'm out of college to play the dating game. Getting 2 engineering degrees is time consuming enough.
18 year old virgin here! Why are 13 and 14 year old kids complaining about being virgins? Serious question, too. Isn't that too young to really be having serious boyfriends and girlfriends anyway?
[QUOTE=ButterflyKisses;240511]18 year old virgin here! Why are 13 and 14 year old kids complaining about being virgins? Serious question, too. Isn't that too young to really be having serious boyfriends and girlfriends anyway?[/QUOTE]
I would think so. I mean, I was masturbating at 11, but I wasn't considering sex until just recently.. hehe.. 15, btw, turning 16 this October.
Well, I'm a 21 years old male and still a virgin, to my displeasure. Kitten, u may be "ancient" but I would gladly do anything to have half as much experience as you. That being said it has been ages since I have been on the site and it has become the embodiment of sex itself, as close possible, in writing; thus i deem this site the sex bible.
Child: "Mommy, is sex bad?"
Mother: "Where did u hear about sex!?"
Child: "I heard about it at school."
Mother: "Yes, sex is bad dear."
{The child begins to cry}
Mother: "What's the matter?"
Child: "At school, they told us that children come from their mom and dad having sex."
Child: "And at church the man says that people who do bad things go to Hell, I don't want you to go to Hell."
[The mother then calls the school to blame them]
(This is a real (partial) conversation between an Aunt of mine and her child. Thought it was funny so now it's posted; OCD is now happy:))
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;240619]At that age, 11 to 13, who in their right mind wants a 'serious' boyfriend/girlfriend? That's certainly putting the cart before the horse.
No, I'm not a virgin and haven't been one since age 11 and I've loved every minute of life since then![/QUOTE]
I see what you are saying as I'm of the belief that "The One" does not exist and that there are probably 1000s of ideal people in each of our countries with whom we could lead fulfilling and loving lives with.
However, I don't think that "almost any guy will do" for a woman's first lover. For good or ill, the first lover affects our future sexuality.
I was a virgin until I was 28, and I'm proud of it. I'm 7mos older than the man I've dated for a year and a half and lived with for 7 months, and he was a virgin until me. Not that I believe everyone should wait that long, each person is different. But my rule of thumb is, wait until you're ready, and then wait at least another month or two. I don't regret the first act, but I regret the first guy.
In other words, 'tweens' and young teens, wake up, take a cold shower and slow the hell down. You're jailbait and you're playing with a fire you have no concept of how to control.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;241663]There is no "right guy" - not unless it is marriage. But when it is just for fun n games - almost any guy will do.[/QUOTE]
I guess you're right. Maybe not being able to find a suitable guy would be better to say. I'm sure I'll find someone worthy eventually lol.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;241679]Worthy of what?
I mean, really, important - sure, but you're not made of gold, darling![/QUOTE]
Stop taking everything I say so seriously lol. I just mean that I want to find a guy who I like enough and feel like he is a good enough person to do things right.
What you mean to say is a guy who is skilled enough to do it correctly and decent enough to give a damn about how you feel about it and isn't just in it for himself.
Correect?
the reason I take it seriously is because there are far too many women who should know better who still believe that their pudenda is made of gold and should be worshipped by each and every male - just isn't going to happen and will wreck your love life.
[QUOTE=lnt1103;241666]I was a virgin until I was 28, and I'm proud of it. I'm 7mos older than the man I've dated for a year and a half and lived with for 7 months, and he was a virgin until me. Not that I believe everyone should wait that long, each person is different. But my rule of thumb is, wait until you're ready, and then wait at least another month or two. I don't regret the first act, but I regret the first guy.
In other words, 'tweens' and young teens, wake up, take a cold shower and slow the hell down. You're jailbait and you're playing with a fire you have no concept of how to control.[/QUOTE]
wow there you cant go off telling teens to slow down what comes naturally...You decided to wait but I dont think everyone else should miss out just because you did for a very very long time which is in a way kinda ridiculous
Please stop thinking virginity is something precious and important - it isn't.
Unskilled labor on the one hand and the weak ego desiring to be the only one 'to possess' on the other - hardly an edifying combination.
Someone who knows what they want, who they want and knows what they're doing is much better and much more fun.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;242075]Please stop thinking virginity is something precious and important - it isn't.
Unskilled labor on the one hand and the weak ego desiring to be the only one 'to possess' on the other - hardly an edifying combination.
Someone who knows what they want, who they want and knows what they're doing is much better and much more fun.[/QUOTE]
Though you have to start somewhere...
That being said I don't think virginity is something precious...just difficult to get rid of...(at least in any way that would be deemed socially and personally satisfying). I think though that's because I have very weak self-confidence and poor self-esteem that I attempt to shore up with incredible amounts of pretention and holier-than-thou self-aggrandizement...
I've tried to work through some of this...but...this summer hasn't done a world of good on anything and I feel sometimes that I'm worse off than I was this spring...(which I know for some may be hard to believe). This spring I was absurdly close to having an actual girlfriend...and then I got employed and had to move away and the girl ended up going with this guy because...he was 'there'...except of course he isn't there...he's in freaking New Mexico...and will be in Texas this fall...needless to say I came out of the situation more jaded and lonely and aggressively prickly than I started...
[QUOTE=EMOkitten;238682]13 and STILL a virgin...:([/QUOTE]
In all honesty, you shouldn't be upset...I would seriously hope that you're still a virgin at 13, otherwise someone is getting locked up for statutory rape and or child exploitation.....you're a kid. You want to have sex, but are no where near ready for the consequences. It's like a roller coaster; you have to be tall enough to fit in the restraints so you can have a safe, happy time. Just imagine getting pregnant at 13 or 14, or an STD from some guy 5 years older than you who has to have sex with a 13 year old to get any......
Depends upon the 13 yr old and who the partner is - if he's/she's 15 then - eh as long as condoms are used. If the partner's 18 and up, THEN we have a problem.
People with your opinion of me are precisely the reason I waited as long as I did. If you're going to treat a person that way due to their lack of experience, you don't deserve them.
My admonition to slow down is because, in my own opinion, if you're not mature enough to be comfortable with your virginity, you're nowhere near ready to lose it. It should not be lost due to pressure from someone else or desire to lose a label. It should only be lost when a person is mentally, emotionally, and physically ready to handle it and the positive and negative consequences thereof.
[QUOTE=cico187;242048]wow there you cant go off telling teens to slow down what comes naturally...You decided to wait but I dont think everyone else should miss out just because you did for a very very long time which is in a way kinda ridiculous[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;242213]Depends upon the 13 yr old and who the partner is - if he's/she's 15 then - eh as long as condoms are used. If the partner's 18 and up, THEN we have a problem.[/QUOTE]
True, but the possible consequences of sex really aren't something that someone of that age is ready to deal with.
[QUOTE=cico187;242048]wow there you cant go off telling teens to slow down what comes naturally[/QUOTE]
Sure you can. The fight or flight response is natural, yet we educate and train people to fully analyze the situation and possible outcomes before making rash decisions to violence or abandonment. To take what you want is natural, yet we teach not to steal. Which natural urge has greater consequences - stealing a 6-pack from a beer truck on the spur of the moment or rushing in to have sex when you don't know a thing about it just to not be left out because "everyone's" doing it.
In regards to EEK's latest comments - Those girls are referred to at Wharton as the Diamond Dildo Club..........and nobody dates them.
I'm sure, funin, but you have to remember that 20 to 30 years doiwn the road, those same 'at Wharton' boys now really wished that they had dated them because they wouldn't be so maritally dysfunctional now as they leap from trophy wife to trophy wife "Is this your granddaughter?"
The problem is that I see these men all of the time and you guys do not.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;241862]
the reason I take it seriously is because there are far too many women who should know better who still believe that their pudenda is made of gold and should be worshipped by each and every male - just isn't going to happen and will wreck your love life.[/QUOTE]
I believe you misunderstood what I meant to say. That was the post I was responding to. I was referring to the women who, due to their belief that it's made of gold, end up treating it as such which eventually turns it into a commodity that they use in attempts to barter with or control the men that they're dating. It sets a horrible precedent where neither side ever lets their guard down to enjoy their time together and look to superficial solutions to real problems in the relationship.
That "club" was just term used at the school to refer to those who acted in such a manner - and there was a high percentage of them at that particular school due to the relative privilege and spoiling with which the average student grew up.
Money can't buy you love. Meaning the real deal. Oh, they think they'll be okay with that but - sorry, but even all of the rampant sex in the world will NOT make up for the lack of someone who gives a damn about you.
The lack of that emotional bond saps all the joy out of life.
I also agree with your point about seeing the men when older. Thankfully I was exposed to men and women in those situations very frequently in my teens and early twenties due to my athletic career and it was sad. Now, when tutoring some undergrads about to graduate with 6 figure jobs, I hear how they can't wait to start being paid so they can get the car and all the girls. They insist that all of their problems will be solved and that they won't care that they're only wanted for their money; they'll just change girls when they get bored and it will never get old. I have yet to find an argument that they bother listening to.
Horrible or not, Rouge, and 13, 14, or 26 - the first hesitant steps, the first errors, the first heartaches are BEST taken while the parental safety net remains beneath you. Are best taken, not must be taken, you will notice. It varies from family to family of course, but when beginning a new adventurre it is best too start from what is familiar and safe - home. Like some eagle relentlessly standing on the edge of the nest flapping its wings for weeks beforehand to strengthen them before finally taking its first flight.
[QUOTE=ilovepussy;242397]im 14 and still a virgin[/QUOTE]
I'm going to quote my previous post on this (with a few additions).
[QUOTE]In all honesty, you shouldn't be upset...I would seriously hope that you're still a virgin at 13, otherwise someone is getting locked up for statutory rape and or child exploitation.....you're a kid. You want to have sex, but are no where near ready for the consequences. It's like a roller coaster; you have to be tall enough to fit in the restraints so you can have a safe, happy time.
Just imagine getting pregnant at 13 or 14. You wouldn't be able to deal with it, there would be major ripping because your body isn't ready to have a child yet (and therefore not ready for sex...the biological purpose of having which is for childbirth). Even with an abortion, there isn't the maturity behind it yet if you were to have one.
If you're a guy, imagine getting someone pregnant. You're definitely not in any place of maturity to be able to help your partner,or to help support a child, should one be born. There's not a decent level of responsibility yet; sex is an action, it can have consequences.
Now we reach the issue with sex at a young age (Evil will disagree). I'm of the belief that you need to test out future partners, yes, but only if you're old and mature enough to deal with love, hurt, disloyalty etc. No boy wants to get into a relationship at that age, so if you're looking for one by using sex, you'll be disappointed. Likewise, if you're a boy and having sex in your same age group, the girl will most likely want a relationship and get attached to you. Do you really want to deal with the emotions of a girl who isn't done maturing yet? NO! It'll be absolutely horrible.
My advice: Wait until you're 17/18 before getting into the world of sex. You'll still have all the time in the world to play, but you won't have to deal with school drama, you'll be much more mature and capable of taking care of the consequences of sex, and who knows, you could find your life partner (and be old enough to pursue a decent non-high schoolish relationship).
Patience is a virtue, the same can be very true with sex.
WTH is it with people being upset at 'still' being virgins before they can even legally practice driving with a licensed adult in the front seat? Age of Consent laws aren't made with random, arbitrary numbers that someone draws out of a hat. Rouge is right-one is best served starting sex at a stage in their lives when they can deal with the possible consequences, both good and bad. At 13-14 you're just not equipped, either physically or emotionally.
And don't kid yourself--some families wouldn't be supportive. I knew a girl a few years back who got pregnant very early in high school and she got kicked out of home. She was also so immature she was planning herself a shower, the date of which was before she was even showing. Personally, the first night I stayed over with a man, when I was 28 by the way, my mother literally cried and 'couldn't' go to church the next morning (it was a Saturday night) because she couldn't figure out how to explain my absence.
Some will blame the second paragraph on the taboo about sex, and may have a point. But, in case those things do happen, a person needs the maturity of which the first paragraph speaks before diving in.
Oh wow.. 13?!?!? :rolleyes:
I was a virgin til I was like 22... nothing to be ashamed of.
Doesn't mean anyone is any better than another person b/c they lost their virginity earlier or later.
can this thread be locked please? its just that i thought it wasnt posted so tthers a second one
PLEASE LOCK :)
Ya , I am 28 an still a virgin. I will be 29 in June.
I'm a virgin, and am 17. Which I guess is somewhat normal...
I'm 16 and still a virgin
i'm a 17 yr old male and is still a virgin.
i'm 15 and i'm a virgin!
15 and a virgin!
13 and STILL a virgin...:(
Those of you complaining about still being virgins when you're barely into double digits should check the legal age of consent in the state/province/country you live in.
I'm 20 and I'm a virgin. I'll go one further and even say i've never been kissed by a woman. I have to wait a few more years till i'm out of college to play the dating game. Getting 2 engineering degrees is time consuming enough.
17 and still a virgin i would like to have sex but i can wait
15 and still a virgin!!!
15 still a virgin ne one want to hook up im looking for a girl from nebraska
19 year old virgin!
WOO HOO!
:D
18 year old virgin here! Why are 13 and 14 year old kids complaining about being virgins? Serious question, too. Isn't that too young to really be having serious boyfriends and girlfriends anyway?
[QUOTE=ButterflyKisses;240511]18 year old virgin here! Why are 13 and 14 year old kids complaining about being virgins? Serious question, too. Isn't that too young to really be having serious boyfriends and girlfriends anyway?[/QUOTE]
I would think so. I mean, I was masturbating at 11, but I wasn't considering sex until just recently.. hehe.. 15, btw, turning 16 this October.
[QUOTE=johnnymac57;236895]Ya , I am 28 an still a virgin. I will be 29 in June.[/QUOTE]
hmm have you considered getting a girlfriend?
I was a virgin till 14... =D
At that age, 11 to 13, who in their right mind wants a 'serious' boyfriend/girlfriend? That's certainly putting the cart before the horse.
No, I'm not a virgin and haven't been one since age 11 and I've loved every minute of life since then!
Well, I'm a 21 years old male and still a virgin, to my displeasure. Kitten, u may be "ancient" but I would gladly do anything to have half as much experience as you. That being said it has been ages since I have been on the site and it has become the embodiment of sex itself, as close possible, in writing; thus i deem this site the sex bible.
Child: "Mommy, is sex bad?"
Mother: "Where did u hear about sex!?"
Child: "I heard about it at school."
Mother: "Yes, sex is bad dear."
{The child begins to cry}
Mother: "What's the matter?"
Child: "At school, they told us that children come from their mom and dad having sex."
Child: "And at church the man says that people who do bad things go to Hell, I don't want you to go to Hell."
[The mother then calls the school to blame them]
(This is a real (partial) conversation between an Aunt of mine and her child. Thought it was funny so now it's posted; OCD is now happy:))
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;240619]At that age, 11 to 13, who in their right mind wants a 'serious' boyfriend/girlfriend? That's certainly putting the cart before the horse.
No, I'm not a virgin and haven't been one since age 11 and I've loved every minute of life since then![/QUOTE]
lol how old are you now?
I am ancient, thank you.
i am 31 and i did alot sex before hehehe
I see what you are saying as I'm of the belief that "The One" does not exist and that there are probably 1000s of ideal people in each of our countries with whom we could lead fulfilling and loving lives with.
However, I don't think that "almost any guy will do" for a woman's first lover. For good or ill, the first lover affects our future sexuality.
I was a virgin until I was 28, and I'm proud of it. I'm 7mos older than the man I've dated for a year and a half and lived with for 7 months, and he was a virgin until me. Not that I believe everyone should wait that long, each person is different. But my rule of thumb is, wait until you're ready, and then wait at least another month or two. I don't regret the first act, but I regret the first guy.
In other words, 'tweens' and young teens, wake up, take a cold shower and slow the hell down. You're jailbait and you're playing with a fire you have no concept of how to control.
There is no "right guy" - not unless it is marriage. But when it is just for fun n games - almost any guy will do.
I'm 19 and still a virgin. I'm ready to not be one but I can't find the right guy lol.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;241663]There is no "right guy" - not unless it is marriage. But when it is just for fun n games - almost any guy will do.[/QUOTE]
I guess you're right. Maybe not being able to find a suitable guy would be better to say. I'm sure I'll find someone worthy eventually lol.
Worthy of what?
I mean, really, important - sure, but you're not made of gold, darling!
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;241679]Worthy of what?
I mean, really, important - sure, but you're not made of gold, darling![/QUOTE]
Stop taking everything I say so seriously lol. I just mean that I want to find a guy who I like enough and feel like he is a good enough person to do things right.
What you mean to say is a guy who is skilled enough to do it correctly and decent enough to give a damn about how you feel about it and isn't just in it for himself.
Correect?
the reason I take it seriously is because there are far too many women who should know better who still believe that their pudenda is made of gold and should be worshipped by each and every male - just isn't going to happen and will wreck your love life.
15 and a virgin. well...define virgin. fingering, blowjobs, etc count? or is penetration the part where u lose your v-card.
Technically penetration only but ethically any and all of it couints as sex.
[QUOTE=lnt1103;241666]I was a virgin until I was 28, and I'm proud of it. I'm 7mos older than the man I've dated for a year and a half and lived with for 7 months, and he was a virgin until me. Not that I believe everyone should wait that long, each person is different. But my rule of thumb is, wait until you're ready, and then wait at least another month or two. I don't regret the first act, but I regret the first guy.
In other words, 'tweens' and young teens, wake up, take a cold shower and slow the hell down. You're jailbait and you're playing with a fire you have no concept of how to control.[/QUOTE]
wow there you cant go off telling teens to slow down what comes naturally...You decided to wait but I dont think everyone else should miss out just because you did for a very very long time which is in a way kinda ridiculous
Please stop thinking virginity is something precious and important - it isn't.
Unskilled labor on the one hand and the weak ego desiring to be the only one 'to possess' on the other - hardly an edifying combination.
Someone who knows what they want, who they want and knows what they're doing is much better and much more fun.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;242075]Please stop thinking virginity is something precious and important - it isn't.
Unskilled labor on the one hand and the weak ego desiring to be the only one 'to possess' on the other - hardly an edifying combination.
Someone who knows what they want, who they want and knows what they're doing is much better and much more fun.[/QUOTE]
Though you have to start somewhere...
That being said I don't think virginity is something precious...just difficult to get rid of...(at least in any way that would be deemed socially and personally satisfying). I think though that's because I have very weak self-confidence and poor self-esteem that I attempt to shore up with incredible amounts of pretention and holier-than-thou self-aggrandizement...
I've tried to work through some of this...but...this summer hasn't done a world of good on anything and I feel sometimes that I'm worse off than I was this spring...(which I know for some may be hard to believe). This spring I was absurdly close to having an actual girlfriend...and then I got employed and had to move away and the girl ended up going with this guy because...he was 'there'...except of course he isn't there...he's in freaking New Mexico...and will be in Texas this fall...needless to say I came out of the situation more jaded and lonely and aggressively prickly than I started...
[QUOTE=EMOkitten;238682]13 and STILL a virgin...:([/QUOTE]
In all honesty, you shouldn't be upset...I would seriously hope that you're still a virgin at 13, otherwise someone is getting locked up for statutory rape and or child exploitation.....you're a kid. You want to have sex, but are no where near ready for the consequences. It's like a roller coaster; you have to be tall enough to fit in the restraints so you can have a safe, happy time. Just imagine getting pregnant at 13 or 14, or an STD from some guy 5 years older than you who has to have sex with a 13 year old to get any......
Depends upon the 13 yr old and who the partner is - if he's/she's 15 then - eh as long as condoms are used. If the partner's 18 and up, THEN we have a problem.
People with your opinion of me are precisely the reason I waited as long as I did. If you're going to treat a person that way due to their lack of experience, you don't deserve them.
My admonition to slow down is because, in my own opinion, if you're not mature enough to be comfortable with your virginity, you're nowhere near ready to lose it. It should not be lost due to pressure from someone else or desire to lose a label. It should only be lost when a person is mentally, emotionally, and physically ready to handle it and the positive and negative consequences thereof.
[QUOTE=cico187;242048]wow there you cant go off telling teens to slow down what comes naturally...You decided to wait but I dont think everyone else should miss out just because you did for a very very long time which is in a way kinda ridiculous[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;242213]Depends upon the 13 yr old and who the partner is - if he's/she's 15 then - eh as long as condoms are used. If the partner's 18 and up, THEN we have a problem.[/QUOTE]
True, but the possible consequences of sex really aren't something that someone of that age is ready to deal with.
[QUOTE=cico187;242048]wow there you cant go off telling teens to slow down what comes naturally[/QUOTE]
Sure you can. The fight or flight response is natural, yet we educate and train people to fully analyze the situation and possible outcomes before making rash decisions to violence or abandonment. To take what you want is natural, yet we teach not to steal. Which natural urge has greater consequences - stealing a 6-pack from a beer truck on the spur of the moment or rushing in to have sex when you don't know a thing about it just to not be left out because "everyone's" doing it.
In regards to EEK's latest comments - Those girls are referred to at Wharton as the Diamond Dildo Club..........and nobody dates them.
I'm sure, funin, but you have to remember that 20 to 30 years doiwn the road, those same 'at Wharton' boys now really wished that they had dated them because they wouldn't be so maritally dysfunctional now as they leap from trophy wife to trophy wife "Is this your granddaughter?"
The problem is that I see these men all of the time and you guys do not.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;241862]
the reason I take it seriously is because there are far too many women who should know better who still believe that their pudenda is made of gold and should be worshipped by each and every male - just isn't going to happen and will wreck your love life.[/QUOTE]
I believe you misunderstood what I meant to say. That was the post I was responding to. I was referring to the women who, due to their belief that it's made of gold, end up treating it as such which eventually turns it into a commodity that they use in attempts to barter with or control the men that they're dating. It sets a horrible precedent where neither side ever lets their guard down to enjoy their time together and look to superficial solutions to real problems in the relationship.
That "club" was just term used at the school to refer to those who acted in such a manner - and there was a high percentage of them at that particular school due to the relative privilege and spoiling with which the average student grew up.
Yes, I did misunderstand you.
Money can't buy you love. Meaning the real deal. Oh, they think they'll be okay with that but - sorry, but even all of the rampant sex in the world will NOT make up for the lack of someone who gives a damn about you.
The lack of that emotional bond saps all the joy out of life.
I also agree with your point about seeing the men when older. Thankfully I was exposed to men and women in those situations very frequently in my teens and early twenties due to my athletic career and it was sad. Now, when tutoring some undergrads about to graduate with 6 figure jobs, I hear how they can't wait to start being paid so they can get the car and all the girls. They insist that all of their problems will be solved and that they won't care that they're only wanted for their money; they'll just change girls when they get bored and it will never get old. I have yet to find an argument that they bother listening to.
im 14 and still a virgin
Horrible or not, Rouge, and 13, 14, or 26 - the first hesitant steps, the first errors, the first heartaches are BEST taken while the parental safety net remains beneath you. Are best taken, not must be taken, you will notice. It varies from family to family of course, but when beginning a new adventurre it is best too start from what is familiar and safe - home. Like some eagle relentlessly standing on the edge of the nest flapping its wings for weeks beforehand to strengthen them before finally taking its first flight.
[QUOTE=ilovepussy;242397]im 14 and still a virgin[/QUOTE]
I'm going to quote my previous post on this (with a few additions).
[QUOTE]In all honesty, you shouldn't be upset...I would seriously hope that you're still a virgin at 13, otherwise someone is getting locked up for statutory rape and or child exploitation.....you're a kid. You want to have sex, but are no where near ready for the consequences. It's like a roller coaster; you have to be tall enough to fit in the restraints so you can have a safe, happy time.
Just imagine getting pregnant at 13 or 14. You wouldn't be able to deal with it, there would be major ripping because your body isn't ready to have a child yet (and therefore not ready for sex...the biological purpose of having which is for childbirth). Even with an abortion, there isn't the maturity behind it yet if you were to have one.
If you're a guy, imagine getting someone pregnant. You're definitely not in any place of maturity to be able to help your partner,or to help support a child, should one be born. There's not a decent level of responsibility yet; sex is an action, it can have consequences.
Now we reach the issue with sex at a young age (Evil will disagree). I'm of the belief that you need to test out future partners, yes, but only if you're old and mature enough to deal with love, hurt, disloyalty etc. No boy wants to get into a relationship at that age, so if you're looking for one by using sex, you'll be disappointed. Likewise, if you're a boy and having sex in your same age group, the girl will most likely want a relationship and get attached to you. Do you really want to deal with the emotions of a girl who isn't done maturing yet? NO! It'll be absolutely horrible.
My advice: Wait until you're 17/18 before getting into the world of sex. You'll still have all the time in the world to play, but you won't have to deal with school drama, you'll be much more mature and capable of taking care of the consequences of sex, and who knows, you could find your life partner (and be old enough to pursue a decent non-high schoolish relationship).
Patience is a virtue, the same can be very true with sex.
WTH is it with people being upset at 'still' being virgins before they can even legally practice driving with a licensed adult in the front seat? Age of Consent laws aren't made with random, arbitrary numbers that someone draws out of a hat. Rouge is right-one is best served starting sex at a stage in their lives when they can deal with the possible consequences, both good and bad. At 13-14 you're just not equipped, either physically or emotionally.
And don't kid yourself--some families wouldn't be supportive. I knew a girl a few years back who got pregnant very early in high school and she got kicked out of home. She was also so immature she was planning herself a shower, the date of which was before she was even showing. Personally, the first night I stayed over with a man, when I was 28 by the way, my mother literally cried and 'couldn't' go to church the next morning (it was a Saturday night) because she couldn't figure out how to explain my absence.
Some will blame the second paragraph on the taboo about sex, and may have a point. But, in case those things do happen, a person needs the maturity of which the first paragraph speaks before diving in.
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