That "scar" is not actually a scar but is a normal base of the shaft of the penis. Why do you not just find a good site on masturbation and focus on that for a while. I doubt that either of you is yet ready to tell your parents they are about to be grandparents.

> Im 15 years old nearly 16 and this girls wants to have sex with me

> [Brandye} Why do you not just find a good site on masturbation and focus on that for a while. I doubt that either of you is yet ready to tell your parents they are about to be grandparents.

Here is the most informative site I have found on the subject:

http://www.jackinworld.com

There is a lot of information to be found, particularly if you do a search of the site using the index tree.

> i have tried to research something i have a scar along my penis it goes along the underside of my penis what is it?

It is hard to say based on the what you have said. If the "scar" is a ridge of skin that extends from the cleft to the top of the shaft then it is a part of the penis known as the "Frenulum" and it is thee most sensitive portion of the penis.

> we are both virgins is there anything which will make it more pleasureable for her?

Lots and lots of things. Where to begin..........

> also would going for a shower together be good so we could have foreplay in there?

Foreplay is generally good anywhere that is comfortable, private, and follows making out--lots of making out.

> also will it be better if i use some fingers to break her hymen so she is losened up?

There is much information on this if you look around the Board.

There is no one right answer to your question. It all depends--on her, your objectives, and how you both feel about it. I generally recommend that a woman take it upon herself to stretch the hymen and vaginal opening beginning a couple of weeks before the anticipated event. She can do this exercise daily by sitting in a bathtub partially filled with plain warm water and then using one finger to tug on the hymen and also the vaginal opening, holding the tension for several seconds before switching to each of the other three quadrants in turn. After several days and when she can insert two fingers, she should continue the exercise but using the fingers to pull in opposition.

Finally, I agree with Brandye, you are too young to be doing much more than kissing and cuddling. The body may be ready, but your mind has a long way to go before it is as mature as its container.

Funny how you say "she wants to spend the rest of her life with me." That implies that you might not want to spend the rest of your life with her.

Anyhow, if you're talking about lifetimes, wait a few years to have sex. Since the average lifespan in the U.S. is just under 80 years, what's the rush? Again, I'm going to mention that most relationships don't make it through high school. Of those that do, very few go on to successful marrages. With that (and your apparent lack of knowledge about sex) do you really want to risk getting her pregnant?

I know I don't want you to, and I'm not the person who'll be paying for the kid.

> i can understand what you are trying to say but myself and my girl are in love with each other (you may say love is an over used word but we are truely in love she wants to spend the rest of her life with me)

The problem with childhood maturation is that we more often than not do not know what we do not know. The hormones are raging and we "feel" the desire to be romantically and perhaps sexually active, yet it is a cruel twist of fate that while Mother Nature has given us the physical ability and desire, first, she has delayed by sometimes as much as eight years, our emotional and mental maturity. As one example, a person's brain does not fully develop until about our 21st year. The last part to mature is that part of the frontal cortex that permits us to understand and foresee the consequences of our (planned) actions!

Right now your hormones are rulling your head, yet if you do follow our recommendation to wait to have sex and take it on the faith that older wiser "been there done that" advise has some merit as evidenced by people seeking answers to questions here, then you will most likely appreciate having done so in a few years. I have no doubt that the two of you are in love, yet at fifteen, this teenage version of "love" is far different than that of a fully mature adult. At your age kids are generally hanging with boys and girls within a circle of friends. Dating should be about meeting and sampling as many individuals as possible in order to lean about the vast differences in personalities, quirks, likes, dislikes, and interests, that humanity has to offer. Dating should not stop with the first warm body that expresses an interest in us.

Teenage love affairs generally are a dime a dozen. Love comes and goes often lasting but weeks or months. Girlfriends and boyfriends come and go during this decade as should happen. I understand the urge, nay--the desire to express your love, sexually, yet you simply are not ready. What's more, your girlfriend will most likely have regrets in a few years for having lost her virginity too early in life.

Sex is rarely ever "perfect" the first, second, or tenth time. You are on a fools errand if you think this possible. It is perfectly understandable to want this special time to be fantastic, yet it is only attainable as a team effort over time by the two of you working together. Sex is not what one of you does to the other, rather, it is what each of you does for the other. There is a distinct difference. Also, making love is all about the outward expression of the love two people have for each other. So, while we can have sex for sex sake, it is not the be all end all to it. There is more, much more to it, that you have to mature into.

> should i use lubrication on the first time and how should i use it?

Yes. Also the second, third, fourth, and every time.

A woman's lubrication can be transferred to the penis and/or suplimental lubricaiton can be added. Often, a woman's supply of mucus is sufficient; sometimes not, this is a matter to evaluate each time.

> i know these are stupid questions but i want everything to be perfect for my girl

It has often been said that the only stupid question is the one not asked. What is stupid is when we receive requests for advice, information, or suggestions, only to have the questioner dismiss the answers.