[FONT="Palatino Linotype"]I am just looking to see if anyone would help give me an idea of what to expect for my first time. And maybe even some advice for what i/we could do to make it easier on me. I'm sure it hurts with every woman, but to give some idea about me....
For one: I am very tight, my hymen IS still intact, and seems to be rather flexible. When i've went to see a gynecologist, every time they tried to check me there, they had to stop. It hurt so much. So, if THAT hurt so much, what should i expect when he enters me? Will it feel anything like that? Also, with me being as tight as i am..he is 8x2.5"..shouldn't we do some things before penetration?
Also, how does anal feel for the first time? And also, isn't that embarrassing?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you.[/FONT]
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--like yours. In addition, if you click on the site's Home page you will find even more information.
There are several articles that talk about first time intercourse, please read these and the others and add the information to what you all ready know.
> I am just looking to see if anyone would help give me an idea of what to expect for my first time. And maybe even some advice for what i/we could do to make it easier on me.
It is impossible to tell you what you or anybody can actually expect. Why? Making love is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other in partnership and also depends to a great extent upon the the experience levels of the individuals involved, positions used, a woman's degree of arousal, excitement, and stress level, etc., et cetera, etc.
To make it easier, use the Woman Superior/Cowgirl position, and do not rush to the finish line--meaning, spend at least a half an hour fooling around and making out before ever having intercourse.
Spend time beforehand stretching the hymen and vaginal opening using the exercise described in one of the articles. Work together with your partner and learn to communicate and provide feedback to each other on how each of you is responding to the others caresses and for what you need now/next.
> I'm sure it hurts with every woman, but
Not necessarily. Many a hymen erodes away by the time a girl reaches her early to mid teens because of an active sports life. Some hymens are thick, others thin, some with one or more openings in the membrane, others not. No too are exactly alike. I recommend knowing what yours is like.
> So, if THAT hurt so much, what should i expect when he enters me?
Maybe a twinge of pain, maybe not. Maybe penetration will happen, maybe not. If you are unsuccessful, go to your doctor and ask him to quickly nick the hymen for you, essentially opening it. It is a quick and easy procedure.
> Also, with me being as tight as i am..he is 8x2.5"..shouldn't we do some things before penetration?
Now that is a leading question if I ever heard one. :) Please read the articles in the Index on all of this and all of the rest. Discuss what you have learned with each other.
Be sure you spend a lot of time arousing each other. A lot of guys do not understand that it takes a very long time by comparison to themselves for a woman to get turned on and warmed up--and wet!, and relaxed.
Both of you should read as much as possible on all of this, so, again, read the articles more than once and discuss what the two of you have learned, then apply the information as and when appropriate. Do not expect your first time, be it your first time ever or your first time with this particular partner to go without a hitch. Making love is also not a by the numbers activity, meaning do A, B, C, and Z will result. Making love is dynamic, changing and varying each time.
I would absolutely not engage in anal intercourse until you and your partner have plenty of experience with each other, have developed a certain comfort level and trust. If, after several months have pasted and you want to explore this aspect then do so after reading the article on this subject.
There are plenty of accounts on this site about it hurting only because people do not understand how to go about it correctly. Guys are often rough, thinking that this is part of the drama of sex play--it is not! Anal stimulation can be very arousing for both and need not be uncomfortable at all when care is taken to do it properly, be it just fingering or full penetration. There are also certain safety precautions to know and take. Many of us do not mind playing with toys/dildos and fingers, yet draw the line at having a penis enter.
Please do your reading assignment either together or separately. Discuss what you have learned and if either of you have questions, please do not hesitate to ask. We are here to help.
-doc
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;253306]Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--like yours. In addition, if you click on the site's Home page you will find even more information.
There are several articles that talk about first time intercourse, please these and the others and add the information to what you all ready know.
> I am just looking to see if anyone would help give me an idea of what to expect for my first time. And maybe even some advice for what i/we could do to make it easier on me.
It is impossible to tell you what you or anybody can actually expect. Why? Making love is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other in partnership and also depends to a great extent upon the the experience levels of the individuals involved, positions used, a woman's degree of arousal, excitement, and stress level, etc., et cetera, etc.
To make it easier, use the Woman Superior/Cowgirl position, and do not rush to the finish line--meaning, spend at least a half an hour fooling around and making out before ever having intercourse.
Spend time stretching the hymen and vaginal opening using the exercise described in one of the articles. Work together with your partner and learn to communicate and provide feedback to each other on how each of you is responding to the others caresses and for what you need now/next.
> I'm sure it hurts with every woman, but
Not necessarily. Many a hymen erodes away by the time a girl reaches her early to mid teens because of an active sports life. Some hymens are thick, others thin, some with one or more openings in the membrane, others not. No too are exactly alike. I recommend knowing what yours is like.
> So, if THAT hurt so much, what should i expect when he enters me?
Maybe a twinge of pain, maybe not. Maybe penetration will happen, maybe not. If you are unsuccessful, go to your doctor and ask him to quickly nick the hymen for you, essentially opening it. It is a quick and easy procedure.
> Also, with me being as tight as i am..he is 8x2.5"..shouldn't we do some things before penetration?
Now that is a leading question if I ever heard one. :) Please read the articles in the Index on all of this and all of the rest. Discuss what you have learned with each other.
Be sure you spend a lot of time arousing each other. A lot of guys do not understand that it takes a very long time by comparison to themselves for a woman to get turned on and warmed up--and wet!, and relaxed.
Both of you should read as much as possible on all of this, so, again, read the articles more than once and discuss what the two of you have learned, then apply the information as and when appropriate. Do not expect your first time, be it your first time ever or your first time with this particular partner to go without a hitch. Making love is also not a by the numbers activity, meaning do A, B, C, and Z will result. Making love is dynamic, changing and varying each time.
I would absolutely not engage in anal intercourse until you and your partner have plenty of experience with each other, have developed a certain comfort level and trust. If, after several months have pasted and you want to explore this aspect then do so after reading the article on this subject.
There are plenty of accounts on this site about it hurting only because people do not understand how to go about it correctly. Guys are often rough thinking that this is part of the drama of sex play--it is not! Anal stimulation can be very arousing for both and need not be uncomfortable at all when care is taken to do it properly, be it just fingering or full penetration. There are also certain safety precautions to know and take. Many of us do not mind playing with toys/dildos and fingers, yet draw the line at having a penis enter.
Please do your reading assignment either together or separately. Discuss what you have learned and if either of you have questions, please do not hesitate to ask. We are here to help.
-doc[/QUOTE]
Thanks for your answer Doc! :) And yes, i will be reading more into this. And also see that he does too.
I will be sure to come here for any further questions i have, or even for what he may have as well. Thank again! :)
Joy
The gynaecologist is the best person to consult on this. She is the one who has attempted the exam and is aware what was encountered. The question needs to be asked there as to why the penetration was so painful and whether the gyn can help alleviate that. A bit of education should have followed including both the physical and psychological preparation. The pain could indicate the tension of the exam or it could have indicated a more deep rooted problem.
This discussion with the doctor, or nurse, should take place before two inexperienced people try to correct this o their own. Early sex experience affects sex for a long time - as in the rest of your life.
And a note on the anal: I'd experiment with vaginal first. Don't think about anal until you're comfortable with your body, with sex, and until you're sure you really want it. It's not embarrassing when you're with someone yo trust, and who listens to what you're saying.
> > And a note on the anal:
Many times guys want to engage in anal intercourse because of the curiosity of it, and, because it is somewhat like sampling the forbidden fruit, so t speak. There are other reasons, of course, like domination and degrading a person during mock sex play. Done with the proper attitude these reasons are not bad; however, what many men and women fail to fully appreciate is that stimulating the anus, outside {rimming), and inside {along the sphincters), as well as the prostate gland in men, are extremely pleasurable embellishments and helps boost the intensity of orgasms as well as to trigger elusive ones. The key is in knowing when to include these areas in your arousal process. Bottom Line: Anal stimulation need not be all about penetration as in intercourse, more to the point, it is about pleasure and augmenting pleasure by involving the sensitive nerve endings in and around the area using fingers and toys.
> Many a hymen erodes away by the time a girl reaches her early to mid teens because of an active sports life.
I should have also included that using tampons and fingering during masturbation also can help open the passageway.
Success depends a lot on a woman's state of mind, and being relaxed--AND being very highly aroused. Seeing to the latter is a man's responsibility, although, as the one accepting his penis, you should not permit entrance until you are good and ready--and wet. Do not let him in his haste and excitement rush and cut corners at your expense.
If more lubrication seems appropriate, have a bottle handy. Also, for first time intercourse, I recommend applying a liberal amount to his penis from tip to stern. Incorporate this into your foreplay activities. It is also an excellent way to make certain he has been brought to the brink of a climax beforehand so that lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking are not required.
Now, having just said that, I believe it is a good idea not to have your man too close to a climax that first time when the two of you are preparing to open the vaginal entrance. It is important that he not lose his erection prematurely; and this can sometimes happen anyway as a result of repeatedly trying to push against the membrane or slip past it and applying lots of pressure to the base of the shaft and internal root structure. If he does happen to lose his erection, simply back step, return to making out, and rebuild it! Just because a fella's erection subsides does not mean the fun is over--consider the fun to be had reestablishing it!
> do not rush to the finish line--meaning, spend at least a half an hour fooling around and making out
Understand and then apply the various stages of a great make out session. The term "foreplay" has often become the catchall term and it is not. We begin a romantic encounter often with a hint hours or a day before. When the time has come, we begin with Necking, then move on to Petting, then revisit Necking, add Heavy Petting, and revisiting the previous two incorporating all of the activities into our arousal process. Foreplay activities follow with genital play. "Foreplay" is simply one of the stages, not the entire "book", so to speak. The name of this proverbial book is "How to make mad passionate love" and the "chapters" are each of these stages.
It is OK to rush and have hot passionate sex, after all this is why we have "Quickies"; however, all too often guys in their excitement and haste sometimes sidestep the very necessary steps of bringing their partner along with them on the climb up the arousal ladder. Make sure your guy knows and understands this. A half hour devoted to a great make out session prior to climaxing by whatever means is minimum. Time and desire permitting, there is everything right about making love for an hour or more before ever having a climax by whatever means.
> ..shouldn't we do some things before penetration?
I believe it is extremely important that both of you understand that not everything goes without a hitch. Intercourse may not happen on the first attempt or two. While this delay might be frustrating or exasperating, in the overall scheme of things, it is no big deal. Understand that some exploring, learning, and fine-tuning are required with every new partner and your adventures together. Making love is serious business, yet the two of you should not take it so seriously that you let setbacks interfere with having fun and expressing the love you have for each other. As I tell my new dance students, it is not that you made a mistake or flubbed up, it is how you recover and go on that is important. Guys more often than not wrongly place too much attention on the flub and not the recovery and this can ruin the mood.
Not mentioned, yet something to keep in the back of your mind are the possible difficulties a guy can sometimes experience with Performance Anxiety and especially Premature Ejaculation. Let him know in no uncertain terms that these are to be expected occasionally and that they too are no big deal in the overall scheme of things. SO WHAT if a man loses control and ejaculates while attempting to gain entry? SO WHAT if he is so overjoyed and excited that he climaxes upon entering, during the initial return stroke, or during the first few? Guys often take this as a personal failure when it really is not. He has to hear this and understand that he can learn control as the two of you learn and become better together. Both of you can continue the romance and enjoy one or more additional orgasms after a period of recovery.
All of the articles listed in the Index are important. Please do not selectively pick and choose. Knowledge is empowering. Encourage him to read the exchange of information in this thread, also.
Back to the doctor. Get your questions answered by someone who knows what is being discovered. I have been known to give a muscle relaxant and allow the young woman to sit for a while. The second try tells more than the first. With what you describe, the hymen is almost a non-issue (cannot tell without exam), so what is causing pain (ditto)?
[QUOTE=Brandye;253321]Back to the doctor. Get your questions answered by someone who knows what is being discovered. I have been known to give a muscle relaxant and allow the young woman to sit for a while. The second try tells more than the first. With what you describe, the hymen is almost a non-issue (cannot tell without exam), so what is causing pain (ditto)?[/QUOTE]
I have an appointment to see the gyn early next month, i will be asking the questions i've had in mind. But thanks for your answer :)
If you're asking me, what is causing the pain, it is when the gyn starts to put the speculum in. Doesn't feel like they get much of it at all in when it starts to hurt. Maybe an inch, i don't know. But yes, i do tend to get rather tensed up during the visit, especially when the gyn starts in that region.
[QUOTE=Rouge;253317]And a note on the anal: I'd experiment with vaginal first. Don't think about anal until you're comfortable with your body, with sex, and until you're sure you really want it. It's not embarrassing when you're with someone yo trust, and who listens to what you're saying.[/QUOTE]
Thanks Rouge :) Even though i am still a bit curious of it, i will talk to him, ask him if we can wait a little before trying that.
Thanks again :)
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;253318]> > And a note on the anal:
Many times guys want to engage in anal intercourse because of the curiosity of it, and, because it is somewhat like sampling the forbidden fruit, so t speak. There are other reasons, of course, like domination and degrading a person during mock sex play. Done with the proper attitude these reasons are not bad; however, what many men and women fail to fully appreciate is that stimulating the anus, outside {rimming), and inside {along the sphincters), as well as the prostate gland in men, are extremely pleasurable embellishments and helps boost the intensity of orgasms as well as to trigger elusive ones. The key is in knowing when to include these areas in your arousal process. Bottom Line: Anal stimulation need not be all about penetration as in intercourse, more to the point, it is about pleasure and augmenting pleasure by involving the sensitive nerve endings in and around the area using fingers and toys.
> Many a hymen erodes away by the time a girl reaches her early to mid teens because of an active sports life.
I should have also included that using tampons and fingering during masturbation also can help open the passageway.
Success depends a lot on a woman's state of mind, and being relaxed--AND being very highly aroused. Seeing to the latter is a man's responsibility, although, as the one accepting his penis, you should not permit entrance until you are good and ready--and wet. Do not let him in his haste and excitement rush and cut corners at your expense.
If more lubrication seems appropriate, have a bottle handy. Also, for first time intercourse, I recommend applying a liberal amount to his penis from tip to stern. Incorporate this into your foreplay activities. It is also an excellent way to make certain he has been brought to the brink of a climax beforehand so that lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking are not required.
Now, having just said that, I believe it is a good idea not to have your man too close to a climax that first time when the two of you are preparing to open the vaginal entrance. It is important that he not lose his erection prematurely; and this can sometimes happen anyway as a result of repeatedly trying to push against the membrane or slip past it and applying lots of pressure to the base of the shaft and internal root structure. If he does happen to lose his erection, simply back step, return to making out, and rebuild it! Just because a fella's erection subsides does not mean the fun is over--consider the fun to be had reestablishing it!
> do not rush to the finish line--meaning, spend at least a half an hour fooling around and making out
Understand and then apply the various stages of a great make out session. The term "foreplay" has often become the catchall term and it is not. We begin a romantic encounter often with a hint hours or a day before. When the time has come, we begin with Necking, then move on to Petting, then revisit Necking, add Heavy Petting, and revisiting the previous two incorporating all of the activities into our arousal process. Foreplay activities follow with genital play. "Foreplay" is simply one of the stages, not the entire "book", so to speak. The name of this proverbial book is "How to make mad passionate love" and the "chapters" are each of these stages.
It is OK to rush and have hot passionate sex, after all this is why we have "Quickies"; however, all too often guys in their excitement and haste sometimes sidestep the very necessary steps of bringing their partner along with them on the climb up the arousal ladder. Make sure your guy knows and understands this. A half hour devoted to a great make out session prior to climaxing by whatever means is minimum. Time and desire permitting, there is everything right about making love for an hour or more before ever having a climax by whatever means.
> ..shouldn't we do some things before penetration?
I believe it is extremely important that both of you understand that not everything goes without a hitch. Intercourse may not happen on the first attempt or two. While this delay might be frustrating or exasperating, in the overall scheme of things, it is no big deal. Understand that some exploring, learning, and fine-tuning are required with every new partner and your adventures together. Making love is serious business, yet the two of you should not take it so seriously that you let setbacks interfere with having fun and expressing the love you have for each other. As I tell my new dance students, it is not that you made a mistake or flubbed up, it is how you recover and go on that is important. Guys more often than not wrongly place too much attention on the flub and not the recovery and this can ruin the mood.
Not mentioned, yet something to keep in the back of your mind are the possible difficulties a guy can sometimes experience with Performance Anxiety and especially Premature Ejaculation. Let him know in no uncertain terms that these are to be expected occasionally and that they too are no big deal in the overall scheme of things. SO WHAT if a man loses control and ejaculates while attempting to gain entry? SO WHAT if he is so overjoyed and excited that he climaxes upon entering, during the initial return stroke, or during the first few? Guys often take this as a personal failure when it really is not. He has to hear this and understand that he can learn control as the two of you learn and become better together. Both of you can continue the romance and enjoy one or more additional orgasms after a period of recovery.
All of the articles listed in the Index are important. Please do not selectively pick and choose. Knowledge is empowering. Encourage him to read the exchange of information in this thread, also.[/QUOTE]
Thanks for the very informative answers, i really appreciate them! I will definitely look more into this, and learn what i need to know. Even though, he is not a virgin, but there are still things he doesn't know. So we will definitely read more into this, and learn what we don't already know. Thank you so much for your answers, Doc! :)
There are some doctors who do not use a speculum for the first gyn exam. That becomes a necessity for a pap smear but not usually for the initial exam. You and the doctor have much to talk about. It is unusual for me to even consider a speculum for the initial exam and if an intact hymen is found, it will not be used.
The initial exam is a time for education and there should be more talking than doing. See the sticky under women's health.
[QUOTE=Brandye;253334]There are some doctors who do not use a speculum for the first gyn exam. That becomes a necessity for a pap smear but not usually for the initial exam. You and the doctor have much to talk about. It is unusual for me to even consider a speculum for the initial exam and if an intact hymen is found, it will not be used.
The initial exam is a time for education and there should be more talking than doing. See the sticky under women's health.[/QUOTE]
I don't know what he used for sure, all i know is that it hurt. Come to think of it, i don't remember seeing a speculum when he tried to examine me. So, wouldn't that mean he was just using his finger(s)?
And also, i am pretty sure it is. But just wanting to be certain is all.. When i feel there, i can feel what seems like a tiny diaphragm, less - about an inch inside. When i slightly press on it, i can feel it sink in a little. That is my hymen, right? I don't feel any pain when i touch it, nor when i press on it a little. So, maybe sex won't be as bad or painful as i thought?
> When i feel there, i can feel what seems like a tiny diaphragm, less - about an inch inside.
Take a few minutes and do some exploring. There is no reason not to, male or female. Use a hand mirror and flash light or other light that will shine on the area adequately and learn what is where and what each part of your "pieces-parts" looks like.
When you read the article on first time intercourse you will learn that the best place to position the tip of the penis is adjacent to the edge of the hymen, between it and the vaginal wall. So, instead of applying undo pressure against the membrane, your boyfriend will be trying to slip past it. This is one reason the extra lube on him is beneficial. If your membrane has holes in it, another way might be to position the tip against the largest hole assuming more than one.
Please read the article that describes the exercise on how to stretch the vaginal opening and hymen. While not always successful, it certain is in many situations.
Something else to try is to finger the vaginal opening while masturbating and after becoming very aroused, in addition to doing the exercise by itself. There is no reason why you cannot learn what is causing your discomfort and how best to bypass it if possible. This is also useful information you can pass along to your doc. So, get a bottle of lubricant, apply it to your finger and learn what you can while at the same time having fun.
> he is not a virgin, but there are still things he doesn't know.
True enough. Even though I consider myself a well read lay person, the information passed along on this site continues to educate me.
Please read the article on "experience". The information pertains whether one or both of you are virgins, one is, or that this is the first time the two of you have been together. For each scenario there is a new Square One from which to begin and it is important for both of you to realize this. This is important: Experience equates to knowledge, not skill.
> Even though i am still a bit curious of it {anal), i will talk to him, ask him if we can wait a little before trying that.
As mentioned, I recommend waiting several months before considering penetration. Begin and proceed slowly. Get used to fingering or being fingered, and when comfortable with this after a period of time, consider inserting a finger up to the first or second knuckle. Do not involve toys until you are comfortable with and enjoy his fingers. Do not let a penis inside until you know and understand the ramifications and choose to do this, anyway.
If you have an interest in going beyond augmenting his orgasms with fingering, and/or toys, then explore massaging his prostate. All of this is outlined in the how-to article on the subject.
I have already started self exploration, and have a basic idea of how i look there. But yes, i would still be interested in continuing to learn more.
>So, instead of applying undo pressure against the membrane, your boyfriend will be trying to slip past it.
Meaning that he isn't supposed to 'break' the hymen? Also, if there were any 'holes' in mine, would i be able to feel them with my finger? Because i don't feel any..
Ok, even though i have been a little experimental, i have not tried that. But i will, see what is discomforting and not. Sounds like a really good idea, thank you!
I really like your answers, very helpful, and appreciated.
There is another aspect here - that you are tensing up when being examined by the doctor "in that area".
You really need to think about what you believe when it comes to sex and how you feel about your sexuality and the "not just for reproduction" concept thereof.
One thing you should be aware of is that when you are fully aroused, pain is not someting you will tend to feel. The blood singing in your veins tends to overload the system so you can't feel the pain as "pain".
Obviously the doctor's exam is not very arousing so your attitudes and fears are increasing your sense of dread and thence the feeling of pain will be heightened.
Think first, ask questions, think again and then go and do what you have decided to do.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;253353]There is another aspect here - that you are tensing up when being examined by the doctor "in that area".
You really need to think about what you believe when it comes to sex and how you feel about your sexuality and the "not just for reproduction" concept thereof.
One thing you should be aware of is that when you are fully aroused, pain is not someting you will tend to feel. The blood singing in your veins tends to overload the system so you can't feel the pain as "pain".
Obviously the doctor's exam is not very arousing so your attitudes and fears are increasing your sense of dread and thence the feeling of pain will be heightened.
Think first, ask questions, think again and then go and do what you have decided to do.[/QUOTE]
Thanks for your answer EvilEvilKitten. :)
And yes, i do tend to tense up during an examination(as i figure most women do). But i will remember that for my upcoming appointment.
As for not perceiving it as "pain", when fully aroused, i think i believe that. As i have sorta started experimenting a couple things to myself, i sorta believe that there should be less pain(if any at all)when i actually have intercourse.
Thanks again for your answer. :)
> > So, instead of applying undo pressure against the membrane, your boyfriend will be trying to slip past it.
> Meaning that he isn't supposed to 'break' the hymen?
Pressing against the membrane stretches it and this can cause pain both before it tears, and, as a result. Think of holding a piece of plastic wrap and poking it with a finger. First there is a depression as it stretches and then it breaks.
Because most membranes only partially obstruct the vaginal opening, I believe it is easier to position the tip of the penis between the hymen and the vaginal wall where it can slip past. The hymen will often tear as a result of the penis' movement against it. This is a more gentle way of going about things than direct pressure.
Also, if there were any 'holes' in mine, would i be able to feel them with my finger? Because i don't feel any.
Maybe yes, maybe no. You stand a better chance of discovery using a hand mirror and flashlight or other good light source. What is more relevant is in learning where the open edge of the membrane is so that when the time for first intercourse is about to happen, you know where to place the tip of his penis while using the Woman Superior/Cowgirl position.
>I believe it is easier to position the tip of the penis between the hymen and the vaginal wall where it can slip past.
Ok, and i agree. That does sound like a better way to go about it. Also seems less scary for me. When the time comes, i will talk to him about this, convince him to go about it this way.
>You stand a better chance of discovery using a hand mirror and flashlight or other good light source.
Those i have, and i will try it.
Thanks again for the help, Doc! :)
"Between the hymen and the vaginal wall." Back to the diagrams and the mirror. The hymen is generally an annular tissue circling the entrance to the vagina. Most commonly, there is a perforation at about the center. There are hymen with two perforations or irregularly shaped but it sounds like you are not quite certain about your owns bits and pieces. That visit with the doctor focused on education sounds more important with each post.
keep your verginity for the right man who loves you & you loves him as well, legal marriage is the best way of losing verginity,,,do not penetrate your vagina with any artificial organ,nor by fingers or any other tools,except with the legal organ of the right man who will marry you,,that is the exact natural way,,,do not try to do anal at all even with your legal partner,,,it is not a natural way of making love,and it is forbiden in many religions,you can do oral sex instead,or immaginary sex by closing eyes and immagine any type of sex you desire,or watching your favorite porn videos!! not more,,,waiting for your nice replies!!! Joy:):rolleyes:
Virginity is NOT some precious gift.
Virginity is something paternal societies use to control the sexuality of women so men can be sure that the children they raise are theirs and to assuage masculine fears that their wife is not going to be comparing him to others.
Yes, they dress this up with "love" and "respect you for saving yourself for him" yadda yadda yadda but really - if it were all that - MEN would prize their own virginity, which they don't.
Your sexuality and virginity are yours to own and to control when and where and with whomever you desire.