Im a virgin and me and my boyfriend want to go 'further' then what we usualy do. We've done the kissing and I've given in a hand-job, but nothing else. I kind of need advise on what to do for you're first time having sex and blow-jobs. He's always asking me for one, and I dont know how to give him one. Also, is there something wrong with me, but when he tries to finger me, I always make him stop because Im scared. I dont really know why, but something always tells me to make him stop because Im wet. And I understand that that's a good thing, but Im nervous.
Fri, 07/08/2005 - 18:55
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Virgin And I Need Help
Just Relax
Yeah if your're not TOTALLY comfortable with it, why settle for less? Like buttercup said, just talk to him about it, IN FACT my girlfriend and i are going KIND of through the same ordeal... COMMUNICATION is a MUST, we just Started REALLY talking about sex and things like that, and both of us are a bit more comfortable with the idea, ((more or so me )) So TALK AWAY!!!
WELL there is my two cents... Have Fun and be Safe
if you make it so that the subject of sex is as open and regular as you would talk to someone about shoes, or sports, then it wont be TOO big of a deal, yeah... and for the fingering you, if he HASNT been down there WHAT-so-ever, it makes it THAT much harder/painful ((i'm sorry if thats discouraging)) for you guys when u have sex, fingering is kind of like preparation, getting you a bit more "loosened up" so you guys can enjoy it a bit more
-Rick
There is nothing wrong w/ being nervous/scared... just dont do anything you aren't comfortable with. I would suggest becoming more comfortable w/ oral and him at least fingering you before you even consider having sex.
Just talk to your b/f and let him know what you want and set boundaries. If you aren't ready for sex but would like to have a little more foreplay, just say we can go this far but not this far. That way there is no confusion. I've been in situations where boundaries weren't really set and I had to stop things before they got too intimate b/c I wasn't sure if I could stop things once they've started. However, if you both know your limits, you can better control the situation I think.
Read thru these
First time 101
Fingering 101
BJ 101
And pretty much any other 101 topics that are in all the forums. Should have useful information.