This is what dating and bars are for. Go out and find yourself a nice "cougar" to show you the ropes.

Nothing is wrong with you. We all have our moments when we are ready or find the right person.

You have left out some info. Do you date? Do you want to have sex w/another? Do not have sex w/a partner for religious or personal beliefs? What is making you depressed?

I was a virgin until I was 29. I wanted to have sex but just never really got myself into a position to have it. I'd thought that maybe I would be a virgin forever or maybe I should find someone to have sex with just to get some experience. It used to scare me that I wouldn't be any good and I would get a reputation for being bad. This isn't a problem when your in your teens but when you're in your late 20s you'e meant to know what you're doing.

For me all this changed when I met an amazing woman who I am now engaged to. I had often wondered if I should tell my first that I was a virgin but decided not to. I thought that if she knew she would decide before we even did it that it would be bad, and I believe the brain is a very powerful thing.

I thought the first time was very bad but she didn't notice. The first time you have sex she will be so busy making sure she's going good that she won't be thinking about your performance.

Eventually after we both knew that I could satisfy her I told her. She was surprised (which is a compliment, I was obviously going ok), but also felt very special that I wanted to have sex with her and have never had it with anyone else.

So all in all, don't stress. You do need to make sure you're putting yourself in positions to meet people. But it will happen. There's so much good advice on here so read it and learn from it and you'll be fine. I think that someone in your position will probably be better than average because you are so concerned about it so will try extra hard.

Stuey

saddly @ 23 this is a problem for me too:(

I think...well I know my problem is that since i have gone this long without it just serves to make the problem worse, i cant even go out to meet women because i get to nervus and dont know what to say when i do meet them:confused:
hopfully i can get past my mental block's and get out there and have fun.

but seeing Stuey's post i does give me hope... would it be to much to ask how you meet your girl?

Question for the lady's, Would knowing that guy you were with was a virgin turn you off of him, of would it make you want to do it more...sort of a blank slate to mold how you want sort of thing?

fwew, glad thats off my chest!

Glad to hear I made you feel better Peter. I met my lady at work. I'd known her for about 18 months before we got an opportunity to get to know each other properly. I think this helped as she got to know the real me instead of the person who I think is the real me when I'm trying to impress girls. It's funny because now we talk about it and we both liked each other all along, it just took time to fall into place.

One final piece of advice I have is to not try too hard. You need to put yourself in a position to meet girls but you do not want to come across as desperate. Big turn off.

Stuey

It depends upon the age, Peter. If he was your age - not a big deal. If he was my age - I'd RUN!