My guy is one of those guys who can't 'cum' with me just giving him a bj. I accept this, and unless we get interrupted, everytime I give him head he cums.

But there was one time when no matter what we did, he didn't. I gave him head, handjob, and we even had sex. We had sex for so long that soon I was no longer wet and there fore his penius wouldn't go in. I remember feeling horriable because I hadn't been able to make him reach that point (I had though). He assured me it wasn't my fault and in fact we did it twice later that day and he came both times.

Sometimes they just don't cum. lol. I don't know if the amount of masturbation has anything to do with it though...I know if effects the time it takes for them to cum, but I doubt it effects them actually doing it.

There is no reason to accept the fact that your boyfriend has been unble to achieve a climax when gettng a bj. Your second sentence seems to me to contradict the one before. Please clarify.

If you read my posts you will find many of them address this very issue of not being able to achieve a climax at your partner's hand(s).

Here is the fix. Each and every one of us upon learning to masturbate, quickly works out a unique and specific set of movements that we then rely upon in order to have a climax. If we are off the mark a little we either do not climax, or, it isn't quite up to par. Particularly with men, ieven if we vary or modify the technique used to bring about our climaxes, the basics remain the same.

The key, therefore, is to teach each other how we masturbate. The best way to do this is to take our partner's hand in our own and move it according to what works best for us. In other words, teach each other how to mimic our movements by guiding each other's hand/fingers with our own over several sessions.

I believe that if the two of you teach each other and work on the information given, above, that it will take care of the concerns expressed in your last paragraph.

Good luck.

Take it as if it is a gift. Use it to your advantage and run with it.

Sometimes it can depend on what's on his mind. If my guy isn't concentrating, it's definately harder for him to get an erection and get satisfied.

My statement was contradicting...I meant that my guy can never achieve an orgasm by me just solely giving him head. There has to be other things done as well for him to achieve it.

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[QUOTE=Lass]My statement was contradicting...I meant that my guy can never achieve an orgasm by me just solely giving him head. There has to be other things done as well for him to achieve it.[/QUOTE]

Thank you for the clarifilcation.

This is quite often the case and is not something to really be concerned about. For example, let's say you can send shivers down his spine, make him squirm, moan, groan, tense up, etc., yet he just can't get beyond this to the trigger point--or perhaps more to the point, he is at the trigger point of a climax and it just wont happen. What most people do is as you suggest, do something else along with the oral and more often than not what that something is is to add stroking of the shaft to the mix of stimulation being given.

Do that as well, and for pretty much guaranteed results, rub/stroke a finger along the Frenulum {Y-shaped ridge of skin extending from the cleft to the upper end of the shaft). Pleasuring him with a combination of oral and stroking is a dynamic duo and will take him to nervana in short order!

Now for the next point:

[quote=KinkiKezz]if he has too many blowjobs does it decrease the chance of climax? it was terrible not being able to give him gd feelings. [/quote]

In and of themselves, a bj's are not much different than any other form of stimulation, so, no, too many of them will not decrease the chance of a climax any more than doing other things to his penis. I believe the problem is in that unless you mimic what he does himself when alone to bring about a climax, you will find that as intensely pleasurable as all these forms of caresses are, they just are not the correct "key" or "code" to unlock and set an orgasm free.

It is true and it is sometimes the case that when going for multiple orgasms the second or third (etc??) may become illusive and difficult to trigger. If and when this should happen, I recommend giving him a booster in the form of a prostate massage or to gently squeeze a testicle when he is at the brink of an orgasm. The latter requires some explanation.

Testicles are sensitive to impact more than pressure so a gentle squeeze will not hurt him. What this does when done properly is to create a mild ache that would otherwise be slightly annoying, but when done within this framework becomes very pleasurable. It's like the saying "there is a fine line between pain and pleasure". Both forms of stimulation act as a booster to the other forms of caresses you may be giving him. It's like lighting an afterburner on a jet engine or reving up a turbo on a gasoline engine. A prostate massage or a gentle squeeze of a testicle augment what he is feeling from other caresses and help jump start an illusive or difficult orgasm.

Before picking up a testicle and clamping down on it, I recommend learning just how much pressure to apply by practicing at a time before you plan to get romantic. Keep in mind that all you are after is to cause what he would consider an annoying little ache when he is not turned on. This same feeling experienced when he is on the brink of an orgasm is usually enough to make it happen when done at the same time you are doing other things to him that normally would bring it about yet for whatever reason this time just isn't.