Ok, so yesterday me and my girlfriend went WILD in bed, made me feel really good she said she had 5 orgasms, usually her bodies starts to hurt at 2, this was the first over two. My only problem the way I was able to do this, was because I masturbated twice yesterday. Normally I barely do daily I just wanted to last longer with her, plus she made me while before she went off to work.
I've been with a good number of women and have never had this problem before, but she is the tightest, wettest, and warmest girl i've ever been inside, so it feels REALLY good inside, so I usually have to be careful on how fast I go so I don't lose it. This is why I jacked off twice yesterday, anyways to the point, it took me SO much effort to be able to finally bust after 10-15 min of jacking off/her giving me head, along with the already 30 min of having sex. It was very frustating because normally our sex lasts 10 min not including foreplay. So I was just wondering if anyone had any suggestions to help me out in this, I don't mind jacking off twice, but it was beyond hard to get myself to bust.
Hrm, no suggestions huh?
Try masturbating once instead of twice a day.
I have written at least one Sticky post on the matter. If you are using intercourse and all that stroking as a way to build you arousal to the brink of an orgasm then you are going about it backwards. This is why you do foreplay. Stroking simply maintains an already preexisting high level of arousal, thrusting peaks this and triggers the climax. My recommendation is to hold off on intercourse until you are on the threshold of a climax yet can still maintain control in order to move around and get into position without coasting beyond the point of no return. If you want to reduce your sensitivity by masturbating then either do it earlier and/or do it once instead of twice.
An alternative to masturbating beforehand is to employ the squeeze technique and/or mastering the exercise described here.
No no, this was the first time i've ever masturbated twice in a day, and been able to go that long because of the sensitivity. I have entertained the idea of longer fore-play, but she gets INCREDIBLY sensitive down there after her first, and is unable to have anything less than a vaginal orgasm proceeding her first orgasm.
I usually do tend to masturbate once a day when i'm pretty sure i'll be able to do stuff with her that night, but i'm still really sensitive at this time. Which is why I was curious of any idea to be able to masturbate daily and find a way to orgasm quicker, or an alterate route of the same such ending.
> I have entertained the idea of longer fore-play, but she gets INCREDIBLY sensitive down there after her first, and is unable to have anything less than a vaginal orgasm proceeding her first orgasm.
One fix for her hyper-sensitivity is to fold the inner lips over the clitoris and to stimulate/rub it indirectly through them. You can also work on the lips which will also stimulate the clitoris indirectly. Lastly, there is the shaft. Even though it is buried, it can still be rubbed and massaged.
Her (multiple) orgasms are up to her. If she desires more, then help her have them independently of yours. If you want one or two more, then you can after the 10-30 minutes of recovery time it takes. If you want to enjoy mutual or nearly so orgasms, then work together to time one or two of hers to coincide with yours.
When I suggested more foreplay, I was primarily concerned about building your level of arousal this way rather than from lots of stroking (if this is what you have been doing). For her, just continue to make out perhaps tweaking her ongoing arousal with just a bit of genital stimulation here and there.
> I was curious of any idea to be able to masturbate daily and find a way to orgasm quicker, or an alterate route of the same such ending.
Asked and answered in my previous post.
* Timing your climax once sufficiently aroused (from foreplay) becomes a balancing act between knowing when you are about to climax (the purpose of the exercise) and being able to pause or apply the squeeze technique, or even pulling out for a moment or two until the sense of urgency subsides.
* If you have been brought to the brink of an orgasm through adequate foreplay, then you should be able to climax within the first stroke--or first few strokes. If you want to, then go for it. If you want to hold off for a bit, then use one of the techniques, above.
* The idea is to go in "hot" and then to temper your sensitivity as desired; rather than to go in cool and having to build it up from lots of stroking.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
Actually that worked out as far as the orgasm for me goes, I will try that. Although I have tried many of your suggestions for her to be less sensitive, she says she wishes to go longer, and we have tried pushing ourselves maybe to make our bodies feel like the can last longer, mine has a little, but her body hasn't improved at all.
I have tried like I said most if not all of your suggestions listed above, from reading them from previous posts you've made in other topics.
My only question is unless I read you wrong I don't believe you answered, which was; I really do enjoy intercourse as well as fore-play, but REALLY enjoyed going 10-15 min at least of intercourse this last time, she usually can't last more than 5-8 minutes. Although somehow she was able to this time, mostly because I felt like I didn't have to stop and slow down because I felt like I was going to orgasm, I was able to go 10-15 min of straight intercourse, which I really did enjoy. As well as her gaining more than the usual ammount of orgasms, because for the most part she is a penetration girl when it comes to orgasms.
> she says she wishes to go longer, and we have tried pushing ourselves maybe to make our bodies feel like the can last longer, mine has a little, but her body hasn't improved at all.
Hyper-sensitivity occurs in both the male and female of the species. It generally occurs in women just before the orgasm is triggered. With men, just after. In both cases the cause is from the release of a hormone by the brain and the condition only lasts a short time. Guys usually do not experience this when masturbating because we are not turned on as much as when we are in the company of our lover. When it happen with your wife, just switch tactics as I've described. With you, if you want more orgasms, then you will have to wait 10-30 minutes or so, whatever your personal down time is, and in this time your sensitivity should wain, so you'll be good to go, again after your refractory period has ended.
As for her first climax, if by vagina works, great. Now you have a back up to this should you require it.
While you are both in this refractory or down time period, just fall back and fool around by kissing and making out. Doing so will keep the fires of passion lit and it will be easy to get back to a rolling boil, later.
> My only question is unless I read you wrong I don't believe you answered, which was; I really do enjoy intercourse as well as fore-play, but REALLY enjoyed going 10-15 min at least of intercourse this last time, she usually can't last more than 5-8 minutes. Although somehow she was able to this time, mostly because I felt like I didn't have to stop and slow down because I felt like I was going to orgasm, I was able to go 10-15 min of straight intercourse, which I really did enjoy. As well as her gaining more than the usual amount of orgasms, because for the most part she is a penetration girl when it comes to orgasms.
Oops. Lemme try again....
When you say that she can only go 10-15 minutes, do you mean that she climaxes within this period of time; or, that she becomes sore, or tired, and does not want to continue? If the latter, you have the tools to help her have more if it is her wish. Just work indirectly on "it".
Ten-fifteen minutes is about max for many women. They report back here that if intercourse lasts any longer they become sore, bored, and tired. So, what is a guy and gal to do who wants to prolong the festivities? For the you, the guy, pull out every so often and peak your arousal, again, by hand and/or oral stimulation and more fooling around.
If your problem is the reverse, meaning you are climaxing before you want to, then utilize one of the PE fixes mentioned before.
I hope I have answered your concerns. IF NOT, just keep at and try different words!
Sensitivity is, and I don't see anyone else mentioning this, a FALSE signal. The nerves are stimulated beyond normal levels and the brain interprets this as "pain". It isn't "pain" just excess stimulation. How one deals with it, as one must if one wihses to become multi-orgasmic, is to recognise it, accept it and deal with it by relaxing into it, breathing deeply and calmly, then riding through ths period. Any input from the partner during this period should be a return to body worship. After this initial sensitivity - it becomes all wild orgasmic pleasure! Once you get the 'hang of it' this period becomes shortened to the point where it no longer exists.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;193855]How one deals with it, as one must if one wihses to become multi-orgasmic, is to recognise it, accept it and deal with it by relaxing into it, breathing deeply and calmly, then riding through ths period. Any input from the partner during this period should be a return to body worship. [/QUOTE]
So EEK your saying after the woman finishes and goes through that "sensitive" period, you stop sex and go back to foreplay till it has passed? or you just slow down and pay more attention to her body at this time without actually stopping sex?
Thanks doc that did answer my question this time even though you got my situation a tad mixed up. She is normally not able to go more than 5-8 minutes because she feels too "sore" i'm the one that enjoys to go a little longer. But I understand what you are saying and will give it a try.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;193855]Sensitivity is, and I don't see anyone else mentioning this, a FALSE signal. The nerves are stimulated beyond normal levels and the brain interprets this as "pain". It isn't "pain" just excess stimulation. How one deals with it, as one must if one wihses to become multi-orgasmic, is to recognise it, accept it and deal with it by relaxing into it, breathing deeply and calmly, then riding through ths period. Any input from the partner during this period should be a return to body worship. After this initial sensitivity - it becomes all wild orgasmic pleasure! Once you get the 'hang of it' this period becomes shortened to the point where it no longer exists.[/QUOTE]
I'll also have to try this, it would make more sense that it would be excess stimulation because the only time she really says it "hurts" is when I thrust too hard because i'm a little over average in size. She mostly says "It's too sensitive too feel much" or her muscles or tired something along those lines, so i'll have to give your idea a try as well, appreciate it!
Yariome, I have had vast experience with a wide variety of men and, yes, that does include generously endowed men. The trick there is to get her thoroughly aroused and to control where your penis is when it is inside of her. Avoid the cervix and stay below it. I simply cannot stress that last point enough, seeing as how it was a normal sized man who rode up above my cervix and sent me to the emergency room because of it when I was 16.
Stay below the cervix when going completely in.
Ok, i've looked through diagrams and I really think I might be hitting it, because I am 8", I try not to thrust too hard though. What positions should I avoid knowing my size so I don't hit that, we usually tend to do a variety of positions and finish with her on top facing me.
It is more a question of learning where you are when you're inside of her than one of positions. Kneel between her knees when she's on her back - it is the best position for educating men since they can see what they're doing and her responses to it. Keep one hand holding one of her hips at all times to keep you in synch with eachother. Variations on this position come later. This position, her on her back with him on all fours over her, also allows him to smoothly progess from kissing to caressing to body worship to cunnilingus to intercourse. Now that you have studied the diagrams, study with various women and practice. Encourage her to coach you and to clearly express her delight. You do not have to actually draw a line on your penis (this far for the G-Spot, this far for the posterior fornix) but you should have a good idea when enough becomes too much. Stay high when coming in from behind and let her control the action when using female superior.