The pain and excessive wetness is indicative of a vaginal infection; she probably should go to the doc just to be sure. Several minor problems can cause these issues (and all easly treated).

A lot of women think their vagina is weird-looking, but it's not up to you to reassure her constantly. It's HER issue. She might have unresolved sexual issues, so the best you can do is tell her you love her and you're willing to go as slow as she needs sex/ arousal foreplay to be.

Oh and don't talk about your ex's: [QUOTE]ive had many parners and have been able to stimulate there clit[/QUOTE] - that is definitely a turn off.

Also, if fingering is painful for her, you might consider oral.

> Also, if fingering is painful for her, you might consider oral.

When is it painful? How is it painful? These are very important questions because the discomfort she feels can either be actual physical irritation or caused by over stimulation of the nerves in the clitoris. It is therefore important to know the answers.

When you consider that the clitoris is like a penis in miniature, then all those sensitive nerve endings that guys have in the Glans are spaced much closer together in the tip of the clitoris, yet this is not all! It has been reported that females of the species have twice as many nerve endings in the tip of the clitoris so it is no wonder that over stimulation would be perceived as pain.

It really is not pain as such caused by injury. Women usually experience this shortly before reaching an orgasm. Men generally experience this immediately after climaxing. In both situations the genitals are too sensitive to touch for several minutes. When this happens to women, the fix is to stimulate the clitoris indirectly. This can be done by folding the labia over the clitoris and massaging it thru them. Indirect involvement can also be done by massaging the labia and/or tugging on them and/or just fingering adjacent areas of the Vulva that then work indirectly upon the clitoris.

If the pain she feels is of this type and not due to chafing or other minor skin irritations, the cause is the result of chemical releases in the brain. Just give the clitoris or the penis a rest for a few minutes before attempting to touch them again. Because this occurs most often before a climax in women, it is important to continue stimulating the clitoris, just not by direct contact. Guys will usually be able to stand being touched again seveal minutes later and because this happens at the start of our refractory period, it does not have the same impact.

Now, if the pain is actually the result of skin irritation, then make sure the clitoris and surrounding areas are well lubricated. Do not rub hard. It is important for her to tell you what to do and how to go about it so encourage her to give you feedback. Without it you stand a 50/50 chance of getting it wrong and with something so important who wants this as their "batting average"? You should also try this: Instead of actually rubbing the surface of the clitoris, try moving it around under your finger(s). You may find that this produces more than enough stimulation and is more pleasant than that created from actual friction.

> Also, if fingering is painful for her, you might consider oral.

When is it painful? How is it painful? These are very important questions because the discomfort she feels can be either actual physical irritation or caused by over stimulation of the nerves in the clitoris. It is therefore important to know the answers.

When you consider that the clitoris is like a penis in miniature, then all those sensitive nerve endings that guys have in the Glans are spaced much closer to gether in the tip of the clitoris, yet this is not all! It has been reported that females of the species have twice as many nerve endings in the tip of the clitoris so it is no wonder that over stimulation would be perceived as pain.

It really is not pain as such caused by injury. Women usually experience this shortly before reaching an orgasm. Men generally experience this immediately after climaxing. In both situations the genitals are too sensitive to touch for several minutes. When this happens to women, the fix is to stimulate the clitoris indirectly. This can be done by folding the labia over the clitoris and massaging it thru them. Indirect involvement can also be done by massaging the labia and/or tugging on them and/or just fingering adjacent areas of the Vulva that then work indirectly upon the clitoris.

If this the pain she feels is of this type and not due to chafing or other minor skin irritations, the cause is the result of chemical releases in the brain. Just give the clitoris or the penis a rest for a few minutes before attempting to touch them again. Because this occurs most often before a climax in women, it is important to continue stimulating the clitoris, just not by direct contact. Guys will usually be able to stand being touched again seveal minutes later and because this happens at the start of our refractory period, it does not have the same impact.

Now, if the pain is actually the result of skin irritation, then make sure the clitoris and surrounding areas are well lubricated. Do not rub hard. It is important for her to tell you what to do and how to go about it so encourage her to give you feedback. Without it you stand a 50/50 chance of getting it wrong and with something so important who wants this as their "batting average"? You should also try this: Instead of actually rubbing the surface of the clitoris, try moving it around under your finger(s). You may find that this produces more than enough stimulation and is more pleasant than that created from actual friction.