Hello,
Sorry if this is a repeat question. I've tried looking through the older posts and haven't found much to help out.
I am madly in love with my girlfriend, and although we have a mutually pleasurable sex life, I'd like to make it better for the both of us.
I have been trying to hit her G spot during intercourse and have found that she likes the pace to be fast in order to reach a vaginal orgasm. The problem is that all the fast pumping and stimulation manages to send me to orgasmland quicker than it does her. I've tried slowing down, but then we are just back to square 1 for her. It's not like I haven't made her orgasm through oral sex or that it doesn't feel good anyway when we do have sex, but I'd like to make her feel better, much better!
Is there anything to de-sensitize the penis (something like that goop you can put in your mouth to make canker sore stop hurting, is that even safe?)
Any suggestions would be welcomed, and appreciated.
Thanks!
I had the same trouble of cummin too quick and then the girl next door started jacking me off even before she had me down to do her "P...Y" with my mouth...Now it is really great and she is always ready to start really cumin hard and I can go as long almost as I /she wants.
[QUOTE=Quote (Brandye @ Oct. 14 2005,13:14)]Women tend to enjoy thrusting (or rubbing or whatever stimulation) right through the orgasm; men tend to prefer a strong push and ejaculating without further stimulation. We are just different in this.[/QUOTE]
I like to thrust right through my ejaculation. It makes it feel better. I dont just stop thrusting after I start ejaculating.
On the other note, try to change your postions. Obviously different positions will have different effects on you and your partner. I noticed that when Im on top and I put my partners legs over my shoulders I can last much longer and also I can stimulate the gspot much easier.
Try & control your beathing is what i would suggest take deep breathes & try to not get 2 over excited
Sorry buddy i made a similiar topic see "lasting longer tecniques"
some added tips have been posted there so have a read.
I am not sure of the validity of the tips yet but its worth a try hey ;)
You have to take your mind elsewhere. Think about work or football or something. Then, when you feel her orgasm it's your sign to go too. Or, if you're not ready yet, you can make her orgasm a few more times before you do.
A quarter of all women never have orgasms; about half do not reach orgasm through penile thrusting. That leaves only about a quarter of us who regularly experience orgasm as a result your pumping away. Congratulations to your g/f; she seems to be in the most blessed position.
It is highly unlike that the G-Spot (if, in fact, it exists) will be stimulated by the penis. Things are simply not shaped right. Most of the sexual stimulation from thrusting of the penis is from the clitoral hood moving up and down on the clitoris plus bumping against the male's pubic bone.
Women tend to enjoy thrusting (or rubbing or whatever stimulation) right through the orgasm; men tend to prefer a strong push and ejaculating without further stimulation. We are just different in this.
About the only "solution," if there is one, is getting her to a higher state of arousal before she takes you in. No reason to delay your response; I do not see where there is a real problem. I admire your drive to continually improve for both of you.
The problem with putting "goop' that numbs your penis will also numb anything else your penis touches, so it kinda backfires...