Hey folks! This is my first post on this site. I've read a good portion of the forums and I have to say I'm very glad to have stumbled onto this site and having now become a member.
My question concerns the PC muscle being used to withhold ejacualtion completely during orgasm. I would like to do this so I can just keep going after an orgasm and not have to wait out the refractory period (would also come in handy during sex). I know orgasm and ejaculation are separate events and I would like to be able actually make it so using said muscle. I consider my PC muscle to be in good shape, I have never tried to lift weights with it but I use them every time i masturbate (to great effect). Using the muscle I have been able to hold off ejaculation for maybe a few seconds (feels like an eternity) but the pressure starts to build up to a point that I can't hold it anymore and I ejaculate. Along with that I end up not enjoying my orgasm because I was so focused on squeezing my PC muscle.
I have read a fair number of posts on the PC muscle on this site, in one thread there was even a link to another site that spoke it but none actually addressed my particular issue. I apologize if I missed the thread that did.
Does anyone have experience with this/has been successful? If so what can I do?
Squeeze Technique
This is the main link I know about on here about this.
[QUOTE]Using the muscle I have been able to hold off ejaculation for maybe a few seconds (feels like an eternity) but the pressure starts to build up to a point that I can't hold it anymore and I ejaculate. Along with that I end up not enjoying my orgasm because I was so focused on squeezing my PC muscle.
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I know I've read in like Tantric sites/books about men who can orgasm w/out ejaculation, so that they just keep going and going.
Personally, 2 hrs of straight intercouse doesn't sound that appealing to me!
Plus like you said, if you are trying to hard...then you miss out on your own orgasm...and then what's the point? just to last a few seconds longer?
Thanks for your response
I have read that article by dancingdoc before but I read it again anyways. As I haven't yet had sex with anyone I can't really know if I need to do the start-stop technique. My main thing was just to see if this (withholding ejaculation using the muscle) was possible, and to hold it off completely, not just for a few seconds. With the amount of concentration involved I lose some pleasure from my orgasm but if I managed to stop ejaculation it wouldn't be for nothing and I can keep going onto the next.
I know there are many ways to prolong the time before having an orgasm (and prehaps that just may be the thing instead), but squeezing with the muscle, its just an instinctive thing for me to do now. So I was hoping to be able to use it to my advantage at the same time as opposed to doing another action that requires completely different thought during orgasm (like the squeeze technique or other, which is hard to do).
I have heard of applying pressure on the prostate to stop ejaculation. I know it can be done by applying pressure on the perineum or through the rectal wall. I'm having trouble with the latter but the perineum way seems less complicated or involved. I have tried pressing on that spot before but I am not sure if I was doing it right (penis covered as a precaution) plus I'm not sure how hard to press. I must have been using a fair amount of force because the spot was aching a bit. I don't feel comfortable pressing hard on delicate internal organs - especially if it hurts after. After that first time I didn't want to try it again.
Perhaps I will try the method again (more gently), but again if anyone has insight into the PC muscle thing your opinions are welcome.
(note: I have read the article on playing ball etc, so you dont need to post it. Reason why pressing on prostate from the rear isn't working is that I am still trying to find that bulge (I know where it is but its awfully crowded in there). Plus it is very hard to orient one's own hand to do it right (partner not available).
Ok, haven't been getting many responses. Does anyone have more insight into this issue or has tips for the prostate massage? (see previous posts in-thread for context)
Should I just be happy with what I can already achieve and scurry off?
No more of a clue then what is already posted.
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Personally, 2 hrs of straight intercouse doesn't sound that appealing to me![/QUOTE]
I'm in a workers union and take a break halfway through.